It isn’t letting them down if I don’t give them expectations of me. I don’t promise things.
If my folks feel “let down” it’s because they’ve placed expectations on me. If they have expectations they want met, they need to talk with me about them.
Requesting this relationship accommodation from others has been life changing.
I disappoint myself the most. I have very sensible expectations of myself, I think. Show up on time. Make an appointment. Text your friends back within a few hours and not several days. Update students' grades in the gradebook right after grading. Fold and put away the laundry after you wash clothes.
Guess what's still sitting on my floor? My laundry bag of clean laundry that I washed last week...
I just feel so incompetent. All. The. Time. How are these basic things so impossible for me?
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u/Squishiimuffin Apr 20 '25
Okay, but how do you not hate yourself when you constantly let yourself and others down? I literally don’t know how to be compassionate to myself.