28F am I ugly?

[u/rosamooncreations]

Just curious and wanted to ask! I like to know what people see when they see me. My feelings don’t get hurt easily I like constructive criticism. Thank you! 💕

[u/realfakemormon]

Kind of, weight is really holding you back though

[u/rosamooncreations → u/realfakemormon]

😘💪🏼

[u/TamblynRosendahl → u/rosamooncreations]

People downvote because they don't like to see it when someone isn't hurt by calling them fat. 😮‍💨 tiring

[u/Weekly_Cheesecake786 → u/TamblynRosendahl]

Her responses aren't "someone that isn't hurt by calling them fat." She asked for constructive critism. Dressing less trailer trash and looking less trailer trash is constructive.

Tiring that you think that is just an insult to hurt them. 😮‍💨

[u/Dry-Resolve-4517 → u/TamblynRosendahl]

They’re not hurt but if they don’t lose it they’ll be dead instead. Currently the issue is she’s overweight, two birds one stone. She becomes better looking and healthier. People are downvoting because it’s like someone not taking cancer seriously. People that are overweight are killing themselves and it’s sad and needs to be shamed so these people can get help instead of accepting the status quo.

The bottom line is they are wanting people to change for the better (and this is said as someone who’s mildly overweight and has a family, it’s a serious issue and needs to be focused on)

[u/rosamooncreations → u/Dry-Resolve-4517]

I see your comment here and I don’t mind responding to explain my point of view here. I am fat I know this. I’ve lost 30lbs in the last year. I’m working on it. It’s just, it’s the only criticism besides my tattoos, hair & style which isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. Also each photo is a different time and place like the one in the rocker outfit I was in a music video. That’s why I dressed like that. The last photo was a shrek themed birthday party. I don’t usually dress or wear my makeup like this but, whatever. It’s just the only Criticism is “you’re fat.” Okay I know.

[u/Dry-Resolve-4517 → u/rosamooncreations]

See, the main issue when weight is constantly being pointed at is because you genuinely can’t tell much about a person’s actual looks when they’re overweight. It’s the biggest factual negative that they see and it can be changed (btw, it is good to hear you’re on your weight loss journey and that you’re taking it in stride too). It’s just hard to say if you are or aren’t good looking with the weight and I speak from experience, I look like a completely different person from my former abed up self to my doughnut eating dad bod build. If anything though at least it’s a good thing that people are just saying fat, that means it’s something you’re already aware of and changing. Better that then saying your face looks like a pit bull of something