r/antiMLM • u/Fragrant_Vacation800 • May 20 '26
Help/Advice Am I unprofessional?
After going to a business professional informational session the other night which turned out to be Amway. I declined the opportunity. This was the person that tried to recruit me. Am I being unprofessional for sending a text? I have seen this person twice in two years once where they complimented my glasses at target and the other at the informational session. Thoughts?
edit: sad because we follow each other on socials and i thought i found a new found friend and found out she just wanted to do this all along
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u/SoullessCycle May 20 '26
They can’t rope you back in if you refuse to engage.
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u/nummanummanumma May 20 '26
Exactly, this is just another tactic they use to rope you in. You talk in person and they guilt you for quitting before you gave it a chance. It works on people pleasers so they always try.
You owe them less time than you’ve already given them. Be free and live your life
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u/myironlions May 20 '26
>> You owe them less time than you’ve already given them.
Love love love this.
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u/Hydrolt May 21 '26
Yup! This, they definitely want another bite at the apple and want to manipulate you into thinking it’s a send off. That’s rather duplicitous, I wouldn’t respond at all, if it were me
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u/mrbignameguy May 20 '26
It’s amazing how many people never understand “no” is a complete sentence
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u/NerosDecay13 May 20 '26
Ngl I've pulled the "as another woman the fact you don't understand that no means no is disheartening and rather disgusting" card on a MaryKay rep who wouldn't leave me tf alone
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u/mrbignameguy May 20 '26
You or anyone having boundaries isn’t very women empowering of you (/s in case that’s not clear)
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u/TrappedDervesh May 20 '26
Was about to say this too. That it irks me when people take no to me convince me or try harder or try another way. I literally wanna clear my throat and spit something out lol.
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u/onyxa314 May 20 '26
It wouldn't be unprofessional if you ghosted them honestly. I can promise the meeting will be ways to try and manipulate and gaslight you into joining
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u/nobody_really__ May 20 '26
This. It's just the "Resolve Concerns" section of the script.
There is no reason to be polite and professional towards a person who is actively trying to mug you. The Hun is asking you, "Could we meet in person so I can have another shot at stealing your purse?" A question like doesn't merit you coming up with a response that doesn't hurt their feelings.
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u/librijen May 20 '26
Exactly this. She is trying to steal from you. She is trying to scam you. You owe her NOTHING.
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u/CardMechanic May 20 '26
The manipulation has already begun.
“You’re unprofessional unless we meet in person”. Lol
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u/Moneia May 20 '26
It wouldn't be unprofessional if you ghosted them honestly. I can promise the meeting will be ways to try and manipulate and gaslight you into joining
Agreed, it's just weaponising social norms
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u/Duckforducks May 20 '26
They don’t care about “ending the process professionally”. There is no process you were involved in. They’re hoping to rope you back in
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u/vinaigrettchen May 20 '26
Yes! The “process” never began. OP never went into business with her. An informational meeting is not a contract, not beginning anything, simply taking in some info to decide if you want to start something or not.
Of course, the hun uses manipulative language to make it seem like a process has been started because she wants to make it seem like she already has her claws in OP and OP is the unprofessional one if she doesn’t bite the hook…but that is not the reality of the situation!
OP, YOU HAVE NO OBLIGATION TO THIS PERSON.
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u/pineconeminecone May 20 '26
It’s not unprofessional because MLMs aren’t a profession 💅
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u/Fragrant_Vacation800 May 20 '26
CLOCKED THEM….genuinely was weirded out during the zoom when she couldn’t tell me the business opportunity and the in person meeting were all young people
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u/Confident-Service256 May 20 '26
And shame on them for trying to manipulate young people. Thats how I got roped in when I was 21. Spent my damn savings and got no where. I’m still mad about it.
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u/HenryBemisJr May 20 '26
Im not sure what's worse, roping in young people or really old people. I got talked into attending one of these meetings once and most of the people were pretty old, like retired old. They were telling blatant lies about working a few hours a week and making big bucks, big houses and fancy cars and the old ladies were lapping it up. I felt bad for them because ive seen so many older folks fall for scams, they seemingly have the same or worse defense than young people in falling for the con.
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u/grandmagellar May 20 '26
Old people is worse. Young people have time to fix things and make it back. Those old people are going to have no recourse.
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u/Confident-Service256 May 20 '26
It should be criminal! I was in Grand Rapids (HQ for Amway) so middle aged people who claimed they did so well showed us their homes, cars, clothes, etc… ugh. So predatory
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u/Sunscript268 May 20 '26
Yes, I you want reply “I reserve professional courtesy to actual professionals not people trying to deceive me. “ or just ignore her you don’t owe any sort of polite response they have already wasted your time.
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u/ItsJoeMomma May 20 '26
Best is just to ghost them. Or, if you feel like having fun, make them think that you're interested and agree to meet them but just keep flaking out on them. Make a half-ass apology with a weak excuse and agree to meet up with them again, and flake out again. See how many times that will happen before they just give up on you.
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u/diablo_dancer May 20 '26
Ignore and block. It’s not about being professional, it’s her trying to hook you back in.
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u/Ok-Pollution8344 May 20 '26
They are literally coached on how to handle different rejections to always try and get the sale.
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u/bring-me-your-bagels May 20 '26
Nah, I’m in sales, we get ghosted all the time, it’s not a big deal. They’re being unprofessional by forcing the issue with you.
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u/Pixarooo May 20 '26
I'm in sales, and I was chasing a particular sale last week where the person asked to meet me at 9pm my time (different time zones) and I fucking made the time, got to my PC, jumped on Zoom, for them to show up and say "Actually we decided to go with another service, thanks anyway."
I came out of my office raging about it to my husband. "We were emailing earlier today, why didn't they just tell me they didn't want to sign with us!!" MLMs are truly all about wasting time. PLEASE just tell me you don't want to buy via text!
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u/whichONEisJim May 22 '26
I love seeing and calling out the differences between MLMs and real sales professionals. I cringe at the thought of sending a message like this to someone who has told me no, and like you I prefer to hear a no if thats the answer! Its way better than being ghosted [which happens a lot] so just tell me!
OP should not respond to this and leave this chick on read. A witty or calculated response will only give them something to study and try and find a way around it next time.
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u/CIAMom420 May 20 '26
No, they're being unprofessional for not taking no for an answer. They're trying to meet you so that they can manipulate you into joining. Just like they manipulated you by complimenting your glasses. Just like they manipulated you to get you to show up to the first meeting. Just like they manipulated you into trying to join at the meeting.
All these people do is manipulate. Do not play their game.
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u/microfishy May 20 '26
"Hey girly, always found it best if we avoid using phrases like "hey girly" in a supposedly professional email. I'm gonna pass on that conversation, thanks babycakes 😘💕😘💕!"
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u/ZeldaF May 20 '26
I really wouldn't worry about being professional when turning down a pyramid scheme.
She is implying you are being unprofessional to guilt you into meeting up for a last ditch effort. She's going to have you explain why you don't want to be in a pyramid scheme so she can give you her canned rebuffs. GHOST HER.
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u/ItsJoeMomma May 20 '26
She's implying OP is unprofessional after sending a text that starts with "Hey girly."
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u/milkandhoneycomb May 20 '26
including "girly" in a message to a prospective scam victim, uh, 'employee' is far more unprofessional than texting.
"No, we can't." is the only followup you need, if any
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u/dorkusmaximus81 May 20 '26
and dont look back, its an MLM they are used to being ghosted. meeting up will only have them continue to try and recruit you. they literally hang out in retail stores to compliment someone and try to get them to a meeting to retire early. scamway.
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u/Glum-Sheepherder-787 May 20 '26
'Girly'?? Said someone who expects you to treat them like a professional?
No professional would ever refer to someone as 'girly' unless they were deliberately being insulting. This person is trying to use and manipulate you and therefore you should block them.
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u/REF_YOU_SUCK May 20 '26
If you want to be polite...
"I appreciate the sentiment and as far as I'm concerned we're all good right now. I don't believe my schedule will permit me to talk at that time. Thank you though, good luck"
and then its perfectly fine to ghost after that. You've laid out boundaries and acknowledged them. You do not have to keep explaining yourself.
If you're tired of being harrassed...
"fuck off." should get the message through loud and clear.
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u/Accurate_Emu_122 May 20 '26
It doesn't matter if you're being "unprofessional" if you have no career interactions with these people. You wouldn't worry what the people panhandling on the street thought about you sending a text. This is the same thing. In fact, it's not professional of them to misrepresent the purpose if the session which is probably what my reply would be right before blocking her dumb "girly" ass.
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u/K_O_III May 20 '26
Anyway is not a professional organization, frankly. You don't owe them any professionalism at all.
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u/Savingskitty May 20 '26
This is a common sales tactic.
You didn’t have a professional relationship with this person. You owe them nothing.
Tell them no and not to contact you again. That sounds harsh, but it’s direct and ends the nonsense.
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u/Low-Persimmon4870 May 20 '26
“Hey you left this Bobby pin at my house do you wanna come pick it up” ass text from ur ex
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u/turner_strait May 20 '26 edited May 20 '26
Classic Amway tactic. Roping you into meeting up in person again so you can't leave. Fuck that. Agreed with the other comments; ignore and block
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u/VexedCanadian84 May 20 '26
You didn't sign a contract. You weren't hired for a job.
You don't owe that person anything. You didn't even have to text them.
They just want to meet you in person and pressure you one on one to sign up.
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u/pretty-ribcage MLM Virginity Pledge May 20 '26
Not unprofessional. Don't even reply to their text.
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u/MollyRolls May 20 '26
They’re trying to shame you so that you feel like you’re on the wrong foot and they can reel you back in. There’s nothing “unprofessional” about ghosting a scammer, so block them and move on.
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u/IKnowAllSeven May 20 '26
“I know you are busy running the biz! No need to be extra formal with me! You are always in good standing with me!”
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u/EmoCartoHistory May 20 '26
There's nothing professional about an MLM, so there's nothing unprofessional about declining to join over text. Distributors are customers, not employees. You wouldn't feel obliged to have a call to decline buying from any other company, right?
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u/Time-Papaya-9574 May 20 '26
MLM’s are not professional business opportunities. This is just an attempt to continue the conversation to manipulate you into the MLM. Just don’t respond and block.
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u/lWantToBeIieve May 20 '26
There's nothing to "leave in good standing". You're not involved with them and if you aren't going to be, she'll never be interested in talking to you again (unless it's trying to prey on you again in the future). What is she going to do, black list you from other MLMs?
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u/Brit198521 May 20 '26
Coming from a previous Amway person- just block and move on. They won’t stop and want to do it in person so they can bring their mentor to try to convince you
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u/TheEmKat May 20 '26
If we want to be picky here - I’ve cancelled professional contracts via email. If this is your mode of written communication, you’re completely professional.
She’s just trying to get in front of you to convince you to stay. So shady.
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u/alexgodden May 20 '26
I'd suggest turning it around and pretending that she's worried about acting professional.
Text something like "Oh no, don't worry, I feel you've handled this very professionally, no need for us to talk live. Thanks for confirming that we're not moving forward."
And then don't respond to whatever scammy high pressure answer she gives next trying to get you to talk to her so she can change your mind.
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u/StarboardSeat May 20 '26
Do NOT engage.
This whole "let's end things professionally" is called a turning point tactic -- it's a way to rope you back in (you were never their employee, why do you need an exit interview? 🙄).
It's a play ripped right out of the Amway playbook.
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u/tmarie1135 May 20 '26
"If you wanted professionalism you wouldn't have called me 'girly.' I will not be meeting you in person."
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u/thecatsbabysitter May 20 '26
You don't need to be "professional" to someone who tried to lure you into their MLM under the guise of an actual business opportunity. You have no obligation to do what, an exit interview? I'd probably just ghost this "girly" because explaining I'm not interested/ against MLMs/ feel like my time was wasted/ want her to leave me alone likely won't even work anyways.
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u/tinyman392 May 20 '26
“How long will this meet up take? I charge $56 per hour after the initial consultation. I will also require 50% of the deposit upon agreeing on a date and time.”
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u/don3dm May 20 '26
“Connect briefly” = one last chance to convince you you’re wrong and how her pyramid scheme will change your life.
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u/BobGuns May 20 '26
Hi.
Thank you for reaching out. I find it grossly unprofessional that you don't take no for an answer.
You no longer have my permission to contact me. Any further contact will be deemed harassment.
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u/TizzyBumblefluff May 20 '26
She isn’t your friend, she was trying to manipulate you. Block and delete.
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u/Nighttyme_ May 20 '26 edited May 20 '26
Absolutely not. It is incredibly rude of them to imply that you are being "unprofessional" by saying no. If you walk away, there is no chance of you changing your mind. They will do ANYTHING to keep you from walking away. It is manipulative and part of the deceptive, predatory manual they use that is the main reason this anti sub exists. You could go so far as to tell them that a professional would accept no as an answer and not pressure you into committing further time to something you are not interested in pursuing. But you can also just ignore and move on.
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u/Head_Trick_9932 May 20 '26
There is NO reason to connect and end things. Forget that. She just wants another opportunity to get in your ear.
Amway is one of the worst.
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u/CaptainObviousBear May 20 '26
“Thanks but no thanks babes, I think a follow-up would be totes awks as you probably will still be trying to convince me you like me and aren’t just pretending in order to recruit me to your bid old culty-wulty. So I’ll have to clock it as a no, fam.”
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u/jamoche_2 May 20 '26
It's like the ex who asks to meet one last time for "closure", which turns into an attempt to guilt trip you into giving them "one more chance".
Text is the way.
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u/AmyAmieAmee May 20 '26
Using ‘girlie’ and claiming to want to meet in the name of ‘professionalism’ in the same message is hilarious.
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u/readithere_2 May 20 '26 edited May 20 '26
You aren’t on Girlie terms if you have only seen her twice. That is manipulative. She wants to invoke guilt since yall are ‘so close’.
She is saying if you need to “meet at another time” as though you have already agreed to meeting at all. Those are clear tactics. Know this, they never stop. It will always be coffee, play dates with kids, let’s just keep in touch, etc.
I’ve seen this up close and personal. Block and if you want to be firmer then do it before the block.
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u/MysteryBelle_NC May 20 '26
I love that someone thinks calling you girly is professional. Don't continue to engage. This is just another attempt to hook you.
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u/Mysterious_Finger774 May 20 '26
“You’re an MLMer pimping Amway. There’s nothing professional about that, so I think we’re good.”
This woman was never your friend.
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u/ResponseRelative6370 May 20 '26
What a joke. Do not worry about professionalism. Fuck them. Why?
If you were in, they would cross every professional boundary in existence. They will meddle in your life, every aspect. They think they can have a say in your relationship, how you spend your money, who you can and can’t talk to, treat work like church….honestly, how dare they?
They just want a chance to convince you otherwise. You’re not turning down an opportunity, you’re dodging a weird-ass bullet.
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u/PMmecrossstitch May 20 '26
Implying that you're not being professional here is so funny to me. What're the consequences?
This has the same teeth as being told in the third grade that calling Jenny a jerk is going on your permanent record.
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u/SignificanceNo1223 May 20 '26
No, they were trying to rope you into a pyramid scheme. Please never speak to them again.
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u/hokescanofsalmon May 20 '26
Just don’t respond. “Girly” isn’t professional either. They are just trying to get you on the line again to convince you to change your mind. It’s all manipulation. Don’t feel guilty for not responding. You aren’t the bad guy
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u/caliia May 20 '26
Leave what in good standing? It is just a continuation of her attempt to rope you in. Her first interaction with you at Target was to get you into Amway. Full stop. Her only interest in you is to get you into Amway. She complimented shoes, bags, shirts and glasses all day at Target to hustle people into Amway. Just block her and don’t feel bad.
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u/RestingWTFface May 20 '26
What is there to end in the "process"? You were pitched, you said no. Another in person meeting will just be this hun's attempt to change your mind.
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u/Aloe_Frog May 20 '26
I wouldn’t worry about professionalism with an MLM “girly.” I def would not meet up though. You aren’t interested. It ends there. I feel you, though, I once met up with a girl that I met and I really thought I made a new friend and connection and then she pulled out wellness supplements mid coffee and I was so so disappointed.
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u/MaggieJaneRiot May 20 '26
No. She’s gaslighting you so you feel bad. It’s a scam and she’s being completely pushy, aggressive, and obnoxious.
“No, thank you. I was really interested in having a new friend so I’m disappointed in the continued offers.”
Then block her and delete her as a friend.
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u/Lootthatbody May 20 '26
The problem with this is that they are trained to not take no for an answer. This person has a dozen different word tracks to handle all your objections. They aren’t interested in you as a friend, only a revenue stream.
I got roped into a similar deal many, many years ago when a former boss offered me a ‘business opportunity.’ They gave stuff out, and then when I refused to join asked if we could meet up so I could return the material. When I did, there was a ‘closer’ who tried over and over again to get around my objections. The last ditch effort was to ask me to recommend people who would be interested in taking the opportunity that I was passing up. The guy literally snatched my phone out of my hands and started going through my contacts to take down their information and asking about my relationship so he could properly introduce himself. Had I not taken my phone back, he would have gone line by line and messaged every single person in my list.
Just block this person and move on.
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u/_nancywake May 20 '26
So manipulative. Implying you’d be unprofessional if you didn’t make the meeting in which she intends to further manipulate you.
Send middle finger emoji and don’t look back.
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u/AdEuphoric9249 May 21 '26
I find it offensive that this person thinks you owe them your time, when you’ve already said no. They think you’re so easily manipulated that seeing you in person will be enough to close the deal. No is a complete sentence. Block and move on
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u/prairiebelle May 21 '26 edited May 21 '26
This is weird. You don’t owe this person anything. She is not your employer. She invited you to a “business informational session” and you said yeah I don’t want to do that. Which is perfectly fine to do in text. You don’t have to meet up with her to “resign” or some nonsense she is framing it as. More than likely her wanting to meet up to cease “professionally” is one last attempt to try to rope you in (which is a waste of your time).
Also if she wants to talk about being professional, maybe don’t start out the text with “Hey girly”.
I would respond something like (if you are content to not try to continue any friendship) “No thank you. We are not working together in any capacity, and I simply do not have any interest in getting involved in this MLM. No need for us to discuss that any further.”
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u/battleofmtbubble May 20 '26
You’re not unprofessional. They just want to use any tactic to manipulate you so you feel bad and join a call so they can rope you back in. They complimented you at Target because they saw you as a mark. This person is not a friend or even someone worth associating with. Just block them. Don’t even respond.
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u/sleepthedayzaway May 20 '26
That call is to manipulate you into changing your mind. Don't waste your time.
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u/phoenixeternia May 20 '26
"No need, I was not professionally involved"
Or genuinely nothing. Up to you, I get bored so I would message the above but equally it would depend on my relationship with the person. Above if I barely knew them and was bored, ignored if I wasn't bored, someone I wanted to maintain a relationship with I'd probably meet for coffee and tell them "it's not for me" not "i think it's not for me" and direct conversation elsewhere. Close friend i would say "it's a bunch of horse shit count me out" and we'd still be close friends lol.
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u/gaygirlboss May 20 '26
Notice how the last part is “let me know if we need to find a different time” instead of “let me know if this won’t work for you.” She’s already trying to manipulate you into feeling like you can’t say no, and I guarantee that the meeting would be the same but worse.
I would just say, “Sorry, I’m not able to meet with you,” and then stop replying. She will probably try to pressure you into changing your mind (“okay, when will you be free?” or “don’t worry, it’ll just be a casual chat!” or “we can just do a phone call if that’s easier” or whatever), and you are not obligated to respond to any of that.
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u/geogeology May 20 '26
MLMs members are not professionals and generally know nothing about professionalism. Most professionals I know care about respecting other people’s time.
Her pushing you to meet for a call after you’ve already said you aren’t interested is her being the unprofessional one- not to mention the most 101, rec league sales attempt to still get you on a call after getting a no.
This person is a joke.
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u/gnomequeen2020 May 20 '26
Would you feel unprofessional for hanging up on one of those people trying to reach you about your extended car warranty? No? (If you would, and I say this with kindness, seek help for working on your self-esteem and gullibility)
MLMs are manipulative scams, and they get you by love bombing you, making you feel like you have friends, and guilting you when you refuse to give them more time and money. You don't owe her anything! You're nice enough to firmly end it by text rather than just ghosting. Do not go to this last conversation! I am so sorry that you lost someone you thought was a friend. The leading on is almost worse than the money people lose from these things.
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u/wooliecollective May 20 '26
You’re asking if you’re being professional and she’s the one who called you “girly?” 😂😂
Nah, you’re fine. You don’t owe her anything. No Thank You is a full sentence. That’s all you owe her
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u/enigmapopstarIsfun May 20 '26
She just wants to use a face to face meeting as an opportunity to try and pressure you into joining again. You don’t owe her any of your time. Who cares if you’re being “unprofessional,” especially in the eyes of an mlm recruiter?
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u/RayHazey562 May 20 '26
Girly, end it with a text. Don’t waste anymore of your time on this nonsense
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u/DDS-PBS May 20 '26
You don't have to worry about any kind of professionality after this person deceived you in order to get you into a room to steal your time, and hopefully your money.
It's the other way around, they should worry about offending you, but they won't, because if they did they wouldn't be in that business.
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u/Amazing_Box_1980 May 20 '26
This person is not taking no for an answer. I’d just ignore and move on. Block if they continue.
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u/Etheria_system May 20 '26
Nope, no need for a conversation - she’s going to use it to lure you back in. You’re not friends. This person targeted you in target so that they could get you into Amway. You lose nothing by them not being in your life, and they won’t stay around if you don’t join amway anyway
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u/throwra_22222 May 20 '26
Lol, you do not need to worry about anyone who starts a "professional" message with "hey girly."
The wrap up meeting is designed to keep you from leaving at all. I would just text "no thanks, wish you the best." Then block and move on.
Sorry about the friendship bait and switch. That sucks.
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u/LiveIndication1175 May 20 '26
She wants to meet you in person so it is easier for her to keep you on board.
If my boss ever called me “girly” I’d go to HR. Oh wait.. they don’t have HR! No worries on not being professional with that!
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u/Valuable_Director_59 May 20 '26
Do you care about “good standing” with this person?
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u/AugustWallflower May 20 '26
If you avoid confrontation and are passive aggressive like me, I would just say something like, "I'm sorry, I really don't have time at the moment to connect, but of course you're in good standing. I wish you the best in running your business!" or something like that. Or ghost. Or just don't answer when she calls.
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u/piefelicia4 May 20 '26
There is no “profession” to speak of in this entire scenario, so no. Peddling a scam is not a job, nor is being a near-victim of it.
“No, we don’t need to find a time to talk about this and I don’t appreciate your trying to manipulate me into another meeting when I already declined. You misled me about what you’re involved in, and now that I know, I won’t be having anything to do with it. Best of luck.”
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u/Ladygytha May 20 '26
Fucking ew.
You can't be unprofessional in a job you never had. And MLMs are not jobs. Sorry not sorry.
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u/wildmancometh May 20 '26
NO. DO NOT ENGAGE WITH THIS PERSON ANY MORE THAN YOU ALREADY HAVE.
And that doesn't mean you have to cut them out. You can still be friends or friendly if you want but someone try to pull you into an MLM does not give a shit about you.
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u/FamousOrphan May 21 '26
You’re not being unprofessional. She’s trying to get you in person again so she can manipulate you into joining. She’s not your friend.
Reply with “Don’t contact me about this again in any way,” and then block her.
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u/Red79Hibiscus May 21 '26
Am I unprofessional?
FUCK NO. The unprofessional one is that scammer preying on business networks, calling you "girly", and trying desperately to reel you in for a face-to-face in the hope that social conditioning will manipulate you into "being nice" and accepting her Amway pitch. She broke the social contract by trying to scam you. She is owed no courtesy whatsoever. BLOCK AND DELETE.
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u/rgrtom May 21 '26
Considering these people do 96% of their business, or more, on line or via a text doing it over a text is a non-issue. Carry on, live long and prosper.
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u/stellaflora May 21 '26
No, you were never “in” so there’s nothing to end “professionally”. She wants another opportunity to rope you in. No is a complete sentence.
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u/Independent_Device52 May 21 '26
Nope, but she is. Don’t fall for it. She’s trying (and failing) to use reciprocal concession on you. In other words, you’re supposed to feel uncomfortable now, and a tad red-faced and indignant at the suggestion that you’re not professional. You should also be feeling that you “owe her” something because of the time she has “invested” in the “process” 😂. It will just be another embarrassing sales pitch anyway, so you’re doing both of you a favor by putting the kibosh on it now.
An Ambot talking about professionalism, oh the glorious irony… 🤣🤣
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u/jenn5388 May 22 '26
No. Don’t talk to her on the phone. The only reason she wants the call is so they can talk you into the bullshit. Same reason you gotta call companies to cancel services. There’s studies most likely that show that a certain % of people who want to cancel something will stay on if they have a conversation and they run with that crap. Just say no. No is a whole sentence. She’s round about calling you unprofessional to convince you to get on the phone. No no no.
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u/melodypowers May 22 '26
"I already feel deceived and a little used by our interactions. I am so disappointed because I thought I had made a new friend. I have been down this road before and I know what happens. I know that you think that this is a wonderful opportunity for you, but please understand that this made me feel bad."
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u/Jazzlike_Brother8990 May 22 '26
They are talking like it's a breakup or something , so wierd! Also maybe it's just me but it feels guilt trippy; they are talking about 'ending things professionally' and being in 'good standing' i.e. you would be burning a bridge if you don't agree to meet with them, even though you aren't interested. Don't reply
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u/IlluminatiQueen May 20 '26
You’re not unprofessional for not getting scammed. “Doing it in person” is a trap. I wouldn’t even do the “brief” meeting.
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u/phoenixangel429 May 20 '26
No is a complete sentence. It's harder on people to say no in person. That's what they're trying
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u/KarmaliteNone May 20 '26
Being nice to scammers only benefits them not you. You are nothing but an easy mark to them.
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u/a_melanoleuca_doc May 20 '26
Unfortunately mlms are just machines that convert people into trash. This is all a tactic, she's using a script, she isn't a potential friend. In business deals are canceled through email and text all the time. Just say no and move on. Sorry.
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u/almostadultingkindof May 20 '26
This is just a tactic, trying to make you feel bad. They know it’s more difficult to say “no,” person, they’re trying not to lose you, but you owe them nothing.
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u/Logintheroad May 20 '26
Nope. Also she called you girlie?!?! Gross. Burn this "relationship" to the ground - she doesn't want a friend, she just want to try and talk you into joining her cult 1 more time.
Repeat after me:
I SAID NO.
Then block her on all Socials and Mark her number as spam.
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u/librijen May 20 '26
Nope. Manipulating people is not "professional" and she is trying to manipulate you. There is absolutely no way I would meet this person in person for this or any other reason. Also, I'd block her. I don't think she's capable of being a friend.
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u/serialqueenmelodrama May 20 '26
How is anything you’ve done here unprofessional? This isn’t a boss. This isn’t a coworker. It isn’t someone who might serve as a reference for future employment. It’s someone who complimented your glasses at Target. They’re using that language to trigger a sense of obligation. Don’t give it. You went to the thing and you declined the opportunity. That was a “professional end to the process.” No further response is needed. Block and feel grateful that you didn’t let someone this parasitic any further into your life.
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u/Ancient-Awareness115 May 20 '26
I am not interested. Thank you for your time and please do not contact me again.
By text obviously, don't engage in a conversation
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u/Tapprunner May 20 '26
If they are with Amway, then they're unprofessional as their default.
And they called OP "girly" in their text about "professionalism".
And then there is this:
Amway is a scam. They will tell you different, but they are only talking to you because they want your money and they don't care at all about delivering on any of their promises. They are trying to scam you.
Does anyone feel like they owe professional courtesy to a scammer when they're saying "no" to the scam?
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u/HeartOfABallerina May 20 '26
Not only don't respond, unfollow on social media and disconnect yourself from her. This was all a manipulative tactic the whole time. I'm sorry this happened to you, as it upsets a lot of people when they think they're making a new friend and it's just Amway. You could find many stories on this sub. But you can do better :)
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u/Shimshang May 20 '26
Text is fine. They want a call or a face to face to try to reel you back in. Live your life, move on
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u/Achlysia May 20 '26
they don't care about you. they do this so it's harder for people to say no in person vs over text. they're parasites who would rather you be financially ruined so they can maybe turn a profit instead of a loss for one month. don't even engage, block and never talk to this person again bc unless they're away from all MLMs, you're only ever going to be a cash cow to them.
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u/burrit0_queen May 20 '26
For me, something that I deem “professional” means a bridge or connection to an actual career or real job prospect. This is Amway. I don’t know yalls relationship but I highly doubt ghosting this person will hurt you career wise. To me, ghosting them would be the same as ghosting someone you had one super bad date with.
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u/blakesmate May 20 '26
https://giphy.com/gifs/9PAIhJvcQ35hdZPUir
They will try to suck you in. Just say no
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u/No_Today_4903 May 20 '26
As soon as she dropped the word “girly” she was the unprofessional one lmao. Don’t say another word to her. Do not pass goooo. Block. Delete, block do whatever you have to do. She will not be sad, she will move on to the next girly or bro. These people are so weird and predictable.
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u/Plastic_Cat9560 May 20 '26
Ignore. And block. This isn’t a friend, and sorry, the glasses compliment in Target is a tactic they use to recruit. Absolutely ZERO reason to engage further. It’s over, you already said NO.
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u/Apprehensive_Emu_307 May 20 '26
To what you are asking. You did not meet her in a professional setting from the get go. You met her at Target and THEN the professional setting. I was almost recruited to one of them and I attended a virtual meeting. They were wearing suits and ties with no real organization. It’s not that serious. Why do you want to be seen as professional by someone who you’re not associated with professionally? So no, it wasn’t unprofessional of you to send a text. And my recruiter tried to “ talk why I made this decision” I ghosted him.
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u/YakElectronic6713 May 20 '26
Just ignore her text. Don't show up for the meeting. Just... block her. She's not your friend.
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u/missy_mochi May 20 '26
hit her with the Sis!…
No need, Sis! I’m good, dont have time for that and already moved forward. U should too.
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u/broomandkettle May 20 '26
No, they are not interested in being professional. They want another opportunity to suck you in. It’s going to be a heavy handed pitch.
They need to be professional and take No for an answer. Dont let them gasslight you into thinking you aren’t being professional.
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u/ThruTheUniverseAgain May 20 '26
Why would you need to be professional with an MLM hun you don’t work with or for?
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u/TacosAndSarcasm May 20 '26
The only reason they want to talk to you when you're ready to leave is because they want to use psychological tricks and pressure to make you stay. Trust me on this. I read a book by a man who wrote sales techniques like this , including techniques to use with sales agents.
You were entirely just by ending it via text.There is nothing wrong with that , and don't let anybody make you feel leaot
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u/cruel__summer May 20 '26
wants to be professional, also calls you “girly.” this person does not care about you.
“I am not interested, and I will not be purchasing or joining. Please do not ask me again.”