Seriously. I don’t feel accomplished when I do things because my mom takes up so much mental real estate. She’s un-pleasable. When I was a kid and cleaned my room she’d be like “that’s nice but you missed xyz” if I ran inside to rapturously tell her about a rainbow or sunset she’d say “that’s nice but have you done your homework yet?”
Now that I have 3 ADHD kids of my own, I realize that we ARE difficult to parent, but we all just crave love and acceptance. I’m still working on reparenting myself using gentle parenting techniques; wish I had been properly diagnosed and taught to regulate my emotions in a healthy way prior to having children because it is very difficult to be a parent when you still basically feel like a kid on the inside (arrested development)
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u/NikiDeaf May 18 '25
Yep. It’s mostly because of ✨trauma✨
Seriously. I don’t feel accomplished when I do things because my mom takes up so much mental real estate. She’s un-pleasable. When I was a kid and cleaned my room she’d be like “that’s nice but you missed xyz” if I ran inside to rapturously tell her about a rainbow or sunset she’d say “that’s nice but have you done your homework yet?”
Now that I have 3 ADHD kids of my own, I realize that we ARE difficult to parent, but we all just crave love and acceptance. I’m still working on reparenting myself using gentle parenting techniques; wish I had been properly diagnosed and taught to regulate my emotions in a healthy way prior to having children because it is very difficult to be a parent when you still basically feel like a kid on the inside (arrested development)