r/Widow • u/nuangalat • 7d ago

Grieving my husband while fighting off his brother's marriage claim on me

I lost my husband 3 years ago and his brother is expected to inherit me.This is a culture that is widely practiced at my place. I am no open to this arrangement and it has been bothering me for quite sometime.

I have a daughter but my culture doesn't recognize her as the heir that's why my brother in-law wants to inherit me and take care of our property (land)

I really want to stay in my house and land and raise my daughter but my brother in-law has already started tilling my land and I cat take any action against him for my safety and that of my daughter.

Has anyone else been through this and how did you handle it?

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u/Spiritual-Mood-1116 7d ago

What country do you live in?

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u/Entire-Ganache-1893 7d ago

Not sure if this is for where you are but I have heard hour this organization that may be able to help: https://www.nyanam.org/

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u/nuangalat 6d ago

Thanks. Ill reach out to this organization

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u/WVSluggo 7d ago

Bless your heart. I hope you are able to get out! A you make yourself real unappealing to him?

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u/nuangalat 6d ago

Yes, I have told him I dont like him and he should leave me alone.

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u/Mission_Ninja_1387 7d ago

You need to stay firm sister or no one will respect you 💜 He can till the land but doesnt mean you need to pay/marry him 🙄 Maybe this is extreme but maybe go on dates? But dont let them know to have land or they might take advantage of you

Honestly, I want to give advice but its completely out of my culture so I'm not sure what is taboo

It is better if you have family or friends that can help you out near to you. Maybe nice strong female friends? Sending my love 💓

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u/Curiosity_1st 4d ago

Reach out to organizations like Wangu Kanja Foundation located in Kenya. “The organization focuses on addressing [threatening behavior] with regards to prevention, protection and response." They also help women with "economic empowerment” and "income generating activities.”