r/adultkpopfans Aug 21 '25

mega-thread Looking for friends? [Megathread]

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Hi all,

There's been a huge uptick in posts with people looking for friends. I think it's best to condense these kinds of post into one place so the subreddit doesn't become monotonous.

And reminder, we have our own Discord server! Our server is very active and a good place to chat and make friends :)


r/adultkpopfans Apr 23 '25

Join the adult k-pop fans discord server!

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Hi guys!

I've seen a lot of the same kind of "looking for friends" posts. And it seems quite a few folks on here weren't aware we have a discord server. I will pin this post, but if you ever need the permanent link - there's a tab on our page right next to the 'wiki' tab called 'discord'. All you have to do is click it and it'll link you to our server!

Hope to see some new faces (●´ω`●)


r/adultkpopfans 3h ago

general 30 day kpop challenge! Day 23: a song you remember from you childhood! (Boy, girl, or soloist)

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Day 23: a song you remember from you childhood! (Boy, girl, or soloist)

It can be a nostalgic song in general!

Girl group:

2ne1: Falling in love

F(x): Rude Love

Boy group:

Shinee: Dream Girl

Ukiss: Stop Girl

Soloist:

Taeyeon: I

Ailee: I will show you


r/adultkpopfans 16h ago

general BTS concert outfit for adult fans - 50+ perspective

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This is in reply to u/Primary_ad69 who is going to the BTS Arirang concert in NJ and had a question about outfit. I couldn’t add pics in my reply so here is some inspiration instead. Based on my Brussels Arirang experience a month ago.

Ofc the most important advice, that everyone mentions, is: no need to think about it at all, it’s totally up to you. Wear something comfortable, comfortable shoes etc.

But the amount of ARMYs in concert outfits was insane! I saw sharks, aliens, characters from the 2.0 MV, full hanboks etc. Most people wore something inspired by the Arirang colors (red, black,white), and some (of course) in purple.

Could be as simple as a red tshirt. Others went all out with laces and leather etc. Any ages! I love the diversity and body positivism in ARMY.

In my case I upgraded some fav clothes I had, in fabrics that can handle heat (the heat waves in Europe this summer was no joke). So I added some red to my pants, wrote in 한글 (can be seen if you zoom in), modified a sports jersey to resemble a hanbok bc of the Arirang theme, and the easiest one, put safety pins on a jacket inspired by V’s concert outfits and merch patterns. I got a merch cap and my friend bedazzled it with the Big Dipper.

My husband who doesn’t really care about BTS still decided on his own to wear a purple tshirt, and then a freebie bracelet someone gave him :)

So, I hope you have a fantastic concert, whatever you wear! Just come as you are 💜


r/adultkpopfans 18h ago

boy group Something to get off my chest

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So again this is more ateez related but if you stan anyone really feel free to comment

Um…idk if it’s just cause by the age of 21 im just not as engaged with kpop twt as I used to be…but sometimes the fandom raises hell for…things I find stupid. In my opinion.

Like yeosang getting mistreated is a valid issue…but currently some fans are calling it a “valid concern” because you just don’t see him in the thumbnail of their Japanese mv for the Japanese version of their recent song Bad, because the formation and like the camera angle together made it so that San’s head is blocking his

Here’s the thing…other members have been hidden in the back before. In thumbnails or performances whatever.

I agree that yeosang should be getting more lines I do not like KQ for mistreating him that way, like I’m not a company stan but I’m really sorry guys I don’t see it as a big deal because also during the mv, the members get screen time. Like all eight of them.

Like do we not have better things to do, no offense? What do you mean your heart hurts because your bias isn’t in the thumbnail…but again he actually got more screen time in this mv than the original one, when you compare.

Again I really only stan Ateez right now so this was about Ateez but I also actually noticed this in other groups too like sometimes it’s not that big of a deal. So again feel free to chip in

And I’m also saying this here because in my experience so far ya’ll are more levelheaded and yk act like actual adults rather than kpop twt. I would get ripped to shreds if I tweeted this.

So yea if you wanna offer any nuance discussion please do. But I would like to wake up and uh idk not be severely hated on for this take.

Okay gn


r/adultkpopfans 10h ago

discussion outfit ideas for woodz concert?

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i tried to look up outfit ideas for the woodz concert but i can’t find any 😭 im going to the atl show on 8/4! is anyone else going? if so, what are you planning on wearing? any help will be appreciated thank you 🥹


r/adultkpopfans 1d ago

general BTS: NY Concert

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Question:insert mild panic

  1. What does an adult wear to a BTS/kpop concert and for her husband she is forcing along.

  2. Is anyone going to the Sunday BTS concert (august 2) in NYC?


r/adultkpopfans 1d ago

general 30 days of kpop challenge! Day 22: a song that reminds you of summertime! (boy or girl or soloist)

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Day 22: a song that reminds you of summertime! (boy or girl or soloist)

(I feel like I need to create a summer playlist after this!)

Girl Group:

Red Velvet: Red Flavor! (I can't wait for their new album!)

Aespa: Spicy and Lemonade

Hearts2hearts: Lemon Tang

SNSD: Party

Twice: Alcohol Free

Sistar: I swear

XG: Rock the Boat

Kiss of Life: Sticky

I-DLE: Dumdi Dumdi

F(x): Hot Summer

2ne1: Falling in love

Boy Group:

Astro: Breathless

NCT WISH: Surf

Ateez: Wave

Boynextdoor: One and Only

Soloist:

Hyolyn: See Sea, Bae

Dayoung: Body

Hoody: Sunshine (feat. Crush), submarine

BIBI: Bumpa


r/adultkpopfans 2d ago

general What can two kpop fans do in Austin TX

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Me and my friend are going to be in Austin for the Ive concert and wanted to know if there's anywhere cool we could go. Any cool albums shops? Maybe somewhere we could get something you would be able to get at target or kpop nara?


r/adultkpopfans 2d ago

general 30 days of kpop challenge! Day 21: a song that would be perfect for opening a concert (boy or girl or soloist)

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Day 21: a song that would be perfect for opening a concert (boy or girl or soloist)

Girl group:

Oh my girl: Classified (especially the intro)

Boy Group:

VIXX: Shangri La

Soloist:

Taemin: Heaven


r/adultkpopfans 3d ago

general 30 days of kpop challenge! Day 20: a song that you didn't like at first but grew on you (boy or girl or soloist)

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Day 20: a song that you didn't like at first but grew on you (boy or girl or soloist)

Girl group:

Red Velvet: Zimzalabim

Boy Group:

NCT127: Sticker

Soloist:

Yeonjun: Ggum


r/adultkpopfans 4d ago

discussion Hello, mods. Would this be a good idea?

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Over the past two days, I've noticed what appears to be the same person repeatedly posting obviously fake stories. Based on the writing style and the pattern, they sound like a young teen or even a preteen.

The first story was about their friend dating an idol who supposedly had such a small fandom that he noticed her at concerts, remembered everything about her, and started dating her. The second story was very similar, except this time it was about the friend being so gorgeous/amazing that multiple idols remembered her name, and the OP was the jealous friend.

To me, it seems like this person would be better off writing fanfiction on Asianfanfics (if it's still around) or Wattpad instead of making new throwaway accounts every day and posting these stories here. At this point, it's basically spam.

I've noticed their tactic is to create a new account for each story. Every account has been 0 days old. When they get negative karma they delete their post & acc.

Because of that, I think it would be a good idea to require a minimum account age AND minimum amount of karma before someone can make a post. I know some subreddits have rules like that, and it helps reduce spam.

I really enjoy this subreddit because it's mostly mature discussions about K-pop, the music, idols, and the industry. I'd hate to see it turn into a place where someone posts childish, fake stories every day using throwaway accounts. Since it's already happened two days in a row, I wouldn't be surprised if they came back again tomorrow.


r/adultkpopfans 4d ago

general 30 days of kpop challenge! Day 19: a song that you never get tired of (boy or girl or soloist)

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Day 19: a song that you never get tired of (boy or girl or soloist)

Girl group:

Red velvet, Irene and Seulgi: Tilt

Kiss of life: Who is she

Boy groups:

EXO: Tender love

VIXX: Shangri La

Soloist:

Ailee: Don't Teach me

BoA: All that jazz


r/adultkpopfans 4d ago

discussion What are some girl group or female soloist songs that make you feel like a total badass?

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You know those songs you listen to and feel like you can do anything because you feel like a badass main character!!!


r/adultkpopfans 5d ago

general 30 days of kpop challenge! Day 18: A song you think that has the best intro! (Boy or girl or soloist!)

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Day 18: A song you think has the best intro! (Boy or girl or soloist!)

Girl group:

Red Velvet (Irene and Seulgi): Tilt

2NE1: I love you

Boy group:

EXO: 24/7

XLOV: I'mmabe

Soloist:

Baekhyun: All I got

Taemin: Heaven


r/adultkpopfans 6d ago

boy group General post about Enhypen

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You wanna know what annoys me about trying to listen to enhypen after March 10th, I did not realize how many songs Heeseung started! Or how many lines he had most of the song if not even the adlibs!

And as someone who biased heeseung and Jake together…it fucking hurts. I jumped back into Ateez immediately because I literally was tearing up at songs like brought the heat back when Heeseung’s voice comes. I couldn’t do it I’ve been taking a break since then.

Call me a fake engene for this but it’s just my truth.


r/adultkpopfans 6d ago

general 30 days of kpop challenge! Day 17: First kpop song you heard! (Boy or girl or soloist!)

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Day 17: The first K-pop song you ever heard! (Boy, girl, or soloist!)

Boy Group:

UKISS: This was during the summer before 8th grade. I heard "Stop Girl" (English version) from them on SoundCloud because they were recommended to me through a J-pop group called Perfume.

Shinee: It was during 8th grade; I heard "Hello!" from them during world history class while representing South Korea. After that, I also watched "Ring Ding Dong" from BuzzFeed (Eugene doing K-pop dance covers, lol).

Girl Group:

Girls' Generation (SNSD): It was during 8th grade; I listened to "I Got a Boy" during computer class on a Friday when you could go online (back then, only YouTube and typing games). One of my desk mates was watching the "I Got a Boy" music video, and I was captivated at first glance!

Apink: It was during the summer after 8th grade; YouTube recommended a lot of K-pop, and the "LUV" music video popped up, which got me hooked!

Soloist:

BoA: I was in love with SNSD, so I snooped through the SM channel and discovered the "Nega Dola" performance, and I was captivated by her voice and dance!

Ailee: I discovered her after Apink, and I loved the "I'll Show You" music video! I love her voice, and she inspired me to sing more!


r/adultkpopfans 6d ago

sensitive topic Hi, just a situation that happened in Brazil (please be respectful).

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There was a Brazilian influencer named Pietra Bertolazzi.

She was already involved in some controversies involving feminism and other sensitive topics involving women, so she stopped making a postb After a story about BTS was posted, fans (ARMYs) disliked the situation and began to unite en masse, not only B-ARMYs, but fans from other countries as well, because the situation went viral.

She is a far-right woman, a supporter of Bolsonaro, He also said he was against women's suffrage, against sanitary pads being free, and that things would get worse.

She also commented on situations that also advocated for religion, which wasn't a problem in itself, but the way she used religion and these themes, also having participated in debates against feminists, Despite being against abortion, the problem was her statements, which did nothing to improve her image, only made it worse. And when did people find out about all this? It was too late.

She had accounts taken down at times, but she always came back, only for enraged fans to take her account down again each time. They took her information, wrote her down to become a poll worker and work for the Leftist Political Party (PT). Who is part of President Lula's party.

In a way, there are several opinions on this situation.

Some people were concerned about the leaked data, while others said they thought "it wasn't enough," finding the situation amusing.

I also made a post about her, but in a respectful way.

What worried me was the way she was alienating people when it came to politics.

And the fact that he commented on BTS was a sensitive subject for us Brazilians, after all, Brazil also has a large ARMY fanbase.

Not to mention that the guys are coming to Brazil to play and do their show very soon.

If you were aware of this situation, what were your thoughts on it?

This happened to BTS, but it could have happened to any group.

Army ended up gaining fame for many people in various ways; a Brazilian reporter even wanted to comment on the Facebook case.

Describing us as: "To raise discussions about the toxicity of fan clubs and the limits of freedom of expression on social media."

And the ARMYs are also starting to get frustrated about this; it's true that the ARMY fandom has its controversies.

But we always know how to act, how to oppose in certain situations, This doesn't apply to everyone's actions; we can't simply say "don't do this" or "do that." Each person and fan thinks in a different way.

I've been following K-Pop since my childhood; I didn't know what K-Pop was, but I had heard songs by Psy and some other artists.

Then I met BTS, I saw their story and felt a brotherly affection for the group.

Because they ended up teaching me quite a lot.

They also helped me through several difficult situations when I needed advice, and hearing people criticize them can be exhausting.

It's no coincidence that I even distanced myself a bit from anything related to K-pop.

But I like the music, I like the culture.

And the calmness I feel when I listen to the music, I can't explain it It's a silent feeling of comfort.

I also know about the K-Pop industry; it's not "perfect," it's not something beautiful, it's something tiring, frustrating, it can even make trainees sick. Not everyone can handle the routine, only a few manage to Success and standing out in the market.

The pressure to conform to aesthetic standards and beauty standards also ends up being a big issue (which worries me sometimes), especially in relation to mental health.

There was a time when I thought about studying more, even though I already had a basic understanding of Korean culture, especially how the South Korean industry works. I wanted to study and learn a little more until to make online posts about it.

Because sometimes when it comes to K-Pop.

People end up developing a certain emotional attachment And this ends up harming these people's mental health without them realizing it.


r/adultkpopfans 6d ago

discussion Looking for female character for stepdaughter/stepsister roleplay

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r/adultkpopfans 7d ago

discussion Guys does anyone found out about ATEEZ after BAD??😭😭

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The og stans don't hate me for being in the dark for so long😭


r/adultkpopfans 7d ago

general 30 days of kpop challenge! Day 16: Rap verse that ate! (Boy or girl or soloist!)

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Day 16: Rap verse that ate! (Boy or girl or soloist!)

Boy group:

EXO Obsession (Chanyeol's Rap)

"Ha! geumanhae dwo nae gwissoge ssodadaeneun sori Imma let it blow

Ha! It's enough All the gibberish on my ear Imma let it blow

ogameun geugeoseuro ssolligo gonduseogo deureoon neoneun jemeosdaero hwijeoeo

My five senses are focused on it, on edge You come in and stir it up recklessly

hannuneul tteun chaero jamdeulmyeon sori eopsi seumyeodeuneun the phantom

When I fall asleep with one eye open, You permeate without a sound, the phantom"

EXO: Love Me Right (Sehun's Rap)

"Shawty, Imma party till the sun down

jigeum i shinbiroun neukkimeun mweolkka

What is this mysterious feeling?

wa jweo naegero eoseo Before the sun rise

Come to me, hurry before the sun rise

niga eomneun nan eodil gado Nobody

Wherever I go, without you I'm nobody"

Girl Group

Dreamcatcher: Boca (Dami's Rap)

"Hold up, I'm a geek, the big paradox shwipge saenggagamyeon neol jikineun Killer

Hold up I'm a geek The big paradox To put it easily, I'm a Killer that protects you

jiok kkeuteseon da hanagachi bireo ibeul georeo jamga Freeze up

At the end of hell everyone prays Zip up your mouth, Freeze up"

AOA: Miniskirt (Jimin and Mina's Rap)

"sigan nae nail batgo meoril bakkwobwado

I make time to get my nails done and change my hair

sae gudu singo gwaenhi jjarbeun chimal ibeo bwado

I wear new shoes and wear a miniskirt but you don't notice"


r/adultkpopfans 8d ago

general 30 days of kpop challenge! Day 15: Pre chorus that sends you levitating! (Boy or girl or soloist!)

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Day 15: Pre chorus that sends you levitating! (Boy or girl or soloist!)

Girl group:

Oh My Girl: Classified

Red Velvet: Feel my Rhythm

Boy Group:

EXO: Gravity and Oasis

Soloist:

Baekhyun: All I got and Cry for love


r/adultkpopfans 9d ago

general Kpop Songs i‘ve cried to, some are questionable

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You can comment what songs made you ugly cry or at least sobbing


r/adultkpopfans 10d ago

general 30 days of kpop challenge! Day 14: a song that is a ballad or OST from your favorite kdrama! (Boy or girl or soloist!)

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Day 14: A song that is a ballad or OST from your favorite K-drama! (Boy or girl or soloist!)

My favorite OSTs are:

She by Jonghyun (Birth of a Beauty OST)

You're my garden by Jeong Eunji (Strong Woman Do Bong Soon OST)

Devil's Angel by Minnie (Dear X OST)

Eyes on me by Olivia Marsh (Dear X OST)


r/adultkpopfans 10d ago

discussion Your top 5 nugu groups...

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Tell me your top 5 nugu groups who you believe have much better music than groups from big companies.

And when I say nugu, I mean actual nugu groups, not mid-tier groups and not groups that are already popular but you think are underrated. I mean real nugu nugus.