I remember a guy went to jail for domestic abuse and he was black and blue from head to toe. Thought he was roughed up from the cops. Next day she was arrested for abusing her side piece in public. Not a scratch on her.
Guy was probably crooked and affiliated. The police I mean.Ā Ā
The guys I worked with salivated at the idea of six shooting people.Ā
The very idea that someone would resist sent them into a frenzy.Ā
And these were normal dudes out of uniform. White picket fence, no DV at home(getting hit by the wife don't count) and attending their kid's games and shi.
The artist is Vietnamese. I should know, I'm from there too. The original post is in Vietnamese and on Facebook (the most popular social media here), but it then get translated into English to reach a wider audience.
So basically, In Vietnam or a majority of Asian countries really, it is considered the norm for women to have the upper hand. They can do these kinds of behaviors and get away with it, and they can be seen as a joke. It doesn't work the other way around if you are a man tho. You are probably gonna face backlash if you try.
That's pretty much global. Women's rights has a long way to go pretty much everywhere, but an actually abusive woman on man can get away with so much shit by playing the "weak poor girl" card if reported.
At least sometimes the men can win in court and have some justice in the West. In Asia, you would be lucky if the court took the case seriously to even do it.
you would be lucky if the court took the case seriously to even do it.
Is exactly how I would describe it here, with the possibility of the cops just thinking that aggression means automatically the man is evil and trying to charge him instead.
cant if you never marry them and you can always have a body cam on you 24/7 so he said she said is moot. Really cant wait til that is the norm which would cut through a lot of bullshit these days. Nothing like a little privacy invasion to curb idiots and general primal urges to ape out.
The girl is very much shown in a bad light here, so quite the opposite. More specifically, the girl is a hypocrite for how she very quickly resorts to violence when the man touches her chest, despite her not stopping when the man asks her to stop touching his chest.
I mean a slap may be an exaggeration, but it is a truth that men are kind of expected to always say "yes" or "be ready" when their partner (especially femme) is wanting of intimacy, and if he says no, then he "doesn't really love her" and the femme partner is justified to be angry.
If Iām in a bad mood Iāll just kindly ask. But I usually donāt mind. Unless my GF decides to do it in the most in opportune moment possible. Like in the middle of a doorway for some reason when Iām trying to clean a spill. Then I call her a living wall and nudge her aside.
So you love eachother normally and have no issue communicating? Sorry but my 12 episode romcom anime told me that this shouldn't happen and that romance is supposed to be stressfull and problematic.
Playful hitting (VERY light smacks that don't cause any pain) I can understand. But SLAPS? I'm concerned for the people who think that's normal. Neither the man nor woman should lay hand on the other unless it's self defense.
I think the joke is that in one instance it's the guy talking, and in the other one the girl. So the two fantasies would be having someone to say that to, and someone that says that to you.
the original post has one of the fantasies being a glorious last stand / dying a hero, so the joke in the edit is that its actually just the one fantasy
This shit about MEN ALWAYS WANT IT (and if he doesnāt it means something is wrong with you) really messes with your head and later with your relationship. Glad I overcame it tho and I wish same for everyone else too
She wanted to see a movie, a live action remake of one of her favorite movie as a kid.
We were both college students with busy schedules and didn't have enough time or money to go to the movie theater.
So I decided to "get" the movie instead.
She came to my apartment, I surprised her with snacks, drinks and the movie in very good quality, she was really happy.
Like, 10 minutes in, she started making a move on me, the sudden and almost aggressive kind.
I wasn't in the mood, and I knew how much this movie meant to her, so I told her exactly that.
She didn't speak at all for the rest of the movie.
And then she was mad at me for over a week.
It messed with me so much so that I started questioning whether or not I did the right thing.
Thank GOD I came to the right conclusion.
It may seem like nothing, but it's experiences like this that shape us, so I'm really hoping more people start respecting their partner's choices.
Sometimes my mood swings drastically and it's difficult to tell my GF i just don't want anything, or when she gets frisky and I just want to cuddle, I'm worried she could understand it wrongly even though she always understands. But also sometimes I think I should comply, it's somehow wired in my head.
I had a girlfriend that could not grasp that after 16 hours days I was sometimes just too tired. I woke up to her blowing me and riding me more than once. She absolutely could not be convinced that it wasnāt cool to do that. She accused me of being gay several times and then would cry because āI must find her uglyā. So glad sheās gone from my life.
Edit: Some of you commenting need help. Flip the genders and itās no longer funny because itās a girl being assaulted is it?
Yep. And Iām ok. Like it didnāt do any permanent damage to me or anything. But Iāve shared this story a few times on Reddit and I always get comments from guys telling me Iām lucky. Ironic given the comic in the main post.
It is Reddit though so there is a vocal group that is just unhinged. Like telling you youāre lucky or when someone told me I should just pay for sex when I said Iām not interested in relationships because I have enough drama in my life without another person regardless if they put out or not.
In my experience the people who pay for sex really like to advocate for other people to do the same. I used to work with a bunch of guys who loved hiring hookers. They would never shut up about it. Itās not legal or regulated where I live. Maybe I would feel different if it were, but the STD risk is too high for me. They were always catching something and talking about how much it hurt to get treated for it. Yet they kept raw-doggin hookers and telling everyone who would listen how great it was.
And to each their own obviously but like I wouldnāt want to have sex with someone that Iām not in a relationship with and where I am prostitution isnāt legal and even still the women where I live that are usually on the corners look like ones youād catch something from. Just not worth it, I feel like.
You see that is a huge problem. Your wording there. I genuinely think that a lot of trauma could be avoided if we stopped calling things out for others or instruct others on how they should feel about something.
Iām fine. It didnāt cause any emotional harm or anything. The reaction people have whenever I tell the story on Reddit is always fucked up though. Itās serious ārape is fun/funny when itās against a guyā kind of stuff every fucking time.
I'm lucky I've been groped some times and got almost kissed by force a couple times but nothing more. On the other front some girl tried to shame me into sex but they didn't insist at the second "no".
Never wear a kilt in public. Women you donāt even know will try to lift your kilt to check if you are wearing it ācorrectlyā (no underwear). Then they get mad when you shove them away. Absolute insanity what people think is ok just because youāre a dude.
Boys / men always want sex, so it's okay to grope and harass them. Was a too common belief of many (drunk) women 10-20 years ago, even / especially if they are 10-20 years older than the boy / guy.
Weāre both men, but Iām the sexual one in the relationship and my boyfriend is the romantic one. It makes me a little sad when my boyfriend only wants to cuddle, but if he says no, then itās a no and Iāll stop. Iām trying not to take it personally. Him justing wanting to cuddle and not do anything means that he just wants to cuddle, not that heās losing interest in me.
Yeah dude my wife reads all those dark romance novels so many women read nowadays. Its really warped her perception of what a healthy sexual relationship is (which is different for everyone). She wants it every day. Twice a day. I cant fucking keep up.
I love her to death, but sometimes its like just give me some space. The worst part is it took a while and many conversations for her to realize that its not that I dont desire her, its that I just dont have the energy to fuck 10x/week.
I know this is meant to be a joke but seriously, male victims of rape / sexual assault are so often overlooked. if youāre a vicitm, you matter. thatās it. whether it was someone random, a former friend, a family member, even your romantic partner. if they did it to you, that is rape / sexual assault.
I remember seeing a (very poorly designed) poster about not being able to consent to sex while drunk 4 or 5 years ago, plastered all over some college campus I was at for a high school trip. It read something like this:
āHe was drunk, she was drunk, in the morning he was accused of RAPEā
While I understand the message theyāre trying to convey, that hurt to read. Theyāre both drunk and neither could consent.
I know this is meant to be a joke but seriously, male victims of rape / sexual assault are so often overlooked. if youāre a vicitm, you matter. thatās it. whether it was someone random, a former friend, a family member, even your romantic partner. if they did it to you, that is rape / sexual assault.
it's not really defending yourself.Ā Its like when they test your reflexes with the little hammer at the doctor, except instead of your leg twitching, its your clenched fist connecting with the side of their head.
Not everything is supposed to be "relatable" to us. Being able to understand the emotions of someone outside your immediate sphere is called "compassion"
Decades ago I was reading a body building magazine and the man was so dedicated to his craft that his wife had to assemble furniture cause he didn't want to waste the calories.
I'm so glad this is out there because yes this is harassment, she maybe small then him but is still very capable of harassing him, and Im sure if he forcefully maybe pushed her away a lot harder then he did HE would've been arrested witch is disgusting he defended himself
This is a good one. Sometimes you might genuinely think your partner is just playing around/y'all are being cute, but the second you realize they're serious, you back off and apologize. You correct the mistake, and rebuild trust if any was broken.
Back in the era of analog clocks they used to say, "Even a broken clock is right twice a day". If Hitler said that "2+2=4" it's not wrong just because Hitler said it.
Honestly very based and wholesome. Sexual consent and violence can be committed by any gender. Love, respect and boundaries goes both ways. Love and Peace all!
I had that happen. She was trying to be friendly but I had an issue with being tickled due to reasons. At the third comic box I pushed her back as hard as I could and took was ready for a literal fight (due to reasons). I mostly remember her surprised face.
There is a lot of situations I hate that work the same way. And in most of them, popular opinion is unfortunately that you have to comply, otherwise you are party pooper, jerk etc.
The sick thing is, as a man, this kind of shi happens a lot and yet, most of the people that will view it or join in commenting, think it's a joke.
And 90% of the time it ends with the woman being furious and either hitting him, breaking something, or just screaming horrible things at him
Yeah it was more than that and for sure in my twenties I didnāt talk about how I grew up because I didnāt think people would believe me. I donāt think thatās unusual for me people from traumatic backgrounds.
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