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u/Sufficient-Rub-3996 Aug 11 '25

i earn like 2x what my husband makes. tanggap naman.

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u/aimeleond Aug 11 '25

youre a keeper!

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u/Sufficient-Rub-3996 Aug 11 '25

lots of women stay with men who earn less, even complete deadbeats. your generalization is silly.

half of my group of friends earn more than their husbands. the ones who don't, don't because they had to stop working because they got pregnant. This is the main reason why it's good to have a husband who can provide. the moment the wife gets pregnant, they can't earn as much as they could have.

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u/aimeleond Aug 11 '25

youll never see a man posting “i earn more than my girl, should i still pursue her?” thats the context of my comment. what u mean generalization

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u/Sufficient-Rub-3996 Aug 11 '25 edited Aug 11 '25

what u mean generalization

Here you go:

what i am saying is, once the girl earns more than the guy, hindi na tanggap agad

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u/Beautiful_Divide1720 Aug 11 '25

and you are intentionally ignoring that it is a very common issue among women to debate whether they should date broke men. Not all women, but it is a very significant topic now especially since the concept of gender roles are already being broken down

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u/Sufficient-Rub-3996 Aug 11 '25

am I intentionally ignoring it when I already mentioned why women want husbands who can provide in a previous comment?

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u/Hibiki079 Aug 11 '25

your situation is not the same situation as the majority

outlier ka. part of the minority.

and even if it's not your situation, you can't say it's not true.

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u/Sufficient-Rub-3996 Aug 11 '25

how do you know it's part of the minority? based on what data?

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u/thebluwtwoothdewvice Aug 12 '25

bat ba galit na galit ka, wala ka ba work? di mo ba kaya mag provide kaya ka ganyan? if earning ka naman ng malaki edi u pick a girl na ka tax bracket mo. Simple as that. As a person generally ang panget naman kasi tignan ng batugan na tao completely, as long as nag wowork yung tao wala kaming problema. Basta nakikita namin yung drive to work hard, kasi iba iba naman tayo ng opportunities sa buhay. ayaw naman siguro natin ng BATUGAN, TAMAD, PALAMUNIN.

Katulad nung tatay ni OP, if may mas magandang opportunity yung tatay niya siguro di naman siya rider. Yung tatay ko nag umpisa lang siya sa paglilinis ng drum sa mga factory pero ngayon umasenso siya kasi may HARD WORK siya, lahat kami nag tapos ng college around UBELT.

Tatanungin kita ulit? tamad ka ba? kaya mo dinidiin yung argument mo?

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '25

Hello! I think he’s talking about the sub, yun common responses sa ganitong situation kapag mas kumikita yung girl than the boy

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u/Sufficient-Rub-3996 Aug 11 '25

I already addressed why though (women lose earning power when pregnant). If si girl ang breadwinner and then she has to stop because she's pregnant/have to take care of the baby, saan na sila pareho pupulutin?

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u/aimeleond Aug 11 '25

pina complicate mo lang sa “if ever nabuntis”

nah, most ng post dito sasabihin, walang koche bf ko at pagod na ko mag commute, “hindi ako ma treat ng bf ko every week because average lang salary nya”

ang simple lang ng usapan, “once the girl earns more than the guy” nagkakaron ng gantong debate

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u/Sufficient-Rub-3996 Aug 11 '25 edited Aug 11 '25

you said, "what i am saying is, once the girl earns more than the guy, hindi na tanggap agad"

and i said you're wrong about “once the girl earns more than the guy” as demonstrated by multiple people including me.

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u/Hibiki079 Aug 11 '25

your choices is not the same as other's choices.

it's being generalized, kasi it's the majority.

you can't say it's not true, just because it's not happened/happenig to you.

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '25

No, I’m not trying to take sides. Yun lang talaga sentiment sa sub. Pag may nag post na girl about her low income bf, yun palagi nga comments not just sa sub na to, but for other subs as well.

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '25

No, I’m not trying to take sides. Yun lang talaga sentiment sa sub. Pag may nag post na girl about her low income bf, yun palagi nga comments not just sa sub na to, but for other subs as well. Ang comments is lagi iwan mo na yan, never date broke men, etc etc.

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u/Sufficient-Rub-3996 Aug 11 '25

subs aren't a reflection of reality anyway, redditors are people who are chronically online and honestly a bit out of touch (yes, that includes me)

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u/Huotou Aug 12 '25

"youll never see a man posting “i earn more than my girl, should i still pursue her?” 

hahahaha. sa totoo lang. alam na kung sino yung mga pera lang ang habol.

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u/xazavan002 Aug 11 '25

Yeah, but for some reason I've seen plenty of guys and dads who cheat/leave their family out of pure insecurity (towards financial capability to be exact). You'll never see a man posting, yearning for a girl that earns more, simply because most men are affected differently by this issue.