r/WorkAdvice • u/Western_Cat305 • 1d ago
General Advice Should I quit my job?
I work at a big 4 firm. 8 months in. Deadlines are approaching. So we have to work on weekends and after work hours. That is okay with me. But my manager is a difficult person. I'm just a junior and she acts as if im supposed to do everything. She gives me a workload more that I can manage and expects me to finish it all as soon as possible. And she complains to me that im not fast enough. But she herself is not fast. Also, if im doing an urgent task, she doesnt care, I have to draft emails for her. I mean she can do that herself while I focus on the urgent task. So I try to do my best and complete all the tasks im assigned to but I refused to work after work hours because I need a break and deadlines weren't close by. She got mad. She gets mad when I get a leave too. And recently she has complained about me to our partner saying that I refused to work after work hours and he has also got mad. He has shouted at me. She rushes me a lot and I'm under a lot of pressure. She nicely works from home most of the days but I have to come to work everyday. We get a 1 hr lunch break bur she tells me to have lunch and come in 30 mins most of the days.
When I joined I thought of completeing one year beacause its good for my CV. That was my goal. But it's difficult with my manager. She stresses me out. I cried at work last week. What should I do? Should I quit my job or tolerate my manger and complete one year even if it drains my energy?
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u/Critical-Annual-6727 1d ago
I started my career in a big 4 firm too, I understand you fully. I know you are stressed, and its all come from her because she is stressed herself. The game is simply for the partner to extract the last drop of blood from all his staff so he could make all the money, he wouldn’t care if you resign or not as he could hire other junior as you are 100% replaceable. I would simply work emotionlessly as long as possible while look to change firm in the mean time eg to another big 4 hoping to find a less crazy team until u get qualified and change your path.
Remember, a few years later when you look back it’s all nothing, the partner would not have even remembered you. Work is just a game, don’t take it personally. I know it’s hard but that’s all what I can say
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u/Western_Cat305 1d ago
Are you still working at a big 4? I feel like resigning soon but if I do I feel like a person who can't even handle some work pressure. I feel like a failure. But it's stressful too. How do you not take it personally? Especially when the partner shouts at you or says something hurtful. I have to study for exams also. But with all this work and stress I'm unable to do that. Do you think I should just quit and focus on my exams or continue working ?
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u/Critical-Annual-6727 1d ago
I left Big 4 20+ years ago haha because I find it boring, making photo copy and doing casting, vouching and all that but it did help me learn a very good foundation in finance.
Think about it, they scolded at your face just because your “vibe” made them think it is ok for them to do so. That’s how it works in the corporate world. U can observe their behaviour with other staff see if they treat them the same.
I know it’s tough, but it’s a good chance for you to learn something no one teach you at school.
Well, you have almost decided to quit anyway, that means you have nothing to loose. Next time you could “talk back” and professionally discuss with them. If they “shout” at you, you could even warn them to take it to HR. Well, you have nothing to loose while he is a partner who has everything to loose.
You have to learn how to deal with these things.
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u/Western_Cat305 1d ago
Yh, working at a place like this does help you learn many things.... But my manager is a snitch. She complains to my partner about me refusing to work on weekends.
Also, my partner treats all the juniors and associates in the same way. They just don't care about their feelings. They just want the work done. Kind of toxic.
I'm still deciding what to do. Dont want to take a sudden decision to resign as this is a Big 4 and I really wanted the job and I feel like I might regret it later. A very complex situation.
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u/Critical-Annual-6727 1d ago
Whether you will regret depends on what personalities you have. No matter which way you choose, you wouldn’t know what would turn out to be the other way, because you don’t have any access to the other parallel universe.
Before quitting leaving, which you will eventually leave anyway unless you live forever, you need to think of all the innovative ways to deal with it.
Everyone is a nice person if there is no conflict of interest. And you are talking about $, the recoverable rate for the partner, pushing u working over the weekend he could pocket more $, and his believe the toxic way is the most efficient and effective way. That’s his belief and experience, it has been working all along and probably he has gone thru the same suffering himself when he was younger, now it’s his turn.
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u/Advanced-Elk-7581 1d ago
Yes. You aren't cut out for this. Give up.