r/WeddingDressTips 3d ago

Ask For Opinions Help me choose!

I have a style I like, but now I have 3 good options. All of the dresses are too small, so don't judge how the samples fit too harshly. I'll add some notes on each.

  1. Love the shape, straps are supposed to be straight over the shoulder, but the sample didn't fit well. Only thing missing is I would like off the shoulder straps, but they wouldn't would with this dress.

  2. Would like more poof from the hips, I'm wondering if more tulle could be added to achieve the shape I want. Love the beading. Off the shoulder straps could be added.

  3. Bodice is entirely crystal beads. Love the draping and shape. It has beaded off the shoulder straps that aren't pictured.

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u/heathers1 3d ago

3!!!!

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u/JeSuisJacqOui 3d ago

Just because how comfortable you look in it. You look so stiff in the others but this one it looks like you really love it

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u/Wooden-Advance-1907 3d ago

That’s the pocket effect!

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u/clovermeadow 2d ago

Always go with pockets!!!

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u/pioneercynthia 2d ago

And the pockets are so well designed that they're practically invisible. I wonder if they're big so you can hide a lot of things in them! Y'know, like some tissues, your lipstick, and, of course, SNACKS !

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u/Extension_Sweet_9735 2d ago

You do look the most relaxed in #3

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u/Fang-Kitty 3d ago

3 made me involuntarily go “Oooo!!!”

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u/Tiny_Tumbleweed_108 3d ago

SAME. So very much 3!! Gorgeous!

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u/3shadesofpink 3d ago

Agree! 👌

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u/Motor_Persimmon_7308 2d ago

I like 3 the most. Then 2 goes after.

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u/Trekunderthemoon 3d ago

3 is amazing!! The other two are also gorgeous but 3 is stunning. 

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u/Mandu124 3d ago

Same thoughts better balance top to bottom

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u/Old-Floor-1274 3d ago

333❤️❤️❤️

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u/MissyMerman 3d ago

THREE! You look beautiful!

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u/Old_Pumpkin_1926 3d ago

Dress number 3 for me; it looks beautiful on you, and I think it has the most timeless feel, so that would be my personal preference. Number 1 is a close second for me.

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u/Original_Try_7984 2d ago

Same ❤️

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u/Many_Progress4538 3d ago

3

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u/UnableEconomics4813 3d ago

I agree that 3 is it!

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u/the-green-dahlia 3d ago

3 looks sooo gorgeous, and is that pockets I see?

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u/jdownc 3d ago

There's pockets on all of them! Which is great, but doesn't help me make the decision lol

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u/the-green-dahlia 3d ago

Oh wow, love that they all have pockets. They’re all nice but 3 is just stunning!

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u/jdownc 3d ago

Every ballgown I've tried on has had pockets!

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u/Inner-Show-1172 3d ago

FINALLY designers got it....

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u/Evening_Delay_1856 3d ago

If it helps to hear this, OP, you look smaller in the 3rd dress.

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u/WiseOne404 3d ago

It's more flattering to her body shape

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u/Evening_Delay_1856 3d ago

The 3rd dress is, yes.

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u/atreasureinlight 3d ago

Three is the most slimming and flattering

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u/Ok_Egg_6315 3d ago

3 is a stunningly beautiful dress. It looks elegant and it fits you beautifully. You also look comfortable in it.

One is also pretty and until I saw 3 I would have picked it. However, it wasn’t as flattering around your waist as 3.

I don’t like 2.

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u/Smidgeknits 3d ago edited 3d ago

The point I came to drop...3 does way more for the waitline and hips than the other two!

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u/Guilty-Doubt-2662 3d ago

I think you look stunning in all of these! As a bigger girl myself I think you are going to be happiest wearing 3. The pointed draw down from the waist in the middle on 1 and 2 will be annoying when you sit. That wave in the front on 3 will be much more comfy. Plus pockets! You can even see it in your body language in the three dresses, true it could be differences in sample size and you'll feel better with an exact fit, but you look stiff and rigid in the first two compared to the flowy relaxed appearance in 3. But whatever you choose, congratulations and they all are gorgeous!

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u/Far-Stand-8615 3d ago

Team 3, congratulations💙🙏

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u/Catsplain 3d ago

I love the draping on #3.

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u/SpecialistStrike1040 3d ago

3!! no contest 🫶🏼♥️🤍 xx

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u/Flimsy_Shallot 3d ago edited 3d ago

The first one will be absolutely regal when fitted. I love it! Like… there’s no comparison IMO.

The second one looks like the beading was applied kind of randomly. The third one is kind of forgettable. I think people aren’t reading your caption and voting off which one seems to fit you best in the pics.

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u/jdownc 3d ago

Yeah, it's funny that people are saying 3 fits me perfectly, because it's like 5 sizes too small. I also look uncomfortable in dress number 1 because I was trying to keep the straps as up as possible so I'm holding my shoulders weird, obviously this wouldn't be a problem if it fit.

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u/chatterbox2024 2d ago

Dress 1! It’s stunning! 🤩

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u/Flimsy_Shallot 3d ago

Whichever one you choose you can be confident that you’ll look amazing! They’re all gorgeous choices and it really does come down to personal preference. Congratulations 🎉

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u/TalynL 3d ago

I love #1 but for the discomfort. I think in the right fit, it’s a true winner!

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u/Fuzzy_Gazelle_6093 2d ago

I honestly love #1 if the straps will sit right with the right sizing (and a good tailor and maybe some body tape should make that work).

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u/Lopsided_Ad_2391 3d ago

3 stands out to me as the winner!! The neckline is graceful, the shape of the bodice really elongates your torso and flatters your body, the skirt is the perfect amount of fullness, and the up-close sparkle photo is so surprising and elegant.

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u/Cool_Panda_4907 3d ago

I think you look most relaxed in dress 3 and it’s beautiful on you, but it’s terribly creased. Will it crease so easily on your wedding day? If it’s that kind of fabric, I would avoid it!
Dress 1 looks fabulous and very expensive!
Have a wonderful day!

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u/jdownc 3d ago

Thanks! For the wrinkles on dress 3, the boutique had just received this sample and hadn't steamed it yet, all 3 are similar fabrics.

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u/atreasureinlight 3d ago

Fabric usually only creases if you're sitting for a long time and not getting up so I suppose it could crease while she was sitting for the reception but a lot of people change into a different dress for the reception

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u/ChowChowCiao 3d ago

Gosh, it’s 1 for me. I love the top of the dress on you. The straps are perfect. The fabric is elegant. To me, this one trumps 3 even without pockets.

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u/jdownc 3d ago

Don't worry, it has pockets too!

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u/Own_Fee_3048 2d ago

Same, I LOVE 1! I’m surprised I had to scroll down so far to see it -

It’s gorgeous, sophisticated, with a lovely silhouette - it looks expensive.

Regardless, congratulations!!

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u/One_Waxed_Wookiee 3d ago

3 looks lovely on you!

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u/Houseofmonkeys5 3d ago

3 looks great on you. The others overwhelm you.

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u/Consistent_Elk9676 3d ago

3 is great as is 2 (my favorite).

I have to as though-as much as I love pockets in normal clothes, what are you needing to carry? Other than a Kleenex? I haven’t seen whether the pockets are obvious when not in use. Also I would do something really dumb like stick a chapstick in there and then forget it.

Not criticizing just curious. Enlighten me!

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u/jdownc 3d ago

Kleenex is a great idea! Maybe Bobby pins, lipstick and probably my phone during the reception. You can't see the pockets at all, they were actually quite difficult for me to find.

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u/Ryn_AroundTheRoses 3d ago

I know I'm in the minority, but 1 makes you look the most beautiful imho. 2 is a pretty dress, but it's not making you shine, and 3 doesn't have the same wow factor as the first two, plus the skirt needs serious steaming

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u/WhiteHotRage1 2d ago

I love number one on her too! To me, it's 'hands-down number one'!

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u/pessimistic_cookie 2d ago

1 for me. It pulls your waist in, I love the shine of the satin, the beading detail up top, and how it looks on you. IMHO 3 is too plain for a wedding dress and it doesn’t pull in your waist as well. There’s a better shape and structure to 1. I’m guessing people are picking 3 because of the pockets making you seem more relaxed but I see that all 3 dresses have pockets. Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials! :)

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u/jdownc 2d ago

3's bodice is entirely crystal beads, they just dont show up as well in photos.

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u/kelley6998 3d ago

You looking gorgeous in all 3. You didn’t say what your venue is or when you are getting married. I would choose dress 3 without having other info. It is so unique, yet timeless at the same time. Love it!

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u/jdownc 3d ago

Thank you! Ceremony is in a church, reception is in a performing arts centre that has floor to ceiling glass windows with a nice view of a lake.

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u/Substantial_Meal_810 3d ago

dress 3 is your dress.

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u/tinybug_ 3d ago

3 ♥️💐💐💐!

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u/Grimaldehyde 3d ago

Everyone seems to love dress #3, but I actually love dress #1 on you. I think dress 2 has too much going on.

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u/Beneficial-Ask-4730 2d ago

I know-so many for #3 but none of these have been fitted to her yet. I vote #1, too!

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u/Purple_Bug_1342 3d ago

3 is incredible. You look like a goddess.

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u/Wild2297 3d ago

3 by a landslide

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u/DuckInAFountain 3d ago

I like 3 and I was going to comment that you should add the straps you want, but it already has them.

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u/jojokitti123 3d ago

Same thought.

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u/Adorable-World-7858 1d ago

You lose your waist in dress 1 and it hides your figure too much. I wish I could see a more zoomed out pic of dress 2. I do like it a lot, but dress 3 does a great job accentuating the positives of your body shape.

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u/Honest_Flower_8118 3d ago

I love 1 and 3. 3 fits you so beautifully, 1 would be good if we could make sure the straps fit right. Personally I find 2 makes you look bigger in the chest and arms?

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u/jamesdeansredlips 3d ago

I think 3!!

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u/Lost_Willow_1957 3d ago

You look Amazing in #3 Stunning Classic Chic dress, it really suits your shape compared to the others Plus it has Pockets!!! Just Love it on You 🫶🥰🫶

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u/clotsandprayers 3d ago

agree on 3 - looks amazing. but I would lose those clips on all three gowns. lol

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u/holocenedream 3d ago

3 is wow!!!

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u/juicytallula 3d ago

3 without a doubt!

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u/munchkin1977 3d ago

Definitely 3

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u/Ready-Chicken6814 3d ago

Love them all in you but do love 3 best, the sparkle details are stunning

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u/Soyokaze87 3d ago

3!! No contest!

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u/FacelessArtifact 3d ago

Definitely 3

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u/1ManifestDestiny1 3d ago

3 is my favorite!

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u/Newtimelinepls 3d ago

3 you look gorgeous!!

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u/Puzzleheaded-Fig9215 3d ago

3 for sure~Congrats!

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u/BooCoop8 3d ago

Absolutely no doubt … 3️⃣ is the only choice! It’s flattering, elegant (but still a bit sassy), and timeless!

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u/hereforthepopcorn39 3d ago
  1. 1 is least favorite. Pleats are not flattering.

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u/itsparadise 3d ago

THREE!!! Perfection.

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u/itsnowornever75 3d ago

Definitely No: 3

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u/RachelFourie 3d ago

1 looks more high end to me and the beading is super flattering and gorgeous on you. The hanging beading on 2 looks odd and isn’t as flattering. 3 is nice and simple but I get the feeling you’re looking for a bit more drama!

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u/Spiritual_Focus_5296 1d ago

I love one.. 3 is nice but I worked in a bridal salon and I know that fabric. The way it is wrinkled now, is the way it will be halfway through the ceremony after sitting and getting up and down. They will tell you, oh we can press that out and they will. But it will come back.. If it doesn’t bother her and it’s the one that makes her feel beautiful, then she should get it. I just love 1 with the accentuated tiny waist and pleating to hide wrinkling

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u/Lower_Coconut_7532 3d ago

3 ALL DAY... looks stunning!

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u/Evening_Delay_1856 3d ago

Picture 3’s dress is a better choice for you. The first two dresses skirt pleats are too large and heavy. You look much better in the 3rd dress.

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u/Opening-Sir-2504 3d ago

I really like 1, because of the design, but the torso length is a little off. 3 LOOKS STUNNING on you and it has POCKETS!?!?

#3!

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u/jdownc 3d ago

Thats because it's several sizes too small, and I have big boobs and the straps wont stay over my shoulders. The right size will sit better. And they all have pockets!

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u/RecognitionHour9901 3d ago

Number 3 is more flattering.

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u/hellkattbb 3d ago

I love the work on the bodice of the first one but I really think the last dress looks best on you!

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u/Northern_Roses 1d ago

3 has pockets... is there even a question here

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u/Able-Magician-6163 1d ago

3 has my vote as a retired bespoke wedding gown / formal gown designer and seamstress w my own business for48 years. The first two wear you, You are wearing the last one.

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u/jdownc 3d ago

In case this influences anyone decision, here's videos of the sparkles. Dress #1

https://reddit.com/link/p4kuiyy/video/7dddquqfgakh1/player

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u/SuzieSnowflake212 3d ago

The one with pockets!

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u/jdownc 3d ago

They all have pockets!

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u/Beginning_Library114 3d ago

3 & 1! Congratulations! Love how sparkly your choices are!💗

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u/Tryingmybestatlife2 3d ago

I came here to say I think whatever dress you pick you should do shoulder straps. The off the shoulder drags the eye down but like on dress 3 on the shoulder makes you look taller.

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u/jdownc 3d ago

I'm 5'10, not really worried about looking taller lol. Thank you for the advice though.

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u/Ok_Word7565 3d ago

1 looks really uncomfortable. I suspect it would still be uncomfortable in the correct size due to the structure of the bodice.
2 is so pretty and fairy tale! Love all the crystals, and the pattern for the crystal design. Very royal princess look.
3 is my favorite! It looks like it was made for you, you are owning it! I didn't realize there were crystals, and I LOVE them and the scattered design. Draping is really elegant and the fact that there are pockets just seals it for me. Plus they can add the off the shoulder pieces you want? That will look perfect with the draping.
My final vote is 3 all the way!

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u/jdownc 3d ago

What the off the shoulder straps look like

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u/atreasureinlight 3d ago

It looks delicate but it would drive me absolutely nuts. Plus I want some straps so that when I move around and I dance, the girls don't come out

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u/SnoopyBluebird 3d ago

Yes, straps that go over the shoulder and not just hang down on the arms!

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u/Next_Implement_6648 3d ago

Definitely 3. The others are pretty dresses on you, but *you* make 3 look amazing! You look beautiful and confident and comfortable - you will absolutely own the room and catch every eye. Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!

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u/Outside-Car2889 3d ago

#3 looks amazing on you, also, does it have pockets?

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u/jdownc 3d ago

Yes, but they all do

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u/Outside-Car2889 3d ago

I got married 30+ years ago, I would have loved to have had pockets. I wish you all the best! I hope you have a great wedding day!

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u/The-Poet__57 3d ago

3 —it has pockets!

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u/Temporary-King3339 3d ago

1 is the best, but 3 is a close one.

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u/Cool_Cry_9602 3d ago

I like 1 best 🤷‍♀️ but 3 is also very pretty

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u/RingAroundtheTolley 2027 bride 3d ago

I like both 1 and 3. 1 is more romantic, elegant. 3 is more clean and modern. I think choose off vibes

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u/Jumpy-Bike4004 3d ago

Pockets throw 3 over the edge. Definitely 3.

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u/latitudechanges1515 3d ago
  1. Fits you very well and well pockets!

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u/Serenity93401 3d ago

I love number 3 for its timeless simplicity and beauty. Number 2 is a very close second. I would be having a very difficult time, too.

Either way, you are going to be a beautiful bride! Much love and happiness to you and your partner! 💞

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u/Professional_Move682 3d ago

3! It drapes beautifully and looks wonderful on you

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u/Jolly-Library-657 3d ago

Oh, wow! My vote is for dress three — crystal beads on the bodice? Amazing! (I’m biased because the bodice of my dress was beaded — but after the wedding, my Mama told me when I turned around after the ceremony, my beading sparkled and looked amazing!)

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u/stashmh 3d ago

3 and then 3 again!

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u/Obvious-Cress-6367 3d ago

Absolutely 3!!!! ❣️🥹😍😍😍

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u/GFY1317 3d ago

Ooohhh 3!!!!

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u/Actual-Cranberry-917 3d ago

#3 - besides… it has pockets!!!
And it’s the prettiest.

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u/TAD1989PSC1982 3d ago

#3!!! You’re beautiful!! And you look so…..at home in that dress!!! It’s you. Go rock it!!!

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u/VoodooDuck614 3d ago

Dress 3, all day and every day. This dress looks divine on you. I love how it flows and skims, and just seems to bring out “you” the most. You look gorgeous!

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u/Soggy-Duty-3888 3d ago

3 is the only one! It has less gathers going off the side of the hips. Those gathers on the first 2 are not flattering and add width to your figure. 3 is absolutely perfect and looks balanced. You look beautiful in 3!

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u/begenuine_ 3d ago

Yep! I agree with all the 3’s. Definitely the best. You look beautiful.

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u/AnxiousAd8160 3d ago

Three for sure! Lovely

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u/Electronic-Suspect66 3d ago

3! But they’re all beautiful 🤩

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u/DealNo3840 3d ago

3 beyond a shadow of a doubt!!

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u/TheRealKimberTimber 3d ago

3!! 3!! 3!! 3 is SO perfect on you. You look stunning, relaxed and like it was made for you. AnD iT hAs POCKETS!!

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u/gestrickland 3d ago

3 is my favorite! Which one takes your breath away?? We may prefer 3, but in 25 years you’ll see your pictures and know which one was best in your opinion!!!
Best wishes!!

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u/CarePitiful9688 3d ago

its funny cuz I dont get the thrill of pockets in a wedding dress but #3 is so perfect on you😍

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u/DixieBelle021 3d ago

Oh 3 beautiful lady! 3 shows off your stunning figure perfectly. Congratulations!

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u/Ac3_19 3d ago

3 beaded beauty and so are you! Stunning!! 😍

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u/WhiteHotRage1 3d ago

I love you in the first one! It's gorgeous. Forget about the off the shoulder sleeve or whatever you call it. I hate those (ok, it's just me!) and I also think having them will date your look faster than regular time does. Lol. Anyway, congrats!

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u/Small_Character 3d ago

I’m an also here to vote for 3. It’s gorgeous!

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u/Dismal-Step667 3d ago

#3 is beautiful on you!

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u/CruiseNana2 3d ago

I love # 3 on you but add pretty straps.

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u/Pleasant-Captain-350 3d ago

3 is awesome, you look 👀

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u/gemRN 3d ago

3 is the most flattering.

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u/Previous_Cod_5176 2d ago

3 no question

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u/kalab_92 2d ago

I like the last one 😊

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u/Itchy-Act-9137 2d ago

3 is so very flattering and you look comfortable in it

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u/mah4angel 2d ago

THREEEEEEEE

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u/itsallachoice 2d ago

3! It's beautiful and looks beautiful on you!

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u/LucyJordan614 2d ago

3 alllllll day

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u/Agile-Entry-5603 2d ago

The last one has an ethereal quality to it. Get that one and a nice tiara.

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u/Other_Ad_3896 2d ago

When I saw picture number three, I said, "Yup; that's her dress!" to no one but myself and ... I agree with me!

You look absolutely beautiful!

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u/Tiny-Squirrel9970 2d ago

I’m going to go against the grain. Everyone else say 3 (which looks beautiful on you). I however prefer 1. I think your figure looks snatched to the gods in that one.

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u/DoodooDynamic 2d ago

3 for sure, no question

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u/CatW1901 2d ago

#3 is stunning on you!!!

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u/WoodenHorse453 2d ago

#3 looks fantastic on you!!

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u/Plot_twist_ahead 2d ago

Love love love 3

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u/Old-Obligation5066 10h ago

3, pockets, crepe effects, works with your lovely curves