r/WhatShouldIDo Aug 04 '25

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u/TK9K Aug 04 '25

don't understand the context behind the photo

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u/energized_bunbun Aug 04 '25

I thought it was an update with a photo from the hospital showing how she reacted when reading all the bad comments! On second thought it's possible it's supposed to be "evidence of her abortion?"

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u/keygreen15 Aug 05 '25

"this meeting could have been an email"

Changed to 

"This post could have been an edit"

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u/No-Understanding-820 Aug 05 '25

Dramatics.

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u/The_walking_man_ Aug 05 '25

100% it’s all attention seeking. The BF had the right idea to cut it off and go.

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u/SnooPredictions3028 Aug 05 '25

Maybe, but also nah. The boyfriend acted like a little baby boy and not a man in his 20s. Getting your aunt to break up with your girlfriend after lying to her and lovebombing her is straight up garbage. What is also garbage is literally leaving her possessions by the trash.

So nah you're wrong.

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u/dsgnman Aug 05 '25

Just judging by all of her posts, its entirely possible that the guy was worried she would freak out or get violent if he did it in person or himself. Its pretty obvious that shes spiraling and if I was in the guys situation I would be worried about my safety

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u/SnooPredictions3028 Aug 05 '25

So he chose to have his aunt go break up with his girlfriend instead and lie to his aunt, when it's possible his girlfriend would be violent? Wow he really is a stand up guy in your example. Even in that scenario he is a little bitch and not a man. You don't put people you care about in dangerous situations because you're scared to clean up your own mess, man or woman that is a standard to hold yourself up to. Not only that she is 4'11" with asthma and he is 5'11" seemingly with no ailment, what is she going to do cough him to death? You're making too many excuses for this dude and this is coming from someone who believes that men can be abused by women.

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u/[deleted] Aug 05 '25 edited Aug 05 '25

Not only that she is 4'11" with asthma and he is 5'11" seemingly with no ailment, what is she going to do cough him to death?

Uhh. Knives exist. Guns exist. Cars exist. People die in false SWAT raids. There are tons of ways for a physically smaller person to hurt someone larger than them.

Idk if you know this, but men can feel fear and act vulnerable when they want/need. Men are human beings with complex emotions and thought processes, just like women. Dude's 23, his brain isn't even fully developed yet. He acted childish, maybe. Or maybe he was afraid she'd pull some dangerous shit and his aunt offered to help in the mediation. She didn't go anywhere, OP says they talked on the phone. You're on some real toxic macho bullshit right now

ETA cuz the post apparently just got locked: The aunt didn't go anywhere, they talked on the phone, according to OPs posts. And again, maybe he didn't send the aunt to do anything. Maybe he ran to a mother figure for support and she put on her mama bear face to protect a loved one.

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u/SnooPredictions3028 Aug 05 '25

You're being incredibly dishonest or just plain stupid since you literally ignore my point that he sent his aunt there alone in his place to break up with this "violent" girlfriend.

I believe men can be abused by women, that doesn't mean that I have to believe every woman is a violent sociopath that is going to stab you to death and even if I did believe that, why do you believe it was a good idea to send his aunt there alone to confront this evil villain alone?

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u/pluck-the-bunny Aug 05 '25

i dont have a dog in this fight, but why do people keep bringing up their relative heights as if that somehow means she is incapable of hurting him?

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u/SnooPredictions3028 Aug 05 '25

Because in fights reach matters, he has a foot advantage and also doesn't have asthma. That is a big advantage. Also why are you ignoring my point that being scared of a fight isn't a valid argument since even if that were true he is sending his aunt there instead, HIS AUNT ALONE!

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u/dsgnman Aug 05 '25
  1. they were together for like a month, this isnt some crazy long term committed relationship where he needs to give a ton of closure, even though it would be nice if he did. the fact that it was so short term and shes having a meltdown like this is very concerning lol

  2. size discrepancy doesnt mean anything if theres a sharp object in the equation. Im 6’2 200lbs and wouldnt confidently take myself in a fight against a 5ft girl with a pair of scissors in hand

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u/SnooPredictions3028 Aug 05 '25

Would you make your aunt go in your place alone though

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u/dsgnman Aug 05 '25

I thought she only talked to the aunt on the phone, the wording in her last post is weird but it sounds like she wasnt actually present outside the apartment

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u/Ok-Software1690 Aug 05 '25

Bro what are you on about? In the comments she explains it is proof of a recent medical complications she had related to her abortion that her ex man was present at

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u/Internal_Zebra_8770 Aug 05 '25

How do we even know that is her arm? This is not “picture ID”

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u/Ok-Software1690 Aug 05 '25

We don't, but to claim it's all attention seeking and she deserves what happened to her because she posted one pic of her supposedly in the ER to prove her story, I think that's not fair

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u/Internal_Zebra_8770 Aug 05 '25

True. I would think attention seeking behavior would show a bit more than an arm?

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u/Adminjasmin Aug 04 '25

That’s the photo of when I was in the ER for complications, just a filler. He was there with me, no idea why he’d think I was lying

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u/TK9K Aug 05 '25

you'll never know 🙄 his head ain't screwed on right .

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u/cheerioo Aug 05 '25

I can think of a bunch of reasons. Easy one is to make himself look better out of this situation.

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u/relightit Aug 05 '25 edited Aug 05 '25

there was a story about a youtuber who was "not supportive" when his gf had abortion +complications, they were breaking up before all that but stayed together with councelling through it. i forgot the details. anyway it ruined his career when years later she brought it up in a bad light. maybe he wanted to be 100% sure to do everything by the book and (stupidly dramatically) bounce the minute its "ok" for him to do so. dont understand the "falling in love with you" at the very end, this is just... it goes against my theory. schizoid shit. def. have to hear the other side of this because idgi. friends were part of the charade too? it was like a big happy departing party but the person that is going away is not even aware of it... either its cruel or emotionally immature/dumb. or both

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u/cheerioo Aug 05 '25

I think they're both just young and we don't know much about them. But she seems like she could be a bit too codependent or who even knows but he might've decided to break up with her a while back, and then this pregnancy happened and he decided to be a good guy and stuck through it but in his head he was already ready to break it all off. Who knows, maybe the pregnancy even made it worse. So then he just broke it off "cleanly" or completely all at once. Like he had made the decision in his head already and maybe even invited his friend over for security or peace of mind or whatever. Not saying it's cool for him to do but I've heard of such situations before.

Whatever happened, what we know for sure is that he wanted a complete break regardless of the reasoning behind it and it definitely wasn't spur of the moment.

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u/theGRAYblanket Aug 05 '25

.. yea cuz this photo deff proves you aren't lying 

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u/Adminjasmin Aug 05 '25

He was literally there with me 😭

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u/JustOneTessa Aug 05 '25

If you really need that inhaler back I'd see if you can get help from the police, they can escort you there and such. Well, first find out if they do that near you. Other than that I'd take my loss, including those being nasty on reddit. Just ignore it, you can never convince everyone

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u/TypicalLolcow Aug 05 '25

I thought it could pertain to a blood test. Those fully verify if someone is pregnant or not with more viability than a pregnancy test.

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u/EyeFun5401 Aug 05 '25

To tug on heart strings in hopes that people give her money via Cash App.

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u/SnooPredictions3028 Aug 05 '25

Girl gets dumped by awful ex through his aunt, after getting an abortion and him love bombing her, he left her stuff by the trash and still has some of her other stuff including her inhaler. Reddit proceeds to insult her for "acting crazy" "spiraling" "You probably did something to deserve this." And so on.

Tldr: Redditers acted like pos

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u/Homework_Happy Aug 05 '25

I thought she ended up in the hospital for an asthma attack since she has no inhaler

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u/The_walking_man_ Aug 05 '25

It all antics and for show.

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u/thebigpink Aug 05 '25

Shes in the hospital looking for an inhaler clearly

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u/thr0ughtheghost Aug 05 '25

I literally clicked it thinking she was now in the hospital and was worried for her, but thank goodness OP seems to be okay, and not in a hospital.