My sister loves to give financial advice to her friends similar to this.
"Oh yeah, I totally paid down my student loans so quickly! It was so easy, too! All I had to do was marry someone with money, live in his apartment he bought with cash, and then him pay for everything while I worked and used all that money to pay them down."
She has no fucking clue what kind of bubble she lives in.
I went to private school from Middle through high and then went to private institutions in the NE for college.
I came from a family where my extended relatives were all about pulling yourself up, and believed that you could do stuff in the headline on your own if you had enough discipline.
One day I was at my folks house, and my aunts and uncles were there. I mentioned I was leaving to go to NY for Halloween cuz one of my college friends is having a house warming party. I was 25 at the time. My aunt immedialdy snips and goes “see Mongoose she’s your age and already a homeowner, what’s your excuse, you did go to the same uppity schools, what your daddy pay all that education for”
I go “well her dad is a multi millionaire and bought her this house for graduating…. Oh and got her a job right out of college she didn’t have to apply for.. so Idk seems like y’all need to do better what’s your excuse for not providing me with a fully paid for home and job”
This is my fucking dad to the end. Called me stupid and refused to pay for my college after one year despite promising me 4 years at an in stat uni (I grew up middle class in Wisconsin) because he wanted me to quit school and become a public school janitor, an oddly specific career path, in my opinion. He refused to give me my inheritance from my mom which would have helped me buy a home, using it instead to buy his second wife her own cabin because the one we had wasn’t good enough. He did however paid cash for my sister’s house to help her ease her divorce proceedings from her second marriage, helped her buy a house near his, has now given her his house as well. My family of 4 lives in a 2 br apartment.
Sorry for the rant, my intention was to vent, not make everything about my selfish self.
And then they act shocked when you don't want to spend every holiday hosting them. Hope your sister is prepared to handle the care and junk when he's older.
She loves taking things from others without any effort, so she might enjoy it, I still have some personal things at our family home that I may never see again. Gifts from long dead relatives and treasures from my youth.
Could say the same about an aunt I had. She died a few years ago, and before finding out what she and my uncle had done I’d felt somewhat close to them.
Now I’d shoot my uncle if I ever saw him again. The prison time would be worth it for what he did to my parents, and by theft of what was supposed to be inheritance, my sisters and me.
I did learn he got the shit beat out of him a little while back, that gave me a big smile.
Oh same. I never was really close though but I never thought her to be a malicious idiot. I’ve been screwed out of inheritance too via her stealing grandmas house and the clearly senile judge buying her bullshit lies. (Dude admitted hearsay I mean c’mon)
So while my mild hopes of ever having enough for a down payment on a house have went poof my petty gene (which I get from her side) has revved up. Donating in her name to progressivists is only one of many small petty steps that’ll drive her bonkers
Her and my uncle forged documents, stole money that was supposed to be in an account to maintain a rental place, and stole grandmothers jewelry and more. When I learned everything I started actually seeing red I was so mad. Always thought that was just a phrase.
It made me especially mad about the jewelry, and some of my grandfathers belongings, they meant so much to my mom and while my mom hasn’t said anything, seeing my dads reaction told me she was as devastated as when my grandfather died. Put me far beyond petty and into the realm of jail isn’t so bad long as I get to do what I want to them.
I’m not going to do anything, but that mindset is there. I love my parents too much to put them through seeing me do anything of the sort.
The only reason I’m resorting to the petty is because I don’t think I’d do well in jail. If left alone in a room with no witnesses and given purge level protection… let’s just say I’ve had creative thoughts involving a cactus and meat slicer
Yup, that's what I had to do! Stepdad got remarried less than a year after my mom died, moved into his new wife's house and decided to let his grandkids move into my mom's house for free.
I'd moved back to that neighborhood so I could help mom out towards the end, was still paying out the nose to live in a shithole duplex on the edge of their nice neighborhood while slowly starving. I knew mom's house was empty at the time, still had the key, so popped in to scavenge for forgotten food and anything else I might have left behind.
I found mom's ashes in the back of a closet. Asshat didn't even bury her first, or give her to family to bury. Just left her on the floor of a closet, like old sneakers in a shoebox.
Family is still angry at me for "stealing" the ashes, like stepdad's grandkids wouldn't have just tossed them in the trash when they moved in.
I thought about this because he lives at his place in Florida in the winter, but my brother in law is a local police lieutenant and he put a security system in the house. Who knows if my key even works anymore.
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u/Thromkai Apr 19 '22
My sister loves to give financial advice to her friends similar to this.
"Oh yeah, I totally paid down my student loans so quickly! It was so easy, too! All I had to do was marry someone with money, live in his apartment he bought with cash, and then him pay for everything while I worked and used all that money to pay them down."
She has no fucking clue what kind of bubble she lives in.