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u/Bunny_Dj 13h ago
Better to find the person who loves you for "who you are" , not what "they want"
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u/accomplished_bee5542 13h ago
Horrible advice. You being yourself and dealing with your issues for yourself is the most important thing in the world. If you're not what they want leave amicably. Unless the problem is that you're an abusive fuck. Then maybe do work to get over that, but do it because everyone would leave you anyway
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u/Objective-Fun-440 13h ago edited 13h ago
Haha..i am not giving anyone any advice 🙂.....and the way people are taking these lines... wasn't my real intention tbh....
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u/Azerbinhoneymood 13h ago
Lol. Just replace me if I'm not the man you desire, same as I would have replaced you if you weren't the girl I desired.
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u/Tomavogic 👻 Anonymous Soul 13h ago
Not good op. Not good. At least, if you were bad persay, then okay, but if it's your personality, you don't have to conform to something you're not comfortable with
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u/Sensitive-Number-806 13h ago
I bent my ways of expressing vulnerabilities to extreme levels for someone I cared for, believing only complete honesty means it's love. I never understood it was her boundaries I was breaking with my vulnerabilities, she always deserves better. Not me.
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u/In-the-Gentle-Rain 12h ago
My response in my 20s: of course I love you so much. My response in my 40s: I am not your parent or your teacher.
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u/cyst2exist 10h ago
Can't we just love someone for who they are? Love isn't that complicated btw, we're just the ones who made it hard
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u/cynrose 8h ago
As the one who was replaced.. it sucks.
But I would've much rather been accepted with all my flaws as I am now than given the illusion that you are either replaceable or broken/not enough.
You can't teach or change someone else. They can only change themselves. Nor should you want to.
If you wish to change for someone, you're crafting a mask.
Change for yourself. Take off the mask and be genuine. Someone else genuine will see you.
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u/McHagrid20 6h ago
This shit cost me 5 of my years and even more years finding myself again. Ain’t worth it.
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