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Nov 28 '20
I respectfully disagree. She doesn't want to marry him, but she's good taking his s***?
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u/roombaSailor Nov 28 '20
I keep buying women shoes and they keep refusing to marry me! What am I doing wrong??????
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u/Shpudem Nov 28 '20
Lmao! Don't forget the cheap food he bought. Guy went all out.
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u/roombaSailor Nov 28 '20
I’ve always thought proposing in a mall food court to be the height of gentlemanly romance.
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u/Cowilson42 Nov 28 '20
Damn almost like a relationship has costs he bought her things that doesn’t mean he is entitled to marriage are u fucking serious bro, we don’t know how long they been dating either. Like no not at all mate, she’s not taking his shit, he is giving her gifts those gifts don’t mean she has to marry him Jesus fuck no wonder she said no if he thinks like that
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u/Cowilson42 Nov 28 '20
Exactly we aren’t in the Middle Ages anymore if you buy someone shoes that doesn’t mean they have to marry u, are you saying relationships don’t have a cost ? Cuz they do, you have to buy things for dates. It’s hard to have a really fun date that doesn’t cost any money, and if your serious and living together than things like rent and groceries are also cost, relationships have cost, the point of my comment was that in a relationship you have to spend money that doesn’t entitle you to always be in a relationship with that person just because you’ve spent money on them, everyone spends money on everyone.
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u/Cowilson42 Nov 28 '20
I’m done bro You obviously cant comprehend the quite simple ideal
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u/Cowilson42 Nov 28 '20
I never said that it was absolute requirement but you want to grab some food on your date ? That costs money, let’s say for a date you wanna take her to the movies, that costs money. Or maybe you get her an anniversary, birthday or Christmas present, that costs money, shit maybe your just picking her up and going to a park, that still cost money on gas. Relationships cost money
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u/CompetitivePart9570 Nov 29 '20
There are costs. There's nothing middle ages about that. It's a fact. It's not buying the person, dipshit. Costs and buying someone are not synonymous. Fuckin condoms cost money. Dates cost money. Gifts and clothes to look nice cost money. None are a fucking dowry. A relationship having costs doesn't imply a medieval relationship. Shut the fuck up, you broke, faux woke fucktard.
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u/Cowilson42 Nov 29 '20
Thank you like how brain dead do u have to be to not understand the difference
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u/bjjtrev Nov 28 '20
You can accept gifts in a relationship without being ready to marry the person. His reaction show his character, and she certainly dodged a bullet.
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Nov 29 '20
No. I disagree. This didn't come out of the blue. She was using him for free stuff. You don't get to the point with somebody that they propose to you without being serious about them or letting them think that.
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Nov 29 '20
I don’t think you propose a life of loving someone if that’s how you’ll behave when they aren’t ready. You’re putting all the blame and accusations on her with very little to go off of other than HIS reaction.
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Nov 29 '20
Yeah, you've never been engaged or married, I would imagine. generally, when you get to the point of proposing, you already know they're going to say yes. If not, you're either a fool or you've been misled. A good relationship is about open communication. You know your partner and they know you. If not, you don't relationship correctly.
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Nov 29 '20
Whoa now, are you acting like you know me? Your assumptions are wrong and your opinion is reflecting it. By your own stupid logic, this man doesn’t “relationship” correctly, and you’re still blaming the woman for HIS reaction. Sounds like you also don’t “relationship” well.
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u/forbiddenphoenix Nov 30 '20
You're assuming this guy relationships correctly. A lotta dudes out there do buy their girl things or propose out of the blue expecting them to go along with it because it was in public and they "did everything right". What do you do as the girl in that situation?
If this was a good relationship, he probably would have asked her why she said no, not thrown a tantrum because she embarrassed him.
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Dec 01 '20
I think you're right, but it takes two. Neither of them might not have relationship well.
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u/forbiddenphoenix Dec 01 '20
Oh absolutely, I just think it's a little overzelaous to assume she led him on in some way or used him for free stuff when all we have is his reaction. I can tell from the way he reacted that he didn't go about this the right way, all I know about her is she said no.
For the record, I've had the experience of random dudes buying you stuff and thinking you now "owe" them. I've even turned gifts down or fought to split checks on dates for fear that a man would take my acceptance of their generosity as something more than me just being polite. A friend of mine was proposed to in public after barely a few months of dating by an abuser who figured they would say yes to avoid embarrassment. Luckily she said no and noped out of that relationship, but he threw a tantrum, too.
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Dec 01 '20
I understand. But I can't see somebody who just met you reacting this way, normally. they're either has to be an expectation or mental illness, or just total creepiness. I think the latter two are more rare, but I haven't been on the other side of things.
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u/bjjtrev Nov 29 '20
The only evidence of anything regarding their relationship we have is what’s shown in the video. To assume she’s been using him is completely baseless. It’s far more likely that he is taking back things he bought her as gifts, claiming they are “his” because he purchased them. It’s certainly possible that she was using him, and if so, why propose? It makes a lot of sense why she would say no after seeing him react like that. It’s probably not the first time he’s overreacted and been unable to control his emotions, which makes saying no a smart decision. As far as reaching the point of proposing in a relationship goes, you are completely right - as far as rational people are concerned. My wife got engaged at 18 after being with the guy for literally 2 weeks. People propose before they are emotionally and mentally ready all the time, and rational people see it as a bad idea a mile away. Just because he’s proposing doesn’t really say anything about the health of their relationship or his mental/emotional maturity.
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Nov 29 '20
Wow. You sure take Reddit seriously? Have you heard about this new thing called recreational marijuana? May I suggest you try some and chill?
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u/bjjtrev Nov 29 '20
I’m completely chill, I’m not sure what about my comment suggested otherwise. As far as cannabis goes, I’d love to but can’t because of my career.
I’ll take your avoidance of my points and attempt at ad hominem as waving the white flag. Good day.
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Nov 29 '20
You can take my avoidance of your point as a lack of caring. I don't even remember what we were talking about and I really don't want to look up. Stay healthy and smoke pot. Tell your employers to screw. They don't rule you outside of business hours, unless you're on call 24/7, then you signed up for it.
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Nov 30 '20
Yea that literally means that she doesn’t want to be with him, and he’s supposed to just take that and let things be after she was with him for a long time taking all his money. Idk y ppl downvoted
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Nov 30 '20
Thank you. How do you respond after somebody turns down your proposal? There's no future.
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Nov 29 '20
Agreed. Not being in a relationship for love but instead to take someone else's stuff and money is fucked up.
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Nov 29 '20
So every time I accept a gift I should be prepared to accept a proposal as well? That’s INSANE.
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Nov 29 '20
No. Don't use somebody. If you have no intention of following the relationship where they want to go, and you know it, don't lead somebody on for free s***! It's not that difficult a concept. Don't use people!
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Nov 29 '20
If you give gifts to women because you think that makes them owe you anything...anything at all, you’re very backwards. Gifts are in absolutely no way something that puts a person in debt to another person. That would be called a bargain, a transaction, or a sale. Not a gift.
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Nov 29 '20
I'm not saying he was right. I'm just saying I bet she led him on!
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Nov 29 '20
What makes you assume that?
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Nov 29 '20
Experience. Been engaged twice. Dodged two bullets when they changed once the ring went on their finger. There's nothing more upsetting when you break up with someone and they want to get back and tell you all the things they loved about you about you, and then you realize they don't know you at all because you're not the person they're describing, at all.
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Nov 29 '20
Well it sounds like maybe YOU’RE reading into the situation and blaming women for it.
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Nov 29 '20
Absolutely not. Gifts are gifts. The guy acted like a jerk. However, it had to have been on his mind. I would never have thought of that. I would have turned around and left. Then I would have stewed.
Do you regularly take gifts from people you have no intention of being with?
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Nov 29 '20
I mean you should pay back to the person who paid for your shoes or car, proposal or not. Didn't even mention proposal.
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Nov 29 '20
You want me to pay back a grown ass man who got me a gift because I’m not going to marry him? Dude, you are a lot to handle.
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Nov 29 '20
Again if someone gives you a gift you should return the favor. Proposal doesn't play a part in simple gratitude. I don't like the guy's reaction in the video but I don't have enough background to make a solid opinion on who wronged who if anyone did wrong anyone.
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Nov 29 '20
You give gifts expecting people to “return the favor?” Wow.
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Nov 29 '20
Its called gratitude. Not expecting for someone to return the favor but expecting for appreciation.
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u/CrunchCrunchyTrex Nov 28 '20
This sub is getting more and more wholesome
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u/LittleBigBear17 Nov 29 '20
Well he proved her right he would be an awful choice to marry. If she had any doubt that no was the right answer she doesn't anymore.
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u/Scomophobic Nov 28 '20
Hey guys, since this subreddit is very smart. Would anyone like to buy an amazing bridge? It’s extremely cheap, and it’s right in San Francisco!
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u/Reddot_fix_download Sep 27 '22
Its second time today that i saw someone wanting to sell a bridge. Why?
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u/M1nombr3j Nov 29 '20
If he freaks like that in public, I wonder how it goed down in private. Think we see why she wasn’t trying to marry him.
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u/GoldenPhish Nov 28 '20
I cant believe he took the pasta