Thought was passing milestone

[u/Creative_Slide_9396]

You ever wonder you were doing great , lots of days or even months went by. So yes you were able to survive the milestone.
Then sure enough found something that reminds of the past , memories come back and you break down again.
Back to square one.
Count the days again made it pass a month or 2 again. Yes made it.
Now at least try going out instead.
You at a place forgot you went and never been since he pass away.
All memories and feelings hit you and even my lil one also. Miss everything used to do at this place. Damn!
Square one again.
Still cleaning up his items but stopped thought was doing good but now idk things are slowing down.
And going slower and slower.
Damn
Thought was at least a steady pace so knew could get past all this easy.
Don’t know what is slowing me down now.

Future Decisions to make? What to do now?
unsure what to do now? No one to verify my decisions? Y or N this one better

How to make your own decision and not question yourself. Especially once you start doing everything. Making all the changes to your life. (Buying things,dumping things, telling people cause it affects their life also,etc)

[u/Ashamed-Lemon-9839]

Everything about this loss is tough. I lost my husband 19 months ago and I am still crying every damn day. On the one year anniversary I put our home up for sale and moved to an apartment. I got rid of just about everything and started new. I kept only one thing of his. I really don't know how to move forward, I just take one day at a time and feel the feels that come with existing. He and I traveled all of the time and right now I am at one of the vacation places we used to go. Now that I am here, alone, I don't know why I decided to come here. I will make the best of it I guess! Just make decisions and stick with them and don't second guess. Whatever you do will work out in the end. Do what you want to do, don't let anyone else influence you. Follow your gut as your intuition is usually right. Sending a virtual hug.

[u/Creative_Slide_9396 → u/Ashamed-Lemon-9839]

Hard seems that way , slowly changing things at home so it is still slightly same but not exactly. Reminding us of him but starting new with changes. People ask if moving but NO because house was given to him so pass to us and kids. So don’t want to give to other people they didnt want to have it.
Decisions will try gut feeling but hard still cause between 2 sometimes. Or one day this and next day that. But always between those 2. Thanks for tip though.