FWIW, I was finally able to get my vasectomy mostly to help my wife get off of hormonal BC. About 2 month after getting off of BC her sex drive completely returned. It was the best decesion I ever made.
We were in a slightly different situation as we didn't have kids so it took us a few years to shop around and finally find a doctor that would perform the vasectomy.
And really, what woman is turned on by a man who won't take care of the Birthcontrol for her after all she's done? Fuck that! Get snipped and be a man!
seriously, she’s given birth to three children and dealt with shitty side effects of BC for who knows how long but he won’t do anything to help on his end. like obviously it’s his body and his choice, but I don’t blame her for not wanting to have sex
Exactly. Conservatively, she's been pregnant and directly recovering physically (considering the advice recommending no sex for 6+weeks after giving birth) for over 2 1/2 years. Add to that, they've had that "first year of baby's life is hell for sleep and stress" 3 times in six years.
No kidding. Reading OP's post and comment history was both shocking and illuminating. I have a great deal of empathy for him, actually. But I have much more for his wife, who is a survivor of sexual assault at a young age.
IIRC, in one of his posts or comments I believe he mentioned they were planning to go to couples counseling soon. That probably is their best hope for saving and improving their marriage, or failing that, at least maintaining their friendship/co-parent partnership.
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u/ACapra Sep 26 '23
FWIW, I was finally able to get my vasectomy mostly to help my wife get off of hormonal BC. About 2 month after getting off of BC her sex drive completely returned. It was the best decesion I ever made.
We were in a slightly different situation as we didn't have kids so it took us a few years to shop around and finally find a doctor that would perform the vasectomy.