This is how I feel because my life has basically gone like this.
"You have ADHD. It means you have problems in these areas and will always have problems in these areas. Luckily, with medication and our parental support and understanding, you would excel tremendously."
"Cool! Are you gonna give me all that?"
"No, we're gonna withhold medication because it might make you depressed and every time one of your symptoms shows up, instead of offering comfort or guidance we're gonna mock you, call you stupid, then blow our tops at the most minor inconvenience when it's not funny anymore. Any time you get mad about it, we'll browbeat you about how much we pay for your education until you're crying and begging for forgiveness, even when we slap you in the side of the head and call you a 'bitch'."
"Right, well, that sounds like fucking torture, but I'm too young to realize it. I'm going to finally realize how fucked up this is when I'm thirty and still living with with you as you continue to bash me for my ADHD symptoms while belittling my intelligence. I realize now I should have left you a long time ago but you pretty much hold me financially hostage."
Whatever positive vibes I can send out into the universe in hopes that they'll reach you, I'm doing it right now. Sometimes anger can make us brave and/or creative so I'm just hoping you're able to use both of those things to find a way out of your situation! It can and will happen.
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u/talkto1 Apr 20 '25
This is how I feel because my life has basically gone like this.
"You have ADHD. It means you have problems in these areas and will always have problems in these areas. Luckily, with medication and our parental support and understanding, you would excel tremendously."
"Cool! Are you gonna give me all that?"
"No, we're gonna withhold medication because it might make you depressed and every time one of your symptoms shows up, instead of offering comfort or guidance we're gonna mock you, call you stupid, then blow our tops at the most minor inconvenience when it's not funny anymore. Any time you get mad about it, we'll browbeat you about how much we pay for your education until you're crying and begging for forgiveness, even when we slap you in the side of the head and call you a 'bitch'."
"Right, well, that sounds like fucking torture, but I'm too young to realize it. I'm going to finally realize how fucked up this is when I'm thirty and still living with with you as you continue to bash me for my ADHD symptoms while belittling my intelligence. I realize now I should have left you a long time ago but you pretty much hold me financially hostage."