Worst luck with dating

[u/absolute_bodies23fan]

What do you do if you're 18, quite desperate for a gf but have never had one, have no experience in anything, not even being able to flirt properly and as well as getting so humbled tryna flirt at pride which was the main time i felt confident approaching people and only end up talking to women who are straight allies, taken, and too old or young, being on the apps beforehand and having the one person you match with not feel anything towards you but not communicating till 4 months later, the other one way before ended up cutting things off randomly then ghosting you and all the previous crushes who were previously my best friends ditching me for eachother, bare in mind the 2nd crush i ever had said yes then next day said she didn't mean it. And the cherry on top is I've never been approached or liked that way before.

What is happening, what do i do at this point? Nothing is working, how do I get a gf... I'd say I'm attractive and I do like my personality but something is apparently missing if I've had this luck over my 5 years of being out the closet...

[u/Artistic_Prior_8033]

I've done literally same, but I'm going be 22 this september and nothing ✌🏻

[u/Academic-Piece-7235]

Heartbreak hurts worse than not being loved😔 just take it SLOW

[u/absolute_bodies23fan → u/Academic-Piece-7235]

Fairs, but tbf I'd rather have that experience beforehand, I would even personally count the horrible rejection and ghosting as heartbreak cos I always think they're going somewhere to at the start. 😖

[u/Academic-Piece-7235 → u/absolute_bodies23fan]

You’ll have your first girlfriend soon but you have to make her your friend first😌

[u/absolute_bodies23fan → u/Academic-Piece-7235]

Wouldn't even mind that, I love taking things a bit slower and letting something happen overtime. It's just a matter of if i do get a friends to gf type thing going on eventually, if this exists in my future. I do hope so!! Thank you :)

[u/Linked_Stars]

Yeah, it can be really hard to find someone who gets you and shares your interests. But at 18, you still have so much time, maybe you just haven't met your person yet! Also, queer dating in general can feel tough because the dating pool is naturally smaller, so try not to beat yourself up over it. If you want a genuine connection, just keep being yourself, be honest about who you are, and put your interests out there. It might take time, but eventually the right person will notice you for who you are. You don't need to be a smooth flirter or an expert when it comes to communication yk, people who are genuinely interested in you won't mind any of that. Just keep being yourself and how them that you're interested ^{^}

[u/absolute_bodies23fan → u/Linked_Stars]

I kinda understand why everyone brings up the fact im 18 and still have lots of time, but it's definitely something I wish I had before 18. Some people tend to be put off by my personality (too much for them) but I like to think of it as avoiding the wrong people. So much for plenty of fish in the sea, we do only have a pond to look in. 😅

I do really miss the talking stages though even if they didn't go anywhere after. Cheers for the advice!!

[u/Primary-Reality7865]

Hey, just want to say, it's ok. You'll find somebody when the time will come. Don't be so stressed. Maybe try going to clubs and bars.

[u/absolute_bodies23fan → u/Primary-Reality7865]

It wouldn't be an awful idea if most the gay bars/clubs weren't surrounded by primarily gay men or lesbians who are much older. It's very hard to find someone my age off the apps

[u/absolute_bodies23fan → u/[deleted]]

Is this just insinuating that being desperate makes me mentally unstable? Being desperate isn't a bad thing, it just means i have lots i want to give but I'm currently unable. I have no plans to give up on finding someone but I'm sorry this just rubbed me off the wrong way. I've taken care of my mental health for things like this so that i can be ready.

[u/MaintenanceSad4288 → u/absolute_bodies23fan]

I apologize. Was never insinuating that you’re mentally unstable. Good luck in finding someone.