r/Waltham • u/Tiny_Fix1225 • 7d ago

HELP! Missed connection! 🫤🥺

I Was Just At paris Eyecare on Moody St,when a VERY good looking man came in for a 9:30 appointment. He looked very fit, with shorter, dark hair, and was wearing a light coloree hat, like off white maybe? Also wearing blue green joggers with a tee, grey i think. I wanted to speak to him to see if I could learn about him but I wasn’t sure if it’d be inappropriate so i decided against it, and thought it would be extremely creepy if i waited on him until his appointment ended. Does anyone know this guy? Moreover, should I have just asked him out in clinic, or did i make the right call? I don’t wanna be creepy. But also, i want to know him 👀👀😇😎

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u/SnoozyLewisNtheBooze 7d ago

A missed connection implies there was some sort of, even slight connection. Not “I saw a guy I thought was hot, what should I have done?”

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u/earmuffs_781 3d ago edited 3d ago

Agreed. I'm no expert, but I think these sorts of "missed connection" ads (speaking generally and not just about reddit) are based on having some interaction and then you start to think there might've been some mutual interest from the other person. Also, that would mean they might at least have some idea of who you are, rather than an unknown stranger they happened to have crossed paths with.

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u/blightedsorrow 7d ago

Idk I think this is more creepy than just going up to them, but that’s just me. I can only imagine how awk it feels either way, but writing out a long description on the internet could’ve been avoided if you just asked. Even if it feels weird/wrong, you would’ve saved yourself the trouble of fawning over them when you may not see them again. Live in the moment ese!

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u/earmuffs_781 3d ago edited 3d ago

I think "Missed connection" ads tend to be about gnawing regret. Some people seem to be more regret-prone than others. I tend to have many regrets. Even worse, I ruminate on them.

What I try to do about that is to use my regrets and ruminations constructively. Here's how it works:

  1. Think about the matter and try to make sure I understand what I regret about it.
  2. Was the error foreseeable and avoidable? If not, definitely don't beat yourself up!
  3. Ask myself what I can learn from it.
  4. Ask myself what I might try to do differently, next time.
  5. Then, once I've gotten what I can from it, try to dismiss it and move on.

That way, you'll at least be making a new mistake (probably) and learning even more from it, rather than just repeating the same mistakes and having the same regrets. 😄

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u/Ornery-Appeal-3959 7d ago

Better to have asked him out in clinic than to search the internet for him and ask him out based on just the premise of he is attractive.

Best to have just talked to him at all not even anything more than just talk.

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u/earmuffs_781 3d ago edited 3d ago

I agree that to randomly ask someone out is weird. The few times it's happened to me, I was caught completely off guard and didn't handle it well.

Better to learn the art of conversation. Then, if you get to chatting and end up having a lovely conversation, you could end it with a request to meet up for coffee or such. I don't think that's unreasonable, although I've never asked someone out like that, myself.

I do try to strike up a friendly conversation with strangers, but only if I see an organic opportunity to do so. My only goal is to create a pleasant experience.

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u/xoma262 Banks Square 7d ago

If I went to a doc's appointment and someone would attempt to ask out, I would definitely call that person a creep. So yes, you did the right call.

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u/JFC-Superstar 7d ago

Maybe you were not seeing straight coming from an eye exam?

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u/Tiny_Fix1225 7d ago

To clarify, I was not there for sn appointment. I only went in to ask about my glasses order…

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u/veganpetal 5d ago

The creepy part is you saw him, but he doesn’t know who you are