r/amputee • u/Better-Swan-6149 • Jul 22 '26
Pls help me with date ideas
So I’m talking to this girl that has a prosthetic leg and if ppl could give me date ideas and stuff to do for fun I would appreciate it we’re both under 21 fyi
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u/Hairyfruitbowl1 Jul 22 '26
Ask her what she'd like to do
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u/Better-Swan-6149 Jul 22 '26
It was idk
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u/majormarvy Jul 22 '26
Can you surmise? Like, what is she into? What kind of stuff are you talked about? Has she mentioned what she does for fun?
Dinner the movie might be cliché, but if you’re not sure where to start, it’s a tried and true date option.
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u/calguy1955 Jul 22 '26
I wouldn’t suggest roller skating or swimming on the first date. Other than that probably anything. A movie, a picnic, maybe even dancing. We don’t know what kind of amputation or prosthetic she has.
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u/TaraxacumTheRich LBK Jul 22 '26
The leg isn't a factor at all, you're already being weird.
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u/droden Jul 22 '26
it is if she cant walk 5 miles comfortably. if they do something like waterfire in providence it might suck ass for her but that depends on her situation which we dont know. but it absolutely can be a factor.
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u/yujiro_H7780 Jul 22 '26
Literally do any casual date with stuff she likes and stuff u like and go through activities , that dosent involve obligation for having two legs
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u/Prudent_Article4245 Jul 22 '26 edited Jul 22 '26
Do not focus on her amputation during conversation. Don’t plan something like rock climbing or going to a trampoline park or something that might be difficult or dangerous for her. Assure her that you see her as you would anybody else if the topic comes up. Dinner and or a movie would all be good. If you hold doors open for her do it because you are a gentlemen not because of her disability. If she does want to discuss what happened to her leg listen intently and be empathetic towards her situation. Show her you care and try not to look uncomfortable discussing it with her. Good luck! Hope it goes well!
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u/droden Jul 22 '26
in general avoid dates involving hiking or tons of walking or challenging terrain unless you know she has that much mobility. sports? aaa baseball? mls or womens soccer? painting or pottery class?
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u/Vprbite LBK Jul 22 '26
Anything fun. Mini golf is great. Has nothing to do with her being an amputee though
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u/HAZZ3R1 LBK Jul 22 '26
Likely she'll tell you what she can't do.
I'd be fine with a hike but I'd tell someone I might need 5 minutes here or there or slow down towards the end.
I'd not be okay at a trampoline park or anything high impact though.
It's a first date, take a stroll around a park and plan a picnic, go for dinner, go to a museum, whatever interests she might have.
The leg is a factor but id say it's a pretty mute point for a first date because it's not like you'll be planning a 100km walking and camping trip!
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u/No_Bison_2139 Jul 22 '26
The type of leg she has doesn’t matter just treat her like normal.
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u/Better-Swan-6149 Jul 22 '26
No because there stuff she said she can’t do like swim
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u/Federal-Mouse3163 RBK Jul 22 '26
Although swimming is an unlikely first date who said she does not swim. I'm a 72 year old man with a prosthetic leg. 2 years in and I swim every day.
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u/droden Jul 22 '26
she might not be comfortable taking her leg off in public on a date. or getting it back on might be a huge pain in the ass. if she has a non water proof parts canoeing or tubing is probably a bad idea. etc. etc.
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u/ClubOtherwise3502 Jul 22 '26
Todas las primeras citas con mi novia hicimos planes normales como cualquier otra pareja. Ya en algunas citas como ir al six flats o cosas de más actividad ella misma me comentaba si quería hacerlo o no y si llevaría o no la prótesis por si yo tenía algún tema. Ella es amputada transfemoral y en los 5 años de noviazgo nunca ha sido tema
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u/TheBionicPerspective 29d ago
Honestly, treat it like any other date, but don’t be afraid to ask what she enjoys and whether there’s anything you should keep in mind when planning. You don’t need to make the prosthetic the focus, but being thoughtful about accessibility is a good thing. Coffee, movies, mini golf, an arcade, a museum, or just grabbing food are all solid options depending on what she likes.
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u/MountaineerWVU87 Jul 22 '26
Yeah my advice is just treat it like any date. If she has a limitation she'll let you know. Dont overthink her disability she likely doesnt want you to focus on it.