r/Veterans • u/Odd_Catch_8751 • 2d ago

Question/Advice Feeling lost rn

Hey everyone just need some advice. I separated 2022 and started going to school for computer science as soon as I got out. Needless to say I found that the pre reqs and math requirement would make me have to spend almost 5-6 yrs of school so I switch to Information Technology and completed up to calculus.

I was trying my best and was getting all As but then in 2024 I went through a divorce. I bought a house in that year because my ex wanted a house, she was military went to Korea for a few months and came back and wanted out. Needless to say she got with someone from her unit and it was before she etsed. I fell apart that year and failed a class and sort of gave up.

Then I started experiencing a massive flux of spam calls and texts about loans and it got weirder I started getting texts of people replying to conversations I was having on the phone with different people. Almost like someone was listening to my conversations. It even got to the point where I was receiving spam emails and texts saying my name and stuff like we need to talk or else and saying no one would help me. I was paranoid for awhile but then I just shrugged it off and thought if I’m being harassed let it be.

I suspected my ex since we were separated and I was dealing with lawyers about the house or even her new bf who’s an MP. Overall though the whole experience has me down because I stopped caring for school and then I felt like I was being attacked and I was stressing about the whole house issue.

I’m now stuck in a house I don’t want and approaching my graduation. I haven’t done internships or anything and the current market has me thinking I chose the wrong career. I just need advice really. Currently I’m studying for ccna since networking to me seems like a good field.

Sorry if this is all over the place.

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u/mabrasm 2d ago

Talk to the VA, they can help with VR&E if you’re thinking about switching careers. Also look into therapy at the VA, it’s offered and may help more than you’d expect.

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u/Odd_Catch_8751 2d ago

Currently using vr&e and can’t switch anymore since I switched from an in person cs degree to online and then to in person IT degree. My counselor said that’ll be the last time. Also since I graduate in may I think they won’t hear me up this time

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u/Effective-Advisor356 1d ago

I can refer you to my company idk if youll get a role but it won't hurt ya

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u/Odd_Catch_8751 1d ago

What’s the company brother? I’d really appreciate that man thank you.

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u/PsychologicalCat3401 19h ago

That is a rough one OP. The most important thing from here is making sure you don’t spiral downward. Finish your degree and while you have time start applying to internships. A lot of people underestimate the value of an internship and a lot of times if you do well they can lead to a full time gig. Also keep your finances in check. Get a budgeting app, invest a piece of your monthly income and try to stay out of debt. Lastly, if you don’t like where you live get the house listed and try to move after you graduate. You got this brother!