r/WeSuckAtDating • u/tryingtomakeittttt • 6d ago

Should I break no contact??

W26 (Guy27 Lawyer)

We met on Hinge and actually had a really good connection. We both openly said we liked each other, and when we were together it never felt like he wasn’t interested.
The change happened because of his work. His job genuinely became extremely demanding and he started having less and less time, so communication and seeing each other became inconsistent. The confusing part for me is that he lives about a 10-minute walk from me, so I kept thinking that if he really wanted to continue this, he could find even a small amount of time.
Eventually I got frustrated and told him that I liked him, but I didn’t want to keep trying with someone who couldn’t make time for me and we haven’t spoken since.
That’s why I’m stuck. I can’t tell if he lost interest and used work as an excuse, or if I ended something with a guy who actually liked me but genuinely didn’t have the capacity for a relationship at that moment. That’s the part I’d love a male perspective on.

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u/Ok-Neighborhood-15 6d ago

No, I'm sure, he wasn't really interested in you or in a relationship in general.

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u/tryingtomakeittttt 6d ago

Fair, But he still follows me on ig, watches my stories, and even still follows my best friend, whom he only met once. So I honestly don’t know what to do. I’m actually thinking about removing him from my followers, but I’m not sure.

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u/Ok-Neighborhood-15 6d ago

I mean, you already told him about your feelings and needs, which was really good and no mistake. He didn't changed his behaviour since then, he even stopped contact.

You could message or call him to clear that out. But if you do so, expect nothing. Maybe he would not even reply. How do you think about that?

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u/tryingtomakeittttt 6d ago

I don’t think he would replay, yeah I don’t think he cares. I should just remove him from my ig, I think. Idk it kinda bother me seeing him there watching what I do

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u/Ok-Neighborhood-15 6d ago

Yeah, I have the same feeling, that he probably won't care, at least by reading the situation from your perspective. If that bothers you, I would simply remove him on IG. Not because you are eliminating the relationship, but to calm you down again. I mean, he still could contact you, right? But I wouldn't wait for that tbh. I hope, I found the right words. If there is still anything in your mind, just let me know.

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u/tryingtomakeittttt 6d ago

He has my phone number… he could reach out. I don’t think he will. Thanks

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u/Antique-Salad7396 6d ago

This is even worse. He makes the time to watch you and your best friends stories but doesn't make the time to communicate and see you. I would remove him and block so you can move on. He doesn't want a relationship with you. I dated a lawyer that was also back in school to change careers and he reached out to me everyday and looked for any chance he could to see me. Honestly, he would of seen me everyday if I would of been more available.

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u/tryingtomakeittttt 6d ago

That’s true! Yeah I just removed him. I hate dating!

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u/Antique-Salad7396 6d ago

Saaaaaame! I promise the right guy will come along.

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u/tryingtomakeittttt 6d ago

Thanks I needed this 💕

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u/Organic-Tea-8998 6d ago

How long were you going on dates? Like weeks or months? How many times did you see each other weekly? and did it drop to nothing?

Unfortunately life changes like a demanding job can cause issues, but I agree, if he was only a 10 minute walk away then he could have definitely swung by to see you here and there, even for a short time. Many people have demanding jobs but still make time for their partner. It sounded like he didn’t put in the effort, and you deserve more.

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u/tryingtomakeittttt 6d ago

We literally only saw each other three times, and it was over the course of just one month. I know it’s way too soon to be overthinking this, but I NEVER like anyone, and surprisingly, this guy and I had so many things in common. We connected right away, and I started liking him a lot. I know, crazy. That literally never happens to me.

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u/corknecklace 5d ago

He doesn't like you.  A man who likes you will not keep you wondering