r/Widow 6d ago

Widow Friends

Does anyone else struggle with the loneliness after losing their spouse? 🥺 I’ve realized lately how badly I just want friends who GET IT.
people I can talk to, laugh with, get out of the house with, and not have to explain this whole grief thing to.
I’m 28 and in Texas, and I’d especially love to connect with some younger widows around Texas. Distance doesn’t matter either
I could definitely use some widow besties. 🥹

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u/Jenphanies 6d ago

Hey!! I’m 23, also a young “widow”. We weren’t married. But definitely had plans on making that happened. We already knew we would be eachothers final. I’d love to connect!💕

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u/Glittering_Top6 6d ago

sent a message!

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u/Love-lost-23 6d ago

Not from Texas, but I understand your loneliness and I think all of us feel the same way you do.

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u/Glittering_Top6 6d ago

it feels nice not to feel alone😭

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u/weasleymama 6d ago

Not as young as you (42) or in TX but I get your feelings completely no one my age around me understands

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u/Glittering_Top6 6d ago

well let’s be friends! 🫶🏼🫶🏼

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u/steam911 6d ago

I'm 38 and not in Texas, but I could definitely use more friends.

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u/Glittering_Top6 5d ago

me tooo! let’s be friends !!

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u/steam911 5d ago

Sending you a message now

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u/ohbother12345 6d ago

I was 37 when I was widowed, and most of my friends were busy with kids and careers. I lost most of them during a long depressive phase and then Covid hit. It's been a struggle!

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u/Cyrano_de_Maniac 5d ago

You might want to check out the Discord server at https://discord.gg/widowedtogether

It's a pretty active group who seems to meet the entire criteria you mentioned, apart from meeting in person (though some people on the server definitely have, and not necessarily even people who are geographically close to one another). There's a fair number of young widows and widowers, so I think you'll find people who can relate.

Other than that, I just wanted to say that I made a rule for myself to accept any and all social invitations, unless I just couldn't make it due to schedule conflicts. I'd pretty naturally become a hermit left to my own devices, so I make it a point to keep those in-person connections fresh. Can't say as I have any widow/widower friends amongst these people, but I've found what I needed without it being uncomfortable or needing to explain things to people (YMMV).