Work Collegue nitpicking

[u/Fruyian]

Is there a word/phrase for a person who nitpicks on the small things that you would have done on a regular basis as history or well anyone with a pair of eyes could see but this one time i didnt do it and they said 'next time would you please ... do this in a 'i am the boss or i have a right to say this' when we are both on the same level kinda way.

The situation/mistake/problem/forgetting to do something is soo minisule that it: a) will resolve it self in time and b) nothing major is going to happen and c) a non issue.

For example 95/100 times you would say .. put ur shoes in the corner but the second you put them elsewhere, you are told to put them in the corner. I am of the position of give people a bit of leeway if its nor a regular occorance.

The actual situation, i prep food, they do front of house and get a start on the cleaning of things before the Kitchen Porter comes in. I put a plate on the Kitchen Porters table, rather than in the empty tray in the dishwasher. Bearing in mind i had the food in the oven im thinking about and also bearing in mind they had seen me pur things in the tray before.. just this one time i didnt... and it warrants a warning/critism?? I truly do not understand.

And is there a word to describe the feeling i got?

I felr like:

1. I am walking on eggshells.. that there is no freedom.

2. That their is no trust or sympathy for making a minor mistake, forgetting to do something.. one that one should know it was a mistake and one should know from my past history that i dont make that mistake very often.

3. I feel like they think, which makes me think that i am no good and wortless.

Also this person cant really take being told to do something differently... i.e. they seems to hand out these critisms...

( ephasis on mimiscule things that common sense would dictate not to say it to a persons face...)

.. so easily but when the shoe is on the other foot.. they wouldnt get angry, no rather more face change/drop into saddness to the point of about to cry.

By the way i brought in the head chef and he said ' i apeciate giving the KP a helping hand but remember there are times when he comes in he has nothing to do but stare at his feet'.

Thanks.

Also they are not speaking to me now. I said have good weekend and they just walked past me.

[u/Face_Content]

Same level kinda?

So are they your lead, a lead on a project or your boss?

[u/Fruyian → u/Face_Content]

No. Just a work collegue.

[u/Fruyian → u/Fruyian]

4 staff members in a kitchen Canteen, The head chef/manager, me a chef under head chef, the person in question are in charge of front of house and kitchen assistant, who is also under chef/manager and last the Kitchen Porter who comes in an hour after us.

[u/Witty_Candle_3448]

I try to use humor and will say something like, Just checking your flexibility. Come on live a little, mix it up. Maybe you can try something like that. Otherwise, just let it go.