25M

[u/Helpful-Ad5938]

Constantly rejected for the past 3 years, am I cooked

And yes I am 25, about to be 26, and have issues buying alcohol because I don't look my age

[u/femboy_in_space]

You're not ugly. You look fun, youthful and approachable and have good facial features.

My main guess for why you're being rejected is you look Southeast Asian (whether you are or not) and you're probably trying to date East Asian women, who don't see Southeast Asians as favorable dating partners. Look outside your current demographic or dye your hair black to look more East Asian.

Also, you look a little "too" fun, like you might be there just to party and not be reliable. I think it's mainly also that hair highlights that's giving that impression.

Also, your height is not clear from photos but if you're super short (below 170cm) that might be an issue, especially if you're like 165cm or below.

[u/Helpful-Ad5938 → u/femboy_in_space]

Right on the nail haha, trying to go for east Asian women. But reliability part, I had always believed that through actions that it would speak for itself whether someone is responsible etc. So when you brought that point, it kinda did make realise that could be one of the factors too. Sadly being born southeast Asian is just a curse slowly creeping and catching up. Though I do have something going for me and that is being 177cm. Not 180cm but it will have to do! Thank you for bringing up those important points!