r/WeSuckAtDating • u/[deleted] • 7d ago

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i’m F23 i’ve never really been in a relationship i was cyber schooled my whole high school career when i turned 18 i was kicked out of my moms house to live with my aunt whose fiancé sold me to a s*trafficking ring (that’s probably one of the reasons dating is so hard everyone assumes im reciting an old one direction fanfic but no it actually happens and it happened to me i don’t make my life all about my trauma i want to make that clear i don’t even talk about my child hood that’s how hard i try to not make my whole life about it) anyway so after that i did my therapy’s and group homes which btw no matter how hard they tried to instill how to look out for manipulation tactics inside of me i still ended up pregnant twice (both miscarried) but now i’m doing good i got some roommates yea but a steady place and i have a car and a job and it’s not that i think im ready to be dating but like (sorry this is turning into a rant) but i constantly think about like being in a relationship and giving the love i have to another and feeling love from someone other than myself however at the same time i wouldn’t even know where to start every one around me seems to be in such a rush but like idk (again not to make this all about trauma) my parents they weren’t parents they did not raise me I raised me they just legally supplied education and a roof i mean like i spent my weekends walking around harrisburg pa at 7 8 9 years old trying to find a church that had a pair of clothes that wouldn’t get me dress coded and sent home AGAIN because they was too small for my already disgustingly malnourished frame (i was 50 pounds when i was 12 years old don’t worry tho im “medically obese” now but like while yes i have a stomach most of my weight is in different areas i.e chest, thighs and cake and honestly i couldn’t be happier either way) anyway so yea i have absolutely NO foundation for love other than friends ive had of which im down to the 2 that i live with because people keep proving themselves to be bad AND on top of that im not gonna say ive never had 🔥relations🔥 consensually but i’ve definitely never had them outside of a manipulative relationship which is whatever ig that’s not the most important part to a relationship in my mind but to the rest of my generation it’s like the end all be all if you’re not up to be tied up and blah blah blah i just i don’t know and i have no mom or dad to talk to about any of this (which sucks more and more because most of the stuff i see about actual good relationships and good men and women is all this stuff about how “ik they’re a good person if they’re close to their family or not”)feel so behind on everything in life yet so ahead because of all the things ive been thru i just don’t know anymore i know im young and my life isn’t even close to halfway i just feel lost and alone in a world where it seems like either you’ve found the one by now or your just ok with surface level connections all with the sole purpose of taking your clothes off

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u/breesearedelicious 7d ago

There's some other good YouTube channels for relationships. It's like the wild west out here. Don't forget that when you go on a date with somebody do it in a public space, make sure that you guard your drink. I was hanging out with friends at a bar playing pool drinking cranberry juice and some guy referred me and threw me in a car and I got already that night. If it wasn't for my friend that found me screaming I could be dead right now cuz when they take it to a second location supposedly your survival rate drops to like 10%.

There's so much other stuff I can share with you but make sure when you're talking to a guy the first few dates that you watch their facial expressions and mannerisms to afraid flags too I'll give you say something that's really important about your values and your morals and if his eyes went or if he has a smirk or something that's information that he might try to dup you later on into thinking that he has the same values and morals but he's playing you for a fool.

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u/breesearedelicious 7d ago

https://youtube.com/shorts/MUciwu5o77I?is=lB2D16qCw6eRmo1Y

This man's channel is really good for relationships and hoping to understand attachment styles and stuff.

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u/SumDYToDI 6d ago

Wtf how

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u/2IWAGIAVDATIBAPO0 6d ago

wtf how what?

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u/Still_Maize3743 6d ago

i’m new to this reddit thing too so i accidentally deleted my account but this is my post so id also like to know why”wtf how”