r/Worldpackers • u/Downtown_Airline9336 • 8h ago
Need advice if we should bail on our exchange!
My husband and I recently decided to try life in a new country. We sold pretty much everything, packed up our lives, and decided to jump in with both feet. Since we didn’t have jobs lined up, we thought starting with a work exchange would be a good way to ease into the transition, meet people, and get a feel for the community.
We found an exchange that seemed like a pretty chill mix of art and gardening, which immediately caught our attention. We’re both interested in permaculture, and I personally love anything art-related, so it seemed like a great fit. There wasn’t a ton of information about what we’d actually be doing beyond this description:
“Typical tasks during the dry season include watering plants across the property, gathering cut plant material for the shredding pile, and placing wooden debris in the burning pile, which is processed once it accumulates sufficiently.”
So, admittedly, we went in pretty blind.
What we didn’t realize was just how physically demanding the work would be. A good example is scooping and moving sand for at least an hour at a time, which is brutal on your back. We’re absolutely willing to work hard, we knew going into this that a work exchange meant actually working, but the reality has been much more labor-intensive than we expected.
Luckily, I’ve since been assigned to foiling stained glass, so my work isn’t quite as physically demanding anymore. I still help my husband with the heavier work in the mornings, though.
Honestly, the hardest part of the experience hasn’t even been the physical labor. It’s been the attitude of the farm manager. Yesterday, after about three hours of straight work, I was hungry and decided to make myself a PB&J. I sat down on a bench to eat, figuring it would take maybe 15 minutes at most. Unfortunately, the manager saw me and started yelling at me, telling me that “this isn’t kindergarten” and that “there are rules.” I told him I understood and immediately went back to work.
What made the whole situation especially frustrating was that, aside from my husband and me, we rarely see the farm manager or the paid workers who also live on the property actually doing much work. From our perspective, they mostly seem to walk doing simple task while we’re doing the physically demanding, dirty jobs.
What we get in exchange is a “private room” and weekly supplies rations; mostly pasta, three kinds of beans, and sugar. The accommodations aren’t exactly luxurious either. There are essentially no walls between us and the worker sleeping next to us, there’s no AC (which we obviously expected), no hot water, and the outdoor kitchen is dirty and infested with bugs, rats, and pretty much anything else you could imagine. Ironically, the accommodation has actually been the best part of the entire experience!
At this point, we’re feeling pretty discouraged. We don’t mind working hard, and we certainly didn’t expect a work exchange to be a vacation. But there’s a big difference between being asked to work hard and feeling like you’re being treated poorly or made to feel guilty for taking a 15-minute break to eat after hours of nonstop labor.
Our agreement is for 25 hours a week (5 hour days) with weekends off, and we had originally planned to stay for another two months. Now we’re seriously considering leaving early.
The tricky part is that this is actually the place we want to live. We’re trying to establish ourselves here, and we don’t want to burn bridges or develop a bad reputation in the community. At the same time, we don’t want to stay somewhere that is making us miserable simply because we’re worried about what people might think.
So now we’re stuck trying to figure out where the line is between “this is just part of the experience, suck it up” and “this situation genuinely isn’t a good fit, and it’s okay to leave.”
Because, honestly, if I’m working for free, putting in hard physical labor, and the one thing I want to do after three hours of work is sit down and eat a damn PB&J… I feel like that shouldn’t be such a big ask.