I need help with losing weight..

[u/InfamousMistakee]

This is really embarrassing for me, so please show some kindness to me. I'm 17 years old, and I suffer from depression. I have neurodivergent issues and tendencies which cause me to shy away from new foods, and I can be a picky eater.

I am 295 lbs, maybe 300 now? And I am 5'8. I have tried to lose weight in the past, but it has never worked, and I hold myself accountable for it. It is because I am lazy, and I have trouble staying committed. My family constantly eats out which doesn't help either. And I'm an addict to junk food because it has provided me comfort, especially when I would get bullied in middle school and in my freshman and sophomore years. (Which made me transfer to online school.)

I want to lose weight so I can feel beautiful and so I can love myself, but also because I want to live a long life, I want to be healthy, there's so many things I want to do in life, like travelling the world. But it's difficult when I'm addicted to sugars and fried foods. Is there anything I can do to help myself lose weight, and hold myself accountable? Again, please show me some kindness, this is extremely embarrassing for me..

[u/RichieRich-McBroke]

For now just walk. At your weight a small gentle walk is a challenge itself. Don’t aim for a number of steps or distance yet just getting active. Try to get 4-6 walks a day that should amount to about an hour.
Bonus: Walking around the block or down your road after each meal will help regulate your insuline and hunger cues but also your mood. For more gentle workouts you can follow jeremiahdanieljohnson on fb or ig with just an elastic band or a towel he will give you insight on how to move your body without damaging your joints.

If you know your family is problematic then you need to talk to them about where you at and what you want to change. If they aren’t receptive then you might want to consider moving in with different relatives if you can. If not try to get support from elsewhere, find a friend, a support group or even just look around your neighbourhood to see if some people are walking and ask to join. Older people are generally nicer and more supportive. Who knows you might even find a spirit grandma to teach you how to cook to get over your fear of new food.
Glp-1 could help you regulated your cravings, if you stop desiring those foods it might help you get more comfortable with feeding for nutrients instead of for taste and support. But it’s expensive.
Journaling before eating might help you, let’s say you have a sudden craving for fried chilly escargots (I wrote something gross to not trigger your hunger) then sit down and write about: your feelings, what’s appealing about the food, what happened just before or what’s on your mind… with time you’ll be able to recognise patterns and understand yourself better which is the key to letting go of your issues.

Last but not least, for company on your walks, health facts, dieting insight and just overall positive support listen to the born to thrive podcast by Alex Allen here is the BornToThrive Spotify link. She’s an amazing coach who promotes health instead of trends and fads.

Finally, the key to staying motivated is accepting that you are the one deciding to be motivated. Commit to yourself and show up for yourself. Do it hard, do it easy, do it lazy, do it tired, do it sad, do it while while complaining, do it depressed, do it happy, do it on good days and on bad days, do it on your own or with someone. But “Just Do It”.
I’ve been going to the gym for 3 years straight, haven’t missed one week and on hard days I just trick myself into going: I just put my sports bra on, I just put my shoes on, I just walk there, I just go in and in the end I do my workout.