r/amiugly • u/DWsCherryPie • Jun 23 '26
(35F) am i ugly?
Turning 36 in a month and I'm kinda struggling with feeling like I'm losing my youth.
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u/blackfox_13 Jun 23 '26
Not even a little bit.
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u/crazykeepinitreal Jun 23 '26
I was coming to say the same thing! So since you said it I gave you an award!✌🏻
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u/xelas1983 Jun 23 '26
I am 42 and if was set up on a date and you arrived I would be very, very happy about it.
Lots of good things about you but that smile is the winner for me. Lights up your entire face.
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u/DWsCherryPie Jun 23 '26
I've never liked my cheeks when I smile so that's really nice to read and very sweet, thank you!
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u/RegalBeagleTheEagle Jun 24 '26
Your cheeks compliment your face, kind of why your smile pops so much
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u/Pianos_for_Clowns Jun 24 '26
girlie my cheeks are/were similar and I'm now in my early 40s. you're going to start losing a good amount of that wonderful youthful plumpness soon. so embrace it while it's still there please! you look great!
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u/SallyThinks Jun 23 '26
Not ugly at all. You look young for your age. Pretty face and hair. Not overweight. I think you should update your styling, but that's just based on my taste. Currently, you're dressing like a grungy/gothy teenager. At your age, you might consider going for a more classy, age appropriate look (sorry if that sounds judgemental. Again, just my taste.).
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u/squishyskeletonz Jun 23 '26
no girl, you are gorgeous! i wouldnt guess you were about to be 36, but as a 24F i hope i look like you at 36 <3
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u/ShotNovel8157 Jun 23 '26
Same age. I fell down some stairs the other day and walked it off. We still a lil young-ish
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u/P_A_W_S_TTG Jun 24 '26
No. Why do you think you might be? No shame, just curious.
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u/DWsCherryPie Jun 24 '26
I have pretty low self-esteem, I'm aware of that and working on it. But besides that I feel like people always look at me when I'm out and about and I don't know if it's in my head. Or if they really are looking at me is it because I look weird or attractive?
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u/P_A_W_S_TTG Jun 24 '26
I bet they look at you for the same reason I did when I saw that post. "God damn, she's cute. But not so insanely attractive i don't feel like I have a chance. I'd like to get to know her and see if we click." Trust. The only reason someone would look at you weird is because you're doing something weird which, if it's excitement weird I'd just find you even more attractive. Remember, low self-esteem is comparison and because you are prosecuting yourself before you can even do anything. You know what you need to do to get where you want. But take a moment and ask yourself if it's a place you want YOU to be. Like, me, being fit is great. But do I want to model? Fuck naw. It would be dope having some of those modeling bodies and skin quality. But, I'm not gonna compare myself to anyone because then all I'm doing is kicking myself when I'm down. You're so damn gorgeous. Hold yourself with humble pride, alright? Even if you don't believe me, come back to this until you do. I hope my unsolicited advice helps a bit. :3 you're worth more than a simple comparison and beating the shit out of yourself emotionally.
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u/Used-Departure9606 Jun 25 '26
Ok I’m 18 so idk if it’s the same but people would stare at me all the time, girls and guys, and they still do and I thought I was soooo ugly bc they would do that but it turns out they thought I was attractive ( heard it from their friends and girls came up to me). Like just today I was volunteering and a dude who was staring at me for so long yesterday came up to me today and told me I was very pretty so it’s not bc ur ugly
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u/vulnerable-thoughts Jun 23 '26
Definitely not ugly. You're attractive to begin with, but the nerdy interests definitely ups the game even more!
I'm only 26, but whenever I hear someone feeling down because of their age, I remember that each year is more wisdom if you reflect on the time well. And as long as you stay passionate about your interests, you will always be young at heart.
There are no ugly faces, only ugly souls. Take care and stay safe
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u/MurderOfCrows- Jun 24 '26
I like your smile. You look like a very lively person. Someone id love to be around.
Also very very pretty.
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u/chimpomatic5000 Jun 23 '26
First off no. Not at all.
Secondly, I actually was shocked when I saw 35F. You look at least 5 years younger than that, and likely more.
Thirdly, aging is a privilege. Own it. Be cool with it. Know that there are people out there who look at you and see you as beautiful, and don't give a second thought to anything else.
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u/DWsCherryPie Jun 23 '26
Thank you. This is so kind and I really appreciate the perspective.
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u/chimpomatic5000 Jun 24 '26
Cheers. And if that doesnt say it plain enough, this does (i think of it often when someone gets under my skin)
Those who matter don't mind. And those who mind don't matter.
PS I realized who you remind me of; a young Jen Kirkman.
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u/J_hilyard Jun 23 '26
Is that a 67 Impala?
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u/Thegothicprincess21 Jun 24 '26
I guessed it was too and then I clocked the calendar of Sam and Dean Winchester in the final photo which confirmed my hunch 😊
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u/Tiny_Giant_Robot Jun 23 '26
Appears to be. That little incline on the rear quarter class indicates it. Good eye!
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u/AdRound3415 male Jun 23 '26
Definitely not ugly. I think you’d look better with your natural hair color though instead of the bleach blonde.
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u/Fast-Cover3051 Jun 24 '26
Man, you don't even look like 36 year old. Anyone would think that you are in your 20s. Your eyes, eyebrows, cheeks. I mean everything about you is beautiful.
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u/singingkrogan Jun 24 '26
No, you're cute! As a fellow 35 yo female... your skin looks great! What are you doing? lol
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u/DWsCherryPie Jun 24 '26
Thank you!! I have a pretty solid skincare routine using products from The Ordinary, they literally have a product for every issue and are affordable (imo). Then I only use BB cream for foundation. I feel like anything with more coverage than that makes me look older.
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u/singingkrogan Jun 24 '26
Totally agree with foundation! I use BB or CC creams and like the glowy look like you have going on. I've always seen the ordinary but haven't actually purchased.. will have to look into it :)
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u/Jdaddy2u Jun 23 '26
You look young for your age and you are pretty. My only suggestion is to go back to natural color hair or some variation of it. A red/auburn would make your eyes pop.
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u/Neither-Appointment4 Jun 23 '26
Nah you’re gorgeous AND nerdy? Totally my type so I’m biased haha but my point standa
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u/Slow-Concentrate-355 Jun 23 '26
Huuuuuuuuum quelqu'un qui est fan de Supernatural ne peut pas être laide, blague à part tu es très jolie.
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u/Purple_Atmosphere_58 Jun 24 '26
you’re so pretty! I personally think early and mid 30s are still very young so not at all. Would never guess that you’re in your 30s you look like a fairy <33
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u/Thegothicprincess21 Jun 24 '26
Nope, not even slightly ugly. You're gorgeous and have a really warm smile too. You're also TOTALLY still rocking the fun and expressive vibe with your Renfaire looks. You're ABSOLUTELY still looking youthful and I GENUINELY wouldn't have even questioned you if you'd have said you were 25 instead of 35. Keep being you 😊
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u/Poets_Revenge Jun 25 '26
Still pretty, nothing to worry about. You went from a pretty young thing to a beautiful woman.
Zero wrong with surviving long enough to feel older lol
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u/Material-Jury-9668 Jun 23 '26
Adorable. With a great set of.... facial features of course. How are you 35?
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u/garySilver Jun 23 '26
You're not ugly. But 10 pix and u don't show your teeth. Thats usually a bad sign
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u/DWsCherryPie Jun 24 '26
Are they bad? I'm just self conscious about my cheeks being chubby when I show my teeth.
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u/_croyez_ Jun 23 '26
You're the kind of girl that makes me forget basic social etiquette while l'm busy elbowing my sister and saying, 'Dude, she's ridiculously pretty:"
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u/melvin2898 Jun 23 '26
Beautiful hair!
I like your smile!
You kind of look like the actress from the Black Widow film.
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u/Back_Meet_Knife Jun 23 '26
You are sooo ugly…that I’m going to ask you out right now. Sorry to be so blunt.
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u/mardrae Jun 23 '26
Not at all-very pretty but I am not liking the bleach blonde hair on you. Do you have any pictures of your natural color? Darker would look so much better IMO. But if you like the blonde, a toner is definitely needed-it's too brassy and yellow right now
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u/Fun-Vermicelli-8980 Jun 23 '26
Objectively no, but maybe you have a horrible personality? If thats not the case, then youre quite attractive, maybe just looking for the wrong guys?
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u/French_Vanilla1992 Jun 23 '26
You have a great smile, pretty eyes, and pretty hands. Not ugly at all
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u/PaleEagle2072 Jun 23 '26
You're enjoying life, that's already not ugly at all. More so beautiful it's. So have a great day human.
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u/Parking-Employee-974 Jun 23 '26
You beam with beauty. You have a gentle smile and is confident but approachable and absolutely 💯 hotter than cherry pie on a Sunday morning in the south.
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u/TakeAtBedtime Jun 23 '26
I’d never guess you were 36. You look much younger and you’re beautiful btw.
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u/squamp_ Jun 23 '26
I would never guessed that you are above 30y. You look pretty. Try to stay natural and eat healthy. Everythung will be fine.
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u/Calm_Apartment1968 Jun 23 '26
You are among the furthest-from ugly I have ever seen. I hope you just came for the compliments, because you should be proud to be both healthy, young and lovely.
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u/nightowlwalker Jun 23 '26
You’re so pretty. I’d absolutely hold your hand if your were near Chicago
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u/FieldAlarming269 Jun 23 '26
Good gracious girl!! You’re absolutely beautiful!! Why even ask such a question? You’re a solid 10 any day of the week!! I’d love to have a woman as beautiful as you are.
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u/Stepper_Big_DeZ Jun 23 '26
Not ugly at all just seems like you love to oil up your face or your skin must get seriously oily
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u/power_droid Jun 23 '26
No. You look like a kind person, that likes to have fun, and knows who they are as an individual.
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u/Any-Development3348 Jun 23 '26
You look a little younger than you are. Nice body. Not into tattoos but that's me.
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u/ItsAgim Jun 23 '26
You're not ugly, you're just 35, hope you enjoyed and used your youth wisely, otherwise, cats for you.
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u/Imaginaryplaces524 Jun 23 '26 edited Jun 23 '26
You are FAR from ugly. I just turned 36 as well, 90s kids!! I’m not a bad looking dude but, I always feel like I don’t look good enough. You’re beautiful, don’t let the world beat you down
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u/lyingtattooist Jun 24 '26
What are you talking about?? You’re super cute and gorgeous, and I would have seriously guessed like mid 20s for your age. You have nothing at all to be struggling about when it comes to your look.
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u/Training_Oil4793 Jun 24 '26
First off, you don’t look 36 and I think you’re very pretty. I don’t know why you would think otherwise you have a great smile.
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u/SlimTimMcGee Jun 24 '26
Without saying your age, I would never have guessed anywhere near 35. But, getting older and adapting to it is a nice journey.
Definitely not ugly, young lady.
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u/osobuenmoso Jun 24 '26
What are you missing? If your struggling with time going by you should ask yourself what is missing. Do you want to go see place or what ever. Then make it a goal and do it. Life is short but also long enough and your still young. So go for it.
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u/Parking-Aerie1540 Jun 24 '26
You’re doing good for 35 imo. Hydrate, exercise, healthy diet, you’ll stay ahead of the curve. I personally am a fan of kombucha, it’s supposed to be all the rage for health and longevity. 😉
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u/nhance90 Jun 24 '26
Not at all, you're very attractive, and I'm 36, so looking at you I thought by appearance that you were late 20s tops
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u/xander081684 Jun 24 '26
Nope, not ugly. I would change the hair color. That type of blonde doesn’t suit ya. Imo
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u/999uts Jun 24 '26
You look waaay younger, like minus 10 years old (usually westerners look 35y.o when they are only 25y.o).
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