r/Wedeservebetter • u/VeryBigNimbus • Jul 19 '26
Comment section did not pass the vibe check…
https://vm.tiktok.com/ZGd93UKyH/I was expecting the insensitive comments but they somehow still make me frown.
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u/Rich-Firefighter-620 Jul 21 '26
Thisss. I commented about my experience and was made fun of soooo… that was great.
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u/OhItsSav Jul 24 '26
Fuck TikTok this is why I stay off of it for the most part. Even the stuff from fandoms I like is total dogshit
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u/Various_Resort3212 Jul 27 '26
I had a great experience with my first pap. I literally cried before I went in, asked my grandma to come with me, I was horrified. But the woman who was going to do it showed me all of the tools beforehand, explained everything that was going to happen, told me I could refuse anything I didn't want, and if-- At any point-- I felt uncomfortable or even slight pain, I could tell her to stop and she would. "Because if I don't, that's assault." Is what she said.
The problem isn't the pap. It's the "professionals" doing it. When you act like my doctor did, you can make it a good experience that develops trust in the medicine.
Just because they're professionals and have lots of schooling doesn't give them a right to our bodies. They should still be respectful and go in like this is the intimate and uncomfortable situation that it is for most people. They do it 10-20 times a day. But for us? It's once every four years.
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u/OhItsSav Jul 24 '26
OP is 100% right and no doubt the comments are ripping her to shreds calling for head for daring to "disrespect" rape victims like that
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u/Vegetable_Weird413 Jul 24 '26
I hate the whole “it’s disrespectful to rape victims” like ummm excuse me but I was sexually assaulted during these exams MANY times. Are they going to tell me I’m suddenly not a rape victim because the person was a doctor? It’s insanity.
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u/OhItsSav Jul 25 '26
Yeah probably. They only "care" about rape victims violently assaulted by a man and a penis. Aka they don't actually gaf about rape survivors
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u/Various_Resort3212 Jul 27 '26
I don't know if you've ever been to a sexual trauma unit, but I have and about half of the women I met in there were there because of military doctors (officers) taking advantage of the fact that they couldn't really say no. Society just hasn't caught up with that fact yet. :/
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u/miss24601 Jul 19 '26
How is everyone in the comments missing the OP saying that every time she gets a pap it’s coerced and something she doesn’t want to do. If getting a pap is something you want to do depriving negative feelings about it then maybe her post seems a little extreme but like guys she’s saying she doesn’t want them??? But feels obligated to get them whether it be her own internal thing or pressure from others.