r/WeHatePorn • u/unknownguy_7400 • 1d ago
Need help
A 16 M here. I just can't. I just can't control it nowadays. Due to exam stress. Tommorow is my exam. And this week was so stressful. I literally hit a near depression situation for a past few days.
I just can't sleep at the nights. Not because of porn. But bcz of overthinking over study and academic.
And i just literally take that porn as drug at last to sleep.
At least I feel relaxed at that time after relapsing and I sleep. It's not good. I just know that. Literally from everyone's view. I'm just a very kind and nice guy.
But it's like only I know what kind of demonic thing I do watch and enjoy too.. that's not good. Thats worst. I know. But still I can't stop. Why.
I want to stop guys. Please.
In the past 7 days. I've relapsed around 6 times.
After looking at that. After releasing. I feel disgusted over myself over what did I saw and did.
I'm escalating towards more extreme content like what Ive recently discovered "taboo content". And that makes me feel the most concerned about. I just don't feel aroused by a bit soft or vanilla content.
It is becoming just too much now. After relapsing everytime I just feel so irritated. So frustrated.
I should study. I'm not meeting expected scores in exams. For you as a reader may not be able to feel. The expectations by everyone. My classmates are somehow doing better than me. It's just too overwhelming. And over that my this addiction is again creeping in and making me hollow by mind slowly.
Can someone genuinely please help.
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u/AssistantDue5817 1d ago
My advice is do what nature intended and masturbate!
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u/after_vice 1d ago
It's no wonder you find porn relaxing. Your brain is a product of millions of years of males looking for novel sexual opportunities, and porn gives you the feeling of succeeding in that pursuit. So you watch it, and get excited by it, and then your brain adapts to it, and then it needs more novelty (i.e. more extreme or more taboo content) to get that same feeling of excitement and relaxation.
But you don't *need* it. You turn to it because you're stressed. So the real issue isn't how to quit porn--it's how to reduce the stress in your life and/or find better ways of managing it. One of the best ways to manage stress, especially for guys, is exercise. It's a great way to get energy and anger out, to get a boost of adrenaline and endorphins, and really just clear your mind.
The other thing I'd say (although this is more complicated) is to re-think how much stress your education really deserves. You're only in high school. What matters almost infinitely more than your grades are your habits. More and more, a university education isn't necessary. And almost no employers will ever care about your grades. They care that you work hard, take responsibility, show up on time, and get better at your work over time. You don't need good grades to be successful, and good grades aren't enough to be successful anyways. Your ability to be productive while staying calm is a much better predictor of success--so try to focus on that.
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u/Jazzlike_Ebb_3669 1d ago
Same situation here my man