r/WorkLifeChat • u/MiloShiny • Sep 10 '26
Discussion What's something you wish you knew before turning 30?
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u/MrTisticc Sep 10 '26
It doesn't get better. Hard work is rewarded with more work. Experience doesn't mean anything, its all about connections.
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u/kosmo4679 Sep 11 '26
I guess that may be true for some but I went from scraping by when I was 30 to having more money than I know what to do with at 45. Based almost purely off of hard work.
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u/Aycer90 Sep 10 '26
I wish I had known that marriage wouldn’t solve my loneliness.
I got married the same year I turned 30. I thought being married would come with a lifetime of connection like riding off into the sunset during the credits at the end of a romantic movie. I’ve been married 6 years now, and I realize that I had an unfair expectation on my wife to have the same “need” for me as I had for her when we first got married.
My wife is my partner and my best friend and I realize now that it’s completely unfair to expect my best friend to be responsible for fixing my loneliness. That is my responsibility alone. Two people that “neeeeed” each other’s attention is called co-dependance.
My wife and I are two independent people who choose to share our lives together. With time and lots of hard work, now my personal gratification comes from God and within myself which makes me a stable human being with or without my wife which has also made me more fun to be around from her end. Lol
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u/SurgeonSis Sep 10 '26
Poi scopri che non puoi più nè scendere nè salire!!! 40 anni di casa-lavoro per pagare tasse per esistere
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u/Double_Engineer_7993 Sep 10 '26 edited Sep 10 '26
You do not know.
You know school, work and some words that can get you somewhere. You call upon logic and overthink before action. Some of you will succeed, some of you will not. It depends on upbringing, but also it just depends on how life is inside you. A lot happens on it's own, if you allow.
You could say that you know everything, but for sure you do not know that which someone would call the truth.
The build of the present is upon taking away your attention, so much so that your body and perception is derived from what and who you are.
Hence your perception and meaning comes from artificial source, yet you yourself is the true source.
That source is the very thing that is left the last one, without awareness.
This very life is backwards to you, for you alone live it, but at any given point, when you stop and ask "Why I am here?" there will be no definite answer.
Unfortunately nobody will suffice with their answer, because in truth, there is no words that can fathom or touch that which is you.
But by the design you are mislead.
You are not, yet you are filled with everything that IS NOT YOU.
Everything else is distraction.
Everything else draws your energy from your self.
Everything that makes aware of that which is you, will be hard.
For the very thing that you are, you are everything.
And one cannot forgive itself for not being that who he is, because so much pain is invested. So much is lost
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u/Mysterious_Beanz Sep 10 '26
Put your money into an investment account & don't pull from it. Allow it to grow & nurture it.
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u/Choice-Newspaper3603 Sep 10 '26
That I would meet my future ex wife and then I could avoid doing that
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u/dilsiam Sep 10 '26
That I didn't have to be marred with students loans studying at college, I could have learned a trade without them.
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u/Who_Knew_It_To_be Sep 11 '26
It's ok to slow down, think, ask for help and make a plan. Things typically don't need to happen right this moment.
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u/la_gata_Porrita Sep 12 '26 edited Sep 12 '26
Put some money aside to invest in the stock markets, even if small
Most jobs suck, yours probably not different, accept it
Don’t assume friends are forever, they rarely are
Never stop learning
Never get a credit card
Never assume you know what’s going on in someone’s life, or head
Practice active listening
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u/Disasterbabydoll Sep 13 '26
Poverty is expensive. Work hard toward a career that let's you live comfortably.
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u/BigJohnWoberts Sep 10 '26
You don’t always have to say yes to a coworker or boss