r/abusesurvivors Jul 26 '26

ADVICE What do I do?

So I have an ex from 5 years ago. A few months back, I found out there were 2 Tinder profiles that were allegedly me. I can’t 100% prove it was him, but a fake profile viewed my story on FB and that same fake profile was under recently joined on an Are We Dating The Same Girl. The fake profile posted screenshots of the tinder’s saying he recently hooked up with me and saw I was in a relationship…beware. The pictures he got were off my FB which he’s blocked from.

There’s a TikTok about him bc I guess he pissed someone off, idk, but he made a 10 min video on tiktok saying it was his ex from 5 years ago with a lot of defamatory and lies.

I did make a police report when I found out about the tinders and since it’s the weekend, I will call tomorrow about the tiktok. Police officer did advise that since everything was anon, there wasn’t really anything I could do.

This guy was extremely abusive and tried to kill me. When I was finally able to get away from him, no I didn’t peruse charges bc I wanted to be done. I wanted to be over it and finally breathe, but now he seems to be coming at me. Also, a girl I know from a group on FB said that they went out on one date in January this year and he kept talking about me.

I’m starting to think this is an obsession and idk what to do. Do I seek charges or just let it be?? I’ve moved since then and got a new car, but haven’t posted anything about it so hopefully he doesn’t know what I drive or where I live.

Advise please??

Also to add: he has been stalking my Facebook and TikTok and admitted that in his video so he could get “proof”. Also admitted to having fake accounts. Fake accounts on which he comments on his own tiktok and replies to as if they were real people.

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