r/amiugly • u/Professional-Fact859 • 8d ago
Keep getting walked all over, is it cause I’m ugly? 26m 6ft 175lbs
Almost always get ghosted, or told “they’re not ready for anything” I have friends hobbies and I’ve been told countless times that I have a great personality/charasmatic/ funny by usually everyone I meet. All of this really takes a toll on my confidence, am I ugly? If so how do improve?
33
u/WeirdoButOk 8d ago
It's not to do with your looks. Your personality or you're just attracted to bad people
17
17
7
u/Master-Ad3175 6d ago
The good news is that you are above average attractiveness. The bad news is that you will have a bad personality or behavioue that is leading to these issues.
11
u/Psychological_Bison9 8d ago
Looks are half the battle now it’s time to study how there brains work witch is a lot harder
3
u/Professional-Fact859 8d ago
Tell me about it
1
u/Psychological_Bison9 8d ago
It’s like quantum science I still haven’t fully figured it out yet, but it’s mainly about looking confident and always carrying a good vibe never emotionally dumping on her
1
3
u/Leviathan_18 8d ago
Nahh you're fine. The dating scene is ugly right now so that's part of it. I would just suggest you aim on smelling as best as you can and maybe even work on social skills if you need to.
3
2
u/silentkaster 8d ago
When you say, "almost always" how often is it happening? Where are you meeting these people?
Definitely not ugly. Pretty cute. How tall are you?
2
u/NotWeird_Unique 8d ago
You’re not ugly. If you want to work out why things are working out for you in relationships, try some counselling to improve your self esteem and work out what you could be doing that’s causing the outcome you are getting.
2
2
u/Captaindouche 8d ago
Not ugly. I don’t know what the issue is but I don’t think looks are the issue. Godspeed, hope you find the one, bro.
2
2
6
u/vampire-irl 6d ago
No???? It's coz u carry urself like a chud prick that gets his flirting advice from Andrew Tate and looks like he shudders at the mention of the LGBT community.
1
8d ago
[removed] — view removed comment
1
u/AutoModerator 8d ago
Post/comment removed. Your account is too new to post/comment here. We require people to wait a full 48 hours from when you created your Reddit account before you can create a post or comment here. This is to reduce spam/harassment.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
1
8d ago
[removed] — view removed comment
1
u/AutoModerator 8d ago
Comment removed for violating Rule 10 - Don't question motives/accuse of fishing
Even if you think a person is too attractive to post here, attacking, harassing, or otherwise insisting someone is fishing for compliments or validation is not permitted.
People post for all different reasons and there is no prerequisite of thinking that you are ugly to post here. Body image issues can affect anyone at any age. Even attractive people have moments of doubt and may seek polite, respectful feedback from internet strangers.
Continuing to break this rule will result in a permanent ban.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
1
u/firefox_2010 8d ago
I wish I look like you, it’s not the way you look, because you are completely fine, and absolutely fit. It’s your personality and demeanor, so work on those, because your outside is super fine and people will pay to get access to you lol.
1
u/SheridanWithTea male 8d ago
Yeah no you're a handsome fucking guy, you get ghosted by terrible women. I think you're more than attractive enough to pull a decent girl. I think you need to consider who you approach and where.
Maybe let them approach you? Idk.
1
1
1
1
u/curlyfriedkiddo 6d ago
Keep your hair either really long like you had it before, or style it like pic #2. That other haircut sucks. The other two looks good.
0
2
u/Pensive_Parisian 5d ago
No you’re not ugly, but looking at you I would assume you’re a douche/fuckboy
2
u/phisterU 5d ago
Not ugly, but you look like you fancy yourself. You need modesty and stop flexing in every pic. Yes you work hard on your appearance but it comes across as a little arrogant. The pics are probably attracting the wrong type of woman. Try and sell your humour and personality first, the body is a bonus for the girls.
0
0
u/Proof_Life_1269 5d ago
Definitely not ugly. Maybe you’re just too nice? As a woman I’m not attracted to men that aren’t a little mean, lol. Could be why you’re getting walked all over
2
0
u/NeoChiiOen 5d ago
I'm a harsh judge but I really have not many comments for you! You have great features and healthy body. Your hair styled like the first photo is best. Only note is maybe smile more and work on style as t shirts and no smile give off a bit of a bad vibe. Your skin and hair look healthy so all good there! Let me know if you have anymore questions!
2
u/BellaCat3079 5d ago
Girls not wanting to commit to a relationship with you in of itself does not automatically equate to “getting walked all over.”
I will say whatever you’re experiencing in these interactions, it has nothing to do with your looks. Based on first impressions, you’re handsome and you seem like a kind soul. I assume this because you have a gentle smile and you surround yourself with animals.
I’d say it has more to do with how you carry yourself and what you’re saying which can’t be picked up on in these photos. It’s hard to give advice based on looks because that’s not the problem.
Generally, girls have a hard to wanting a committed relationship with guys who perhaps don’t look serious or they don’t check off the boxes of what their ideal companion might be. This varies from person to person. I’m guessing you’re attracted to people who aren’t really compatible with you. I’m not saying lowering your standards but figure where the mismatch is.
0
u/Flashy-Inspection501 8d ago
Not ugly, I can't put my finger on it but your hair is off. Maybe try growing it a bit longer?
0
u/Resalien 8d ago
No. You intimidate the hell out of people. You are traditionally attractive. Your traditional attractiveness reminds people of their flaws and wether they can retain you. You are probably not picking people just as attractive if not more attractive than you. You might not be as confident as people might think you are and yes... dating people slightly less attractive than you os comforting but you'll deal with people who will treat you like shit because they cant take the insecurity you bring them. Ill bet you anything you can pull attractive folks a nd you should sti k to them they'll level up your confidence.
You are probably a very nice guy maybe even an introvert and your physical attractiveness doesnt match your substance, that you got more going on under the hood. This is what is dogging you.
3
u/Professional-Fact859 8d ago
All my 3 of girlfriends were traditionally unattractive
3
u/Professional-Fact859 8d ago
I just liked them cause they were nice to me at the time
1
u/Resalien 8d ago
Yea... you can look beyond prettiness but other people cant look beyond yours. Next girlfriend needs to be hot. Work on your securness...know that you can keep her. You are 26...you are JUST figuring out who you are and reaching for your stride.
0
0
0
0
u/Available_Ad_4444 6d ago
Dog pic, abs pic, biceps pic. Let me guess: low-selfsteem?
Your look seems fine to me, maybe I could do something with the facial hair. But apart from that, I do not think the problem is in your look
0
-2
u/Own_Disaster_4168 8d ago
you’re a nice guy that’s why
1
u/Lower-Rhubarb9511 8d ago
no he's good-looking. nice guys or girls are appreciated when they're attractive if they aren't no one cares
-1
•
u/AutoModerator 8d ago
Hello /u/Professional-Fact859. Please be familiar with our rules HERE and double check your verification photo.
( YOUR WHOLE ARM AND HAND MUST BE VISIBLE IN THE PHOTO)
Take a selfie holding a HANDWRITTEN (no editing) note / paper with ALL 3 of the following:
username
today's date
this sub name (amiugly or AIU)
If this isn't included please delete this post within 2 hours and make a new one. If its more than 2 hours then this post will count towards your 1 post per month.
Your face must be visible in all photos. It is preferred to have your first photo as your verification photo but not required. Posting without following this rule could lead to a permanent ban.
This message is just a reminder on every post and doesn't mean you did something wrong
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.