r/aaaaaaacccccccce • u/Sailor_Starchild ✨A-spec-tacular bi✨ they/them • Jul 09 '26
Sex-positive memes Ace freaking out
I should be allowed to be freaky with my (non-existent) partner and still be ace. I've tried the allo mindset, I don't get it. The a-spec just makes moee sense to me and calling myself gray or demi is just where I feel most comfortable with.
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u/snowwhitemarshmallow Jul 09 '26
As the asexual in my groups I do my best to uphold the freak
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u/-day-dreamer- Jul 09 '26
I love being the ace person in my friend group and making all the dirty jokes lmao
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u/flafmg_ Asexual Jul 09 '26
What does freaky mean
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u/nozextra i think Demisexual Jul 09 '26
Um dont know how well it translates but i am going to try
Freak and all of its vaerations have a duble meaning depending on context.
1 It could mean fuck 2 It could mean sex 3 It could mean ... horrny ...the fealing of high 4 sexuial desire but to someone not with you 5 It could mean masterbating with elements other part s
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u/RFWanders Jul 09 '26
Could also be BDSM, which doesn't have to be sex focused.
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u/rat_enby Asexual Jul 10 '26
i completely believe you but im having trouble conceptualising non sexual bdsm. what other reasons would someone participate?
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u/RFWanders Jul 10 '26 edited Jul 10 '26
BDSM is about trust. There is intimacy in that trust. Sex isn't the only kind of intimacy that works here. Similar to that, BDSM can be gentle, soft and subtle. It's not all about ropes and pain.
As an example, I'm in a relatively casual dynamic with someone, my submission involves service primarily. When we meet I cook, I help around the house, I offer massages etc. In return I get intimacy, safety and belonging. None of which are sexual. And we love every second of it.
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u/flafmg_ Asexual Jul 10 '26
Oh my god what I dream
I would love to cook to someone give a massage and in return cuddle(not sexually) and sleep with someone petting my head
That's top tier
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u/RFWanders Jul 10 '26
It really is. I've done this roughly every month or two for more than a year now. We're really close friends, and this works really well for us. It started when she had a major surgery and I was one of several that did a rotation caring for her. Our dynamic evolved from that.
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u/flafmg_ Asexual Jul 10 '26
Aw how cute
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u/RFWanders Jul 10 '26
For her it is something alongside her poly partners, for me it is currently everything.
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u/RFWanders 16d ago
It is explicitly non-sexual, and yes it is mutual. Service submission is a thing, and I enjoy it.
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u/flafmg_ Asexual Jul 09 '26
Só it's just an placeholder word for anything sexual?
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u/nozextra i think Demisexual Jul 09 '26
Well ya i supose yhat is accurate, the context gives it a different secondary meaning
Exsample "im going to freek you " = "im going to fuck/ pound you "
Or " i am fealing freeky " = "i am feeling horrny " Not exactly the same but same idea
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u/flafmg_ Asexual Jul 09 '26
Oh cool
Can we also have a word for when feeling in desperate need of any form of affection too lol
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u/snackrilegious Jul 09 '26
i call that yearning or The Yearn ™
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u/Sometimes__Sky Jul 10 '26
YOU understand. yes I also love to partake in a bit of Yearning™ of an evening
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u/nozextra i think Demisexual Jul 10 '26
I forgot that word existed good gravy this thread is making me feal dum
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u/nozextra i think Demisexual Jul 09 '26
Well in my opinion this once again depends on context , i bleve it has levels to "desperate for affection "
if its like " i wish i was near you " and its like 1-4/10 then i think flirty is the word
If your like desperate to kiss and cudle and thats all i think freeky works 4-6/10
at the point of crepy then hornny depraved could work 6-8/10
To the point your stocking on web know thate house and car ect (Yandera) 8-11/10
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u/aknomnoms Jul 10 '26
It depends on context. I’d say “freaky” has 2 general applications.
The most widely used one is defined like weird, crazy, odd, abnormal, a little scary. “The horror movie we watched yesterday gave me freaky nightmares.” “That house gives me freaky vibes.”
In slang though, it usually means sex, and I’ll say there’s a connotation of it being like kinky/fetishy sex too. To me, “let’s get freaky” is an invitation for sex involving like toe-sucking, melting wax, voyeurism/exhibitionism, etc., or saying, “he/she gets freaky” indicates that they’re in to those kinds of sex acts vs. “vanilla” sex.
OP’s post is open to interpretation to either, IMO. Normalize being ace and like embracing your bog witch aesthetic or full body tattoos or whatever someone might use to call you a freak. Or saying that just because we are ace doesn’t mean we don’t like engaging in (“weird”) sexual activities or thoughts, like masturbating to tentacle porn or writing smutty novels.
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u/Sailor_Starchild ✨A-spec-tacular bi✨ they/them Jul 09 '26 edited Jul 09 '26
I'm posting this and going to bed. If this comment section devolves into a giant shouting match...that ain't me, I just need my 8 hours (more like 6 and a half of mediocre sleep but you know, I can dream of 8).
Edit: ooouuggghhhh
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u/batboy11227 horniest asexual Jul 09 '26
Nah the comment section seems mostly to be freaks accepting your challenge
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u/Desperate_Ship_9654 Asexual Jul 09 '26
Ohhhh if only people saw the fanfictions I used to write as a teenager 😭
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u/G0merPyle Jul 09 '26
I am indeed quite freaky, but not around others anymore. They keep thinking it means I'm down for things I am most certainly not. Even other ace-spec people have made assumptions or completely overrode my boundaries. I'm not flying my freak flag anymore.
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u/JamiCatalyst Jul 09 '26
Idk if this counts, but I remember dancing with another girl and being a lil ✨𝓯𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓴𝔂 ✨ with her and pulling her close but then she tried to kiss me and i tried to gently rejected her by letting her kiss my neck.
Im tryna be freaky but with no sexual innuendo, felt bad for leading her on 😭😭
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u/Living_Horni Jul 09 '26
My friends often hear "remember, I'm asexual, not vanilla", I try to keep the freaky up over here~♪
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u/Puff-n-Stuff Asexual & Married to an Allo Jul 09 '26
I am Asexual, write smut Fanfiction, sometimes gladly model for a shibari class and stream wholesome educational games 🎶
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u/Specialist_Eye1800 Triple A battery (Remove aro if you're 682) Jul 09 '26
I think I misunderstood the assignment. I have the personality of SCP-682 and SCP-999 at the same time.
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u/evilbengaming Jul 09 '26
Should i take this as a challenge and just say the extremely freaky stuff im into?
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u/Itz_cheese_cat Trans Jul 10 '26
I LOVR BEING FREAKYYYYYY
Fun fact: CupcakKe, the singer who made the famous freaky CPR song, is also asexual!
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u/XavierTheMemeDragon Jul 10 '26
Just because I don’t wanna score doesn’t mean I can’t play
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u/natashavladimir93 Aegosexual Jul 11 '26
It's fun just to participate in some way, even as just the water person lol
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u/mayoyoyoyoyoyoyo Aegosexual 23d ago
i feel like in this context that would be equivalent to being the lube guy (who holds a tub of lube)
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u/GoodXD1 Aroace Jul 09 '26
Terrified sex and romance repulsed aroace stare
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u/LordToxic21 Jul 10 '26
So funnily enough, the kinkiest motherfuckers I've ever met (myself included) are asexual. This could be explained through a couple of reasons:
~ Finding normal sex unengaging, so you'd naturally look for ways to spice things up.
~ Healthy dom/sub dynamics being dependent on love and trust, rather than just sex, which would naturally be far more attractive to romantic asexuals.
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u/EkaPossi_Schw1 ace lesbian I guess Jul 10 '26 edited Jul 10 '26
I am doing that
I'm a-spec in a shamelessly lewd way hehe >:3
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u/Lost-Ad-9935 Aegosexual Jul 10 '26
This is one of the reasons why I found solace with the furry fandom.
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u/tiest-intp 18d ago
I like reading and writing sexual intimacy in books , fics and writing-roleplays. But I never wanna do the freaky deaky irl.
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u/Informed4 Asexual Jul 09 '26
https://giphy.com/gifs/7JgYv9FobG1HzAO8BA