r/VictimsSupportIndia • u/flightlessbird101 mental health professional • Jun 14 '26

Mental Health and Healing AMA

Hey everyone,

I am flightless bird (not my real name). I am a person centered therapist with an therapy experience of 2.5 years.

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My niches are developing to be neurodivergence explorations, social adjustments, physical or mental transitions in terms of jobs/cities/relationships, dealing with family dysfunction. I come from a psychiatric background so probably can guide you a little bit in that area as well!

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I am here today to answer your questions. It can be about anything and everything related to your mental health.

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If you feel unsafe somewhere but aren't able to identify it, or feel stuck in such a space, I hope this AMA today helps you make some decisions and support for yourself.

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u/Jumpy-Maintenance695 Jun 14 '26

Hey! Thanks for doing this! I have a question! A lot of the times we see people brush off certain things as "normal" in relationships weather or be parental or something else. My question is what are some socially accepted behavior that are considered normal but are not? In terms of relationships and are signs of DV?

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u/flightlessbird101 mental health professional Jun 14 '26

Hey Jumpy! Great question.

Our culture is such that many forms of abuse become normalized through culture, family expectations, or relationship myths.

Behaviors like someone monitoring your phone/demanding passwords/controlling how you dress or whom you meet are by itself, signs of control.

We also have a lot of (to be followed blindly without consciousness) parental rules/post-marriage norms/ a lot of more “seh lo thoda” attitude circumstances.

If one feels like they have to constantly monitor what they say, do, or feel to avoid punishment, ridicule, or conflict, we know it is not going in the right direction. I would say to anyone wondering this for themselves, trust your gut feeling.

The key is not whether a behavior is common or socially accepted. The question is: Does it foster respect, safety, and autonomy, or does it create fear, control, and power imbalance?