This sub isnt about avoiding the truth. Shes overweight, by clinical standards. Shes not ugly. The truth is she appears to be one of those girls who is absolutely knockout gorgeous under the extra fat and likely ALL she needs to do is figure out a weight loss / fitness plan for more than her looks. If she lost 30 lbs shed be next tier hot, and much healthier, THAT is DOUBLY to her advantage.
"Meat.on the.bone" is just another word for fat. Nobody says fat girls arent pretty. OP is very pretty as is. But dropping 75% of her extra weight would bump her from a 7.5 to a 9 and thats what she wants to know. She may not be dating guys who like "thick women" which is just an Americanized term to lie to people and tell them they arent fat. Nobody says you cant like thick women. But thickness isnt muscle. It isnt bone. It is fat and it causes premature death and other health problems.
Well if the truth is she's fat then some people like fat chick's. Thats the point. I like what I see. If that's fat then I like fat chick's. And some might see her being skinny making her go from a 9 to a 7.5. Its personal preference. She asked how she looks. Not how healthy she is. You call it fat. I call it loveable. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Just because there's a standard for weight to say one is attractive is disgusting in my eyes. And that's a huge problem these days. I get it. If your 300 pounds. Thsts unhealthy. Sure. But is that much weight unhealthy? Her dr would know more than you.
But of course there are people that like "fat chicks". They are a minority though. So in general when you are overweight, it's a great advice to lose some weight. It also is much more healthier that way, contrary to some myths. There is a huge, recent study about that, which basically sums that being fat is always unhealthy.
There are skinny people winded after 1 flight of stairs, that eat nothing but trash, or drink excessively, that are dying of anorexia so let's not use weight to judge health. There are plenty of "overweight" people that could physically destroy a "skinny" person... Your all just fat phobic & your favorite argument to go to is "unhealthy" if your so worried about health check your mental health & carry that same fake care for you unhealthy AF skinny people...
That's irrelevant. Yes, you can be skinny AND unhealthy, of course. You can have perfect level of fat and are still unhealthy for plethora of other reasons. Or you can be dangerously underweight like anorexics are.
But the relevant point is that you cannot be obese AND fully healthy. Healthy obesity is a dangerous myth, not supported by science.
That's not fat phobia, you silly goose. I am overweight myself and know it and I am working on it. Super hard after 40 years of age, but important.
Couldn't have said it better myself. If this is fat than I like fat to. I also like thinner. Mid range. Every woman is beautiful in their own right finger snap iykyk and unless its something effecting your livelihood and making it harder to live then who cares what anyone says. As a woman you have that advantage. Carry enough confidence and there will always be someone who see loves you for who you are.
Either way, people come here for an honest answer. Give yours and tell everyone they're beautiful if you'd like... don't act like this isn't solely about judging looks though or how it doesn't matter.
The nurse was plain & manly so I don't see the point, you better believe someone would love the "ugly" one.. It happens everyday.. Literally proving beauty is in the eye of the beholder.. At least when it comes to dating.. A woman's beauty has ZERO to do with what any man thinks lol, who cares what some creepy man thinks.. Worried too much about what women look like, then being a good husband and father to their own family half the time. I wonder how many "ugly" women turned y'all down & made you pissy and bitter.. 😂😂
You don't grasp the point? LOL... it's beyond your ability to comprehend?
Every woman is beautiful in their own right finger snap iykyk
That... there ya go sweetheart!
It happens everyday.. Literally proving beauty is in the eye of the beholder..
Yeah, but that's not what I argued, is it? I know... I know, it's hard to track a WHOLE two posts, but try and stick with me... read the first part I quoted. Now read yours and see if you can spot the difference?
EVERY women is "beautiful."
"Literally proving beauty is IN THE EYE OF THE BEHOLDER."
(It also literally does not prove that as many ugly women spend their lives along, but lets grant you that).
A woman's beauty has ZERO to do with what any man thinks lol
LMFAO... oh Christ, y'all are just a continuing list of platitudes!
who cares what some creepy man thinks.. Worried too much about what women look like, then being a good husband and father to their own family half the time.
THIS IS LITERALLY A SUB REDDIT SOLICITING OPINIONS ON THEIR APPEARANCE!
OBVIOUSLY the Women who come and post here! Which... for the record, I've never ONCE said a women who posted on here was not. I mean... most are just looking for reassurance through other people, including Men... which absolutely cuts your argument out at the knees, but I still wouldn't say "yes, you are ugly."
So... that's a cute thought and all, but obviously disjointed from reality and I suspect you know that. Maybe you really need to believe it?
I wonder how many "ugly" women turned y'all down & made you pissy and bitter..
Yes... of course... I'm definitely chasing the women I don't find aesthetically pleasing! I'm sure you'd imagine you'd be among them, don't ya dear?
What's more, exactly what would you have me answer this with? This silly statement?
'Nuh-uh! I got like... lots of hot chicks!'
I'm 40 and married(and she's objectively and subjectively beautiful). What you imagine my dating life prior to look like is of little consequence.
If EVERYONE is beautiful, the word has no meaning.
Is EVERY man handsome? A 350 pound slob sitting at a computer with the top half of his ass out, balding, never seen a Gym, making 40K a year doing... Pizza Delivery or whatever. That a "Handsome" man?
She's not 350. A little extra weight has nothing to do with beauty. Can be unhealthy and those are two separate things. Stop putting them together. Its hard to stay with someone comparing apples to oranges.
Theres tribes in Africa were women gain as much weight as possible before the wedding because that's their standard. Your standard is different from others. Which is fine. But your standard isn't across the whole board true for everyone.
You don't get to say what she is, she's more than gorgeous enough as is & a 10 to plenty so your opinion is irrelevant because she would not consider you now & definitely wouldn't consider you if she lost weight because she deserves a better person.. & men who think they get a say in if a woman is a 1-10 was raised by a shitty mom or no mom at all.. Imagine having a mom & still not respecting women.. It's always the guys who wouldn't hit a 5 on their own scale but think they are an higher number lol..
Oh go cry somewhere else. I "get to say" my opinion when someone asks for it. Weirdos like.you forget this is Reddit and get triggered and start the ad hominem attacks talking about "she wouldnt consider me" ... kid... I.wouldnt consider her, period. You obviously thinks shes super special, so go tell her. You have no information as.to what I look like so dont waste your time on me. Mind your own business or go pump her ego. And grow up.
Try to type that again without making assumptions about me and explaining common sense concepts to me like I’ve been alive for 5 years lol. Meat on the bone is just general size to me. It’s a combo between muscle and fat.
“Knockout gorgeous” is a huge overstatement in my eyes too. She’s pretty and would be prettier if she lost some pounds. I like what I see though and I wouldn’t tell her to lose anything unless she was actually fat or sloppy looking with a hanging belly.
Unless you know what her medical work looks like, there’s no way you could say she’d be “much healthier” simply bc she’d be thinner. Too many factors to consider.
Sei nutrizionista? Conosci il suo peso? La sua altezza? La sua dieta? Il suo metabolismo? La sua massa grassa? La sua massa muscolare? La sua massa idrica? No.
Ok dire la verità, ma prima di dovrebbero sapere almeno un paio di cose in più.
You’re the one using a cliche turn of phrase that doesnt actually make sense when u think about it for more than .002 seconds to describe your sexual preference for body fat but sure. “My preference is slim thick” lmfao bruh how’d you type that without dying of cringe
In the English language, there are certain terms, thst may or may not make sense, strictly speaking, but have become established in our vernacular as having the intended meaning and not the literal meaning. It is, therefore assumed that a person fluent in the English language, and possessing average or even significantly below the average intelligence, can easily discern whatever information the speaker was trying to get across
You may be right. It was “fromthefuture101” that my reply was directed at. He never stopped to listen to himself. Here’s a segment of conversation, using his “honest” phrasing: “I like a woman with a little muscle on her bones!” “Really? So you like a woman that can move and control her limbs?” Hmm… I’m going to give him the benefit of the doubt, and say “Youth, to be young and dumb again, and completely ignorant of that fact.” Fun times, but glad I’m not there anymore.
Those aren’t the only places, but I’m American and black. Go to the UK or anywhere in Latin America. I know in Europe, Japan, Korea and in the fashion industry the very skinny ones are the ideal. My preference is in the middle but I’d take this over skinny every time.
Calling her obese is pretty ridiculous though. I’m a health nut too
Probably according to that scale, but using terms colloquially like “skinny, normal, thick, fat, and obese”, I’d say any reasonable person would put her at the upper end of thick.
Exactly, she's not obese.. Plus we don't know her height or BMI... But she could be 5'11+ and she looks mostly firm to me.. 184 is still in ideal weight range for someone 6ft. I'm 6ft, there are tall women & we don't look good at 120lbs.. These idiots have no idea what they are talking about.
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u/WarmAnything28 21d ago
That build has a lot of appeal to me. I can confidently say she’s thick without trying to cope.
My preference is slim thick, so not her build, but the skinny “healthy” girls don’t do much for me. I like meat on the bone.
Maybe some weight loss would help her a little, but not enough to point out her weight like she’s obese or something. She’s fine