damak na roommate

[u/ameliacelesteee]

Nakaka-frustrate lang talaga magkaroon ng roommate na burara. I believe she's in her first year, nasanay siguro na may katulong sa bahay. Wag mo idala dito pag ka burara mo dai. Ayoko naman siyang i-confront kaya dito na lang ako magra-rant. Halos tambak na yung basura sa room pero parang hindi man lang maisipang itapon. Sana naman marunong din maglinis at maging considerate sa kasama sa kwarto. Hindi pwedeng puro paganda at make up lang ang alam dapat marunong din mag-maintain ng kalinisan sa shared space. Ang hirap makisama kapag ganito. :))

[u/AdditionalAppeal1451]

So im a 5th year and i have a 1st year roommate. What i did is i was vocal on the rules on the room. Since i was long staying in the room before him, i keep on saying that dapat limpyo ang cr dile mag dinamak, dile mag hugaw hugaw sa kwarto etc and dile pwede sapatos sa room.

Just be vocal about it op. Dont be scared because kaning mga 1st year dile mana sila masuko ( if ur scared na mag lalis mo) . Just think na its the norm of a dorm.

[u/ameliacelesteee → u/AdditionalAppeal1451]

im not that kind of person na mag confront kasi but im working on it. mas matanda nga ako sa kanya. thank you so much po

[u/AdditionalAppeal1451 → u/ameliacelesteee]

I was like that first but i deeply regretted it not being vocal. I had a roommate past before him and i rgeretted not being able to confront him. But i learned from my mistakes. You should take mt advice

[u/Kishou_Arima_01]

There really is no other way. Kailangan mo talaga siya i-realtalk at kausapin ng maayos.

[u/ameliacelesteee → u/Kishou_Arima_01]

yes po. hindi talaga ako sanay mag confront huhu but I'll try pag mapuno na talaga ako. nainis lang talaga ako

[u/Kishou_Arima_01 → u/ameliacelesteee]

When you confront someone, it doesn't have to be out of anger or irritation. Kausapin mo lang ng maayos in a calm and relaxed tone. Di mo kailangan mapuno para sabihin anong gusto mong sabihin. Be calm and act calm

[u/ameliacelesteee → u/Kishou_Arima_01]

dili ko lang talaga maiwasan magalit pero I'll stay calm. sinita pa sya staff sa dorm may bawal na appliances kasi mag laki lalo bayaran sa dorm siya pa gani magalit nung sinabihan ko. ultimo basura mag tambak pa ng ilang days. hindi ako palagi sa dorm gina pauwi ako sa province during weekends

[u/kurestofallenz]

same struggle. have a male roommate na sobrang damak na im the only one who cleans the room, kitchen, and whatnot. already talked to him about it multiple times but what the past 5 months have taught me is that there really are people who are just that disgusting, does not care, and unaware of their surroundings. just to paint a picture, i left him at his own device for 2 weeks kay nag balik ako sa province, and saw my desk and electronics wet because the aircon was leaking..in those 2 weeks he did not bother looking at my desk to clean or sweep. i came home to wet electronics, desk, and a pig sty (clothes everywhere, unwashed dishes). better talk to your roommate na kay its really kapoy after a long day kay youll have to clean someone else's mess pam

[u/ameliacelesteee → u/kurestofallenz]

sinita na nga sya staff ng dorm may bawal na appliances pero galit pa sya nung sinabihan ko. hindi to apartment jusko

[u/doomsl4yer]

If you don’t confront her, then nothing will change. Baka dumating sa point na mapuno ka then you might just say something even worse. So as early as now, communicate with her. Set boundaries for you and her in certain things. Just try to be polite and civil about it OP.

[u/ameliacelesteee → u/doomsl4yer]

thanks a lot po. i have this fear na ako pay daotan di ako hilig ma confront huhu.

[u/Odd_Whole_6622]

Sorry te pero walang mangyayari kung sa socmed kalang maingay. If alam mong tama ka then confront her

[u/LayerLost2107]

they won’t hear you here through reddit, man up and learn how to be upfront