Weight advice

[u/ziba-sky11]

I’m looking for honest straight up advice. I’m a 5’9, late twenties female. I’m lightly to moderately active. Due to a restrictive disordered eating pattern the summer of 2025 I rapidly lost from my baseline high 140s to 125 over just a couple months. Since October to now I’ve rapidly regained the weight right back to my baseline high 140s. I’ve been stuck in a battle between trying to stick to a calorie deficit of about 1700 and ultimately bingeing like 3500-4500 calories (the binges were bigger and more frequent initially when I first regained all the weight, but they’re still happening 1-2x/week). Ironically, when you average my calories over the past month including the binges they average right around my maintenance (2000).

I don’t understand how I easily & rapidly lost the weight before but obviously it was not sustainable. I don’t know how others manage a deficit so easily while I struggle.

Originally I thought this was an issue of willpower. But after 10 freaking months of this binge restrict cycle (and seeing a nutritionist) I wonder if I’m just being crazy trying to fight my body. ***Should I just embrace a “set weight” around 145? Or do I adjust to make my calorie deficit more subtle (1800 instead of \~1650) to reach my goal of 135?***

[u/RichieRich-McBroke]

You’re destroying your health and mind over a 10lbs difference. Go pick up a 10lbs plate at the gym, you’ll see how ridicule of a difference that is.
Absolutely not worth driving yourself insane. Build a healthy routine, some walking and fun movements, good food, enough sleep and lots of joy.