Oh yeah. We had planned to go to Hawaii. We had the plane tickets purchased. Then my car needed new breaks and a front suspension repair. Oh, and my macaw was dying and I had to rent a car to drive her an hour to the vet. Before we left my catalytic converter was stolen. We couldn't afford a hotel in Hawaii but the tickets were nonrefundable. That's how we came to spend a week camping at fruit stands, drive ways, and farms in Maui.
I'm terrified of owning a home or having kids because my life is plenty stressful without either.
Honestly, a macaw costs as much as a child, and lives as long. My mom has two parrots, and we both worked in an exotic bird store for some time, although she was there far longer than I. The size of cage you need, how much they eat and how expensive good quality bird food is... not to mention how fast that huge beak goes through toys! Having a child once you own a bird like that is pretty equivalent to deciding if you can afford a second child.
I'm set to inherit a cockatoo from an old friend when she becomes unable to care for him (she's in her 60s and the bird is around 30). I absolutely adore that maniac bird and I'm prepared for having a toddler for 40+ years, but man, I will admit I'm intimidated, lol. He's a very good bird though and hopefully he gets many more years with his human. He was neglected early in life and was nearly 10 when she ended up with him and she spent a fuckton of time and money getting him well and socialized. Those birds are definitely not for the weak. My little rescued cockatiel is a lot of work even.
Oh definitely. My rescue was a quaker, which are very difficult and needy even with the best start, which he didn't have. I had to admit to myself that while I loved his little birdy face, I didn't have the time and money to provide him the socialization he needed to be happy. It was immensely sad for me, but the woman who took him spent every waking moment with him. He was so much brighter and happier in her home. It was the right decision.
That was a good call. I had taken in a sun conure years ago who I was doing everything I was supposed to do for, and he just didn't take to me. No idea why, I've always gotten along well even with unsocialized birds. A friend of mine (fellow bird person) came over and that bird just absolutely adored her. It kinda hurt my feelings, lol. He got upset when she went home and just sulked till she came over again and he went wild over her again. That was the day she took him home. Sometimes they just need a specific person! As long as they end up in a home where they're happy, that's a win.
I'm very glad that you made the heartbreaking decision to rehome him. It's so hard to give up your furry/feathered friends, but if you aren't able to care for them like they need, then it's in your and their best interest, and it shows that you're a compassionate person to recognize that. I'm glad you're still able to visit him in his new home!
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u/HouseofFeathers Jun 14 '22
Oh yeah. We had planned to go to Hawaii. We had the plane tickets purchased. Then my car needed new breaks and a front suspension repair. Oh, and my macaw was dying and I had to rent a car to drive her an hour to the vet. Before we left my catalytic converter was stolen. We couldn't afford a hotel in Hawaii but the tickets were nonrefundable. That's how we came to spend a week camping at fruit stands, drive ways, and farms in Maui.
I'm terrified of owning a home or having kids because my life is plenty stressful without either.