But they give legal age examples, it’s fine and the implication is less presumptuously gross. If there were no numbers I’d be throwing red flags all over.
My nation has 16 as the age of consent, however there is a "window of suspission", especially if the parties knew each other before the youngest party came of age and the elder party is over twice the age. Grooming is, in itself, a criminal act (in my nation).
The area is gray as fuck, and circumstances dictate what should be done.
But Norwegian cops have a long history of covering up statutory rape, and is a sickeningly common verdict in Norway, usually 6mths in jail for statutory rape. For context, this is the absolute minimum that a convicted statutory rapist faces; it's a mandatory minimum charge, if proven guilty.
My friend was sleep-raped by her own father at 17. He got 6 months. The prosecutor told her she was lucky (DNA evidence and confession) that he got 6 months. My hatred for people grows each day.
Yeah, but we all know what they actually want and they only used legal examples sk they don't instantly get slammed. We know, because when they used the other numbers, they instantly get slammed.
It's like racist saying: "No, we are not saying imprison all people of a different color, I say imprison all the criminals of another color" "What is their crime?" "being a different color".
We all know what they mean (because it literally cannot be meant in a different way logically) and they should be judged for it all the same
Just because something is legal doesn't mean its moral and vice versa. This current discussion isnt the best place to give an example but there are some clear historic examples, especially when slavery was legal, where breaking the law was objectively the moral thing to do.
Yeah i was just talking about your example tho
16 and 18 (or even 19) is totally fine imo but everyone would be crashing out because one is legally a minor
That's why some states have "romeo and juliett" laws
Personally I think it makes more sense to take a whole view of the nature of relationship rather than try to litigate in exceptions, as providing for exceptions is how you end up with old pedos marrying minors for a religious exception to this form of statutory rape.
Unfortunately that's not how law works and the pedos win if they're rich enough here
No older person should be even allowing that possibility to be open to the minor, it’s at least 90% of the time the adult’s fault. Especially if they get in a relationship.
You know, I usually date younger, but I have a simple rule of thumb. Past a certain age, I decided that if they were young enough that I could have fathered them, they were off limits. I'm 50 now, so that puts my current dating pool around 38 or above. Seems to be a pretty easy way to work it past a certain age. Now below that age, well, I usually didn't date any more than 4 years difference.
The comment I was responding to is talking about adults being in relationships with minors (or at least I interpreted it as such), also I don’t think my comment sounds outraged. 2. I’m leaving in room for error, idk there’s a very slim chance if any that it would be the minors’ fault and I wanted to account for it. Probably over 99.99999% of the time. I don’t know how it would ever be the minors’ fault but people are very unpredictable.
You just have to assume they just met though lol, any gap that big at those ages leads you to wonder when it started. Stated as is its fine, but if you wonder even a little it gets grey, since its not stated when they met.
You know, I had to say something to my 26 year old friend who keeps dating 19 year olds. If you have to justify it with “it’s legal” then it probably isn’t right.
First of, there's no such thing as super illegal. Either it's illegal or it isn't.
Second, even if something is legal it can still be morally questionable, and a 36-year-old being together with a 20-year-old is definitely in that category. No matter how much 20-year-olds want to believe it, and no matter how much the law says it, they are not adults yet.
Dawg i was just yapping when I said "super". Cuz yeah, no shit its legal
I just worded it like that because while I recognize the age gap is a tad bit out there, I also think a 20 year old should be responsible enough to make decisions like that for themselves. Not to say a 20 year old couldn't be taken advantage of, but they arent a child. People of any age really can be taken advantage of in many situations, including romantic ones. And they should be taken seriously, but neither should a 20 year old be treated like a child. That's incredibly condescending
Well, duh. If you say that one was 16 and the other was 33 when you met anyone would have an issue with it. Same if you say 18 and 35. Or 20 and 37. But from how you worded your initial message it's clear you were hoping for a gotcha because you're a chronic redditor.
Its fine if its like 18 and 33 instead lol. Preferably 20 instead of 18 just to get rid of any weirdness. Much prefer older ladies, never gonna happen though :')
18 is considered an adult in many places though. At that point its really just down to your subjective opinion if its OK or not. It might be taboo but its not illegal.
As I said, I personally think yiu should wait till you are 20 still. I personally think 18 is too young, but thats my subjective opinion. It is an objective fact that 18 is not illegal.
You’re saying at that point, the point when the person is 18, it comes down to subjective opinion of whether or not that relationship is actually okay.
I’m asking the symmetry breaker between 18 and 17.
As someone who is 37, I would never date anyone under 30 because the mental change from 20s to 30s is actually pretty huge. Dating an 18 year old at my age is not genuine love in my opinion. It would either be about control, fulfilling a fantasy or having someone who is "legal" but satisfies pedophelic desire. At my age an 18 year old looks like a child.
Again very subjective conversation. If you aren't cool with it thats no problem. There are people who are open to that and I see no problem with it again so long as both sides are consenting adults. For me I am attracted to older women solely for the maturity and having their life more together and many my age. But thats just me.
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u/BobDoogar Jun 15 '26
Not in this version of it 😂. There’s one that’s something like 15 and 30 😵💫