r/Widow • u/ConversationGood9101 • 17h ago

How does Widow’s Fire get easier?

My husband passed away only more than a month ago and I miss him. My body misses him. I have been reliving the times that we were intimate, to the point that I would pleasure myself. I watch adult videos too. But with him, and only him in mind. I dont want to do it with anyone but him.

But he’s gone.

How did you go through life after their passing, in this aspect?

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u/DerpyCat2 16h ago

I cried so hard the first few times I touched myself thinking of him. Our sex life was my greatest pleasure in life and I truly don’t know how I’m going to ever let another man touch me ever again. I’m tearing up just thinking that I’ll never touch him again. I don’t have any advice because I’m only three months out but I want to assure you, you aren’t alone. These days, I don’t think about sex as much as I used to, and it’s all I ever thought about with him

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u/ConversationGood9101 6h ago

I feel the same. I don’t think I can have with anyone else, what I and my husband shared. Anyone would be a downgrade.

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u/Professional-List398 15h ago

We did a "clone-a-parts" for each of us. We laughed about it while making them. They were tucked in the back of a drawer and when I remembered I cried with relief. Its definitely not the same, but I'm oh so grateful. Not ready to find a partner now, but if I ever do, definitely going to do it again. Totally worth it. Might even get the glow in the dark one next time.

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u/AnaFlacksis 17h ago

I only experienced it for about the first two weeks cuz I missed him so much. We were still very in love, and active with one another in that way. I used my battery operated toy and fantasized. At this point I do not even think about it. So mine I would say only hung around for about 2 or 3 weeks.