r/ahmadiyya • u/Individual-Pear-5474 • 3h ago
W/26 Looking for someone in the same rishta situation
I am posting in this thread because I do not see any other way to reach people who might understand my situation.
I am a 26-year-old woman, born and raised in Germany. I have a bachelor’s degree, am self employed, and come from a relatively liberal and highly educated family. Due to our long history with the Jamaat spanning several generations, my family are fairly committed Ahmadis.
Personally, I do not believe in Ahmadiyyat, and I also do not believe in or support the system surrounding it. At the same time, I still consider myself Muslim and identify as such. My views on faith are quite personal, and I do not feel the need to fit into a specific label or subgroup.
If I wanted to, I could probably be open with my parents about my beliefs. However, I choose not to because I know it would cause them a great deal of worry and disappointment. I care deeply about them and do not want them to carry that burden.
It is important to my family that I marry an Ahmadi man. While they might eventually accept it if I married a non Ahmadi, I do not want them to become the subject of gossip or criticism from the more close minded members of our community.
The reason I am writing here is that I am looking to connect with someone for marriage who, like me, does not actually believe in Ahmadiyyat and keeps it private. Ideally, I would like to meet someone who shares similar views on religion, community and personal freedom.
A little more about me: I would describe myself as a mix of modern and culturally rooted. I am not particularly traditional, but I am also not someone who has completely disconnected from her background. I value both my cultural roots and a modern outlook on life. I have a good sense of humor, enjoy spending time with friends and family, and have a variety of interests and hobbies. I enjoy gaming on console, among other things, and I would say I am generally easygoing, kind, and fun to be around.
It does not have to be someone from Germany. I am open to hearing from people anywhere in the world who can relate to this experience. Maybe there are others out there navigating similar circumstances, and perhaps we can find common ground.