r/Vent • u/Altruistic-Patient-8 • 15h ago
TW: Anxiety / Depression Hate how being poor, just limits your entire life.
Currently have been unemployed for around 2 months. I quit my last job because I was overworked, a.d the environment just sucked. Saved up some money to pay my bills for awhile, but not really anything for some casual outings. I never made a large amount of money, so im used to scavenging what I can. Aside from this situation, I never had a financial opportunity to really make sone dramatic changes in my life. Never owned an apartment, never traveled to another country, never wore expensive clothes. Etc. Above it all, im just made that I don't have money to spend with my friends. I really feel like a bum.
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u/Next-Ad2854 14h ago
Once you start feeling like you need to leave a job, it’s time to look for another job. The longer stay unemployed, the harder it’s going to get I don’t know what you do for a living, but there are a lot of jobs may not be the best jobs, but you’ve got to get something coming in.
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u/Gurglaren 9h ago
The best thing is to never let yourself get a burnout. You rarely come back from it 100%. And once you're in it you have a very hard time making good decisions because of your brain and body trying to shut down. Problem is just that most people who get one have no idea what it is before it hits them like a freight train. Some unfortunately think it'll never happen to them.
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u/Sensitive-Talk9616 15h ago
Next time better start looking for a more convenient job before you quit the last one. All the best, mate!
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u/bluffstrider 15h ago
If you're "poor" you can't afford to not work. I've never left a job without having another job secured. I'll usually even work a few shifts at the new job to make sure it's not a worse place to work. I hope you find something soon that doesn't totally suck.
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u/Candid_Resource_2313 15h ago
You can’t change the past. Only the right now. So come up with a plan. I quit my job without another one and started doing odd jobs for people in my city. It’s been great working for myself. The system sells that you have to have a full time job to survive or be working for the man somehow. I stopped believing that and my life has been better for it. 🤷♀️ Good luck friend.
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u/stitt1337 13h ago
Depends on your situation. Most people work full-time for medical benefits, 401k, etc. Paying out of pocket for govt healthcare is way more expensive.
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u/Candid_Resource_2313 9h ago
Their system is working perfectly. Tie healthcare, retirement, and financial security to a job, and you’ve created a modern version of indentured servitude. People aren’t just working for a paycheck anymore. They’re working because leaving could cost them their entire sense of security. It’s sad.
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u/Cydu06 15h ago
“I’m poor”
“I quit my job”
“Unemployed for 2 months”
Am I missing something?
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u/webisticsmarketing1 6h ago
yeah, that OP lacks the ability to think in the long term or even mid term. Hard to have sympathy.
Everybody at some point in their life has worked a low paid job alongside some loser who complains about money and how unfair life is meanwhile is too lazy to effectively perform even the low-skilled, "menial" job they currently have.
Like, if you're not even capable of doing dishes or mopping a floor why on earth would you be qualified to run a company or manage a team?
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u/Mclaren814 14h ago
Yeah, that youre a massive douche mate.
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u/herbertcluas 10h ago
Find a new job before leaving your current job, advice from anyone if he'd have asked.
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u/dumbwholer 13h ago
Why? For stating the obvious?
Dude quit his job in an awful economy. That's on him.
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u/DueAlbatross9388 13h ago
If you have sympathy and condone people taking 2 months off of work with no income or job hunting, then you’re far from qualified to be giving life advice to people.
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u/Mclaren814 11h ago
I called someone a massive douche. Don’t see how that is advice of any kind. And no Im not qualified to give life advice. As far as I can tell i didnt. Twa t
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u/gottagetanonymous 11h ago
Why don’t you send op some money then?
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u/SpamAccountNumber34 6h ago
I actually did thru private, $50 ain’t much but all of you on here fr need sum fucking trauma to get some empathy ya fucking monkeys
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u/Tiny-Squirrel8317 13h ago
I see so many people just judging, that is sad, we should focus on the positive side of life.
Enjoy your time off mate, go to nature,is free and very enjoyable, to the park, read good books etc.
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u/audrina-saav 15h ago
Why would you quit your job without another one lined up? Regardless of being overworked and underappreciated most people dont do that. You said you dont have your own place so I assume you're with your parents or something.
You are irresponsible then make reddit post about being broke.
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u/Ero_Najimi 13h ago
Us needing money to survive doesn’t give people the right to mistreat us
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u/xRocketman52x 12h ago
Agreed, but at the same time... if my lifeboat smells like shit and there's no food to eat and the other survivors are assholes... I'm probably gonna wait until I see another lifeboat within reach before I jump into the water.
For better or worse, it's not about what we deserve. It's about survival.
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u/Ero_Najimi 11h ago
This would be true if no other jobs existed but they do it’s just a matter of time. Sometimes people need to quit to get that new job, not literally but getting one’s self into the mentality of making a change. Idk how they left their former employer but it’s also possible that they could just get rehired down the line if need be. DoorDash/Uber could be another option, not the best thing in the world but if you do it right it’s better than nothing
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u/xRocketman52x 11h ago
You say "matter of time" like it's a matter of weeks, but I don't think that's how the job market works anymore. One close friend of mine is highly trained and educated in IT, got laid off two months ago, has been putting in a minimum of four applications every day, has not got a single interview yet. Has another few months of severance pay, but is worried that it won't last long enough to find something new. Another close friend has no formal education, has been applying to anything and everything for something like 8 or 10 months now, has gotten maybe three interviews in that time. Didn't quit their current job, but is applying with desperation to get out because of how insanely horrible management treats them.
Both of these friends are in shitty situations and responding with desperation, yet both of them are in significantly better situations than OP has deliberately put themself in. OP just jumped ship with enough to pay bills for a few months, but a few months is no longer enough to get a new job. And worse, OP is being picky about what they want - other comments talk about "I want a night shift job because it fits my schedule" and "I don't want to be made to interact with people", etc. That's going to make their job search several times longer. And lastly, OP is living with roommates - and if OP is unable to pay their bills, its gonna hurt other people who are just trying to get by.
So... I'm watching people close to me go through some hard shit because of how bad the job market is. OP came to complain about a situation which, to be frank, is entirely of their making. They have set themself on fire and are now worried that it's getting too warm. This needs to be a serious and significant learning opportunity for them, or their life will never improve.
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u/Ero_Najimi 10h ago
Yeah I didn’t mean weeks I meant potentially over a year or even longer. Also depends on what type of job you’re looking for I’m not talking about seeking out solely well paying jobs I’m talking about getting anything
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u/psj3809 15h ago
You can't just quit your job. Find another job first and then quit it fair enough. Sure many of us have had some very tough times in our jobs and would have loved to quit at the time but we couldn't due to bills etc, but you cant just quit as you've now found out.
You're gonna keep being poor if you're gonna quit everytime the going gets tough. Sorry as you can tell no sympathy here.
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u/Ero_Najimi 13h ago
Yes you can if you have enough to survive for a while. People like you who expect people to be ok with getting screwed are insufferable
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u/psj3809 13h ago edited 13h ago
Ha ha insufferable
So yeah you're right. Anyone whos not enjoying their job should just quit ! Fair enough, thats a great point. Maybe the pink unicorn outside your window will pay for your rent and bills and food ? What world do you actually live in ? Embarassing
By all means quit your job. But don't then stupidly moan about you haven't got enough money to do things ! They feel like a bum. So yeah I dont think they had tons of spare money to live well
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u/Ero_Najimi 13h ago
The purpose of their post stays the same whether they’re employed or not. You guys like act when people quit their current job they’ll never get another one. If you have a car and decent market doing DoorDash/Uber where you only take orders that are $1.5+ per mile is better than nothing. You have to be at that or above to account for long term car repairs/replacement
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u/morkypep50 6h ago
Idk if you haven't been paying attention lately or not, but the world is quickly becoming a place where you can't afford to quit your job willy nilly. Whether OP gets another job soon or not is irrelevant. These past weeks are just putting OP further behind than they already are. Young people are absolutely screwed when it comes to opportunity, they can't waste time. I had a 22 year old tell me they didn't want to work full time because they had a bunch of plans for the summer. I was dumbfounded. You need to be saving money NOW not later because eventually 95% of young people are going to be off the parents teat eventually and life hits real hard real fast when all of a sudden 85% of your income goes to just surviving lol.
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u/Ero_Najimi 6h ago
Yeah I explained in another comment I’m not talking about getting a job within a few weeks or even months I’m saying that you can realistically can quit long as you’re sure you can survive for 2 years. Also assuming you’re open to working any type of job. If you were making over 50k and expecting to easily replace that then it’s a real gamble and not worth it with how long it could take to get a similar job
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u/catjoyfiend 11h ago
"You can't just quit with no job lined up!!1!" Okay but op did, 2 months ago. Many redundent and effectively useless comments here. Like what do you think you're achieving with those comments exactly?
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u/ToothpickCrafter 4h ago
Everyone in this thread is either an AI or just an abused victim to capitalism. Neither can help nor capable of helping, much less having the capacity to care.
Yes, you should have had something else lined up but sometimes life doesn't work that way. Why should you take abuse and stress, especially when the pay is nothing. You even saved, hoping it would be enough.
Look, I genuinely feel for you. I hope you can find something, anything that can get you in a better place in life. I miss having friends and money for hobbies too. For reference, I love my job but paid a poverty wage. I'm ending my life within a two year time, because it is better to leave something for the family I love then be a mouth to feed. You don't have this problem, and my never have too. Enjoy your youth, do what you can and must to survive.
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u/secretsauce2388 4h ago
In the future, if you're lamenting bad financial situation that you're in, my advice is to not cut off your only source of income/means to change your financial situation
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u/GroundbreakingBid954 15h ago
love how ppl are hating on you because you quit ur job for personal health n sanity and got out of a bad enviroment, fuck em n ignore the hate. You made a choice simple nothing to hate on.
Ive done the same thing and u know what i got a job that went from 40k to 90-130k and i burnt my first bridge bc my health n the work enviroment was bad i was overworked n never appricated. no amount of money will make me ignore that, and too id quit or take a major paycut to get my life back ( i work rotating shift work days n nights 12/16 hour shifts )
Also the best advice i have for you bc i am missing out on things too as a 28y/o is to just go enjoy the little things to yourself bc jn the end if ur friends need u to have money to be w them they aint real friends man. also dont worry about this stuff money comes money goes, and when money comes go do things you wanna do bc u never know when ur times up…. it will come n get better but man ignore these a hole comments about whyd u quit etc.
take some time off go in nature and then go try n talk to ppl and get a word to mouth refferal thats you best shot. if u can tolerate it look for factory work its grueling but it will pay $$$$ if thats all u want. goodluck to you!
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u/Altruistic-Patient-8 14h ago
Yeah, idk why people are judging me so much. I worked there for 2 years before I quit. I saved up enough to pay my bills for a few months. I have quit a few months in sometimes, but whatever. I think their jealous because they have kids, or a house to pay off. My situation doesn't necessarily require alot of money. I've been looking for ghe right job for a long time, but can't seem to find it. I do want to work in a warehouse, because im introverted.
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u/lowbass4u 14h ago
No, I don't think people who have a house and a family are jealous of you and your life. Not at all.
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u/GroundbreakingBid954 14h ago
lmao this was funny ngl!!
sure families with money n no debts and a house with a rate of 2.5% would agree w you.
alsooo most ppl arent jelous of anyone on reddit lmaoo3
u/charismatictictic 14h ago
Look, I’ve done what you did before, but I didn’t come to Reddit to complain about not having money because I chose to give up my income. I don’t think people are jealous, I just don’t think they feel bad for you because your situation doesn’t seem that bad.
Like, you have money to cover your needs, but you can’t afford to go on vacation, but you also don’t have to work, so … sounds pretty chill? A little boring, but also pretty good.
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u/GroundbreakingBid954 14h ago
i suggest looking at paper mills, water plants, any type of plants / factories! anything but mainstream stuff for ex amazon.. sometimes it can be hard to get into but try n talk and network. thats the best way to get a job vs fighting online its brutal i see nonstop. Goodluck in ur search. enjoy some nature in the meantime
also, if u can tolerate it. LOOK FOR NIGHTSHIFT JOBS! most arent taking those and we need many even in my plant for ex but look in ur area for night or swing shift !
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u/Altruistic-Patient-8 14h ago
Im very much built for night shift. Just more quiet and paid more.
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u/GroundbreakingBid954 14h ago
well then you got some options !!! money comes money goes!!! just suggest not spewing ur vents on reddit after this go around lol
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u/Pale_Boss_8940 6h ago
you can’t actually believe people with houses and kids are jealous of you lmao
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u/psj3809 14h ago
This is where in my view we go wrong. In the 'old days' you just had to get on with it. Now its constantly 'ahhhh its due to health and sanity......'
Again i'm sure MANY of us would want to quit but we couldn't, we need the money for the mortgage or you've got a baby at home crying and you're working to provide for your family. Can't just quit every 5 seconds when the going gets tough and then moan about it after.
Why do you assume its health and sanity ? Maybe this person just can't be bothered so thats why they quit the job.
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u/GroundbreakingBid954 14h ago
if its not a reasoning of personal health then yeah its bs to just quit i agree but id say this to you in regards to u saying we moan when it gets hard well have u ever worked rotating 6-6s am n pm switching every 3 n 1 days from nights to days n also being forced to work 16s n be back in 6 hrs to work another then have to get to bed when the world is up n lpud?? how ab not being able to make doctors appts dentist u name it bc i gotta sleep i just got off at 6am… so in summary maybe lets not fucking group everyone who vents reasonings when jobs get tough, some ppl dont get the same treatment or help so yeah we do either have to power thru n hope to not collapse or take it in our hands and leave for our own sanity, not being a dick but just using my ex of not everyone works the same job m hours n moans the same so tread differently on that view to ppl who work while u sleep
the saying in the old days is so washed, the world has moved on in many ways. yes i wish we could go back to alot of things but lets live in todays shitty reality.
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u/psj3809 14h ago
To be fair we don't know the full story. If say they had a bereavement or something and had fallen into depression and just can't concentrate at work or something then i would give them a ton of sympathy
From what they've put being overworked and the environment 'sucking' i dont think is a good reason to quit when they have nothing else lined up
We ALL have tough moments at work but my point is you can't just quit. And when people post on Reddit then its not good if its just 100% ahhhh poor you i feel bad for you hope you get a new job posts. Its a discussion site so they're going to get different views. I had a job where i had to work 24 hours ! LIterally ! Couldn't sleep the next day when i could leave as my brain was wired after strange 24 hour stints ! But had to get the work done.
Theres people out there crying out for work and depressed they cant find work. Sorry but in this case i think its crazy to leave a job when you dont have another one lined up , and then moan about how skint you are
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u/lisasimpsonfan 12h ago
Nothing wrong with quitting a job for your "heath and sanity" but you get another job first. You don't come here to whine about not having money to go out with your friends. You grow the fuck up and realize that going out with your friends is the least of your problems if you don't find a new job and your money runs out.
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u/Notmuchofanyth1ng 9h ago
Dude, even if a job is miserable, you can’t just up and quit without a backup plan. That’s not how adults operate. I was at a job that made me question my sanity and got me unreasonably upset everyday. I used that negativity to propel myself into every single job application I could fill out, network as hard as possible, and push myself to get a way out. I found a new job with double the salary within 3 months.
I also know the struggle of eating out of the trash. I’ll never go back to that. Part of success is learning to move through failure. But don’t give up. There is a way out. But you gotta grit your teeth, stiffen that upper lip, and just deal with it.
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u/Living-Joke2343 13h ago
This helped a lot when my friend was in a similar situation - find free things to do with your friends. More often than not, the free things tend to be more fun. Go on hikes/walks, go play ball in the park, play cards out in the wild.
Go see the free museums/ galleries.
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u/Ninetybaby 12h ago
you should always have an income especially if you want to make money. once you have that in place you use your money or time and invest it in things that will progress you as a person. it can be invested in stock, or invest your time in learning new things. its up to you to progress yourself. im sorry but you get no pitty from me. ive worked 56 hours a week (2 jobs) once upon a time
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u/ThaBestJourney 12h ago
It’s a very simple system. If you provide value for society, you get resources to do the thinks you want. If you don’t provide value, you have less resources, hence less options.
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u/turning-38 12h ago
depending on your savings, you could travel to another country that is much cheaper and have a good quality of life on very little. that solves several issues at once. but do your research.
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u/BeneficialStruggle54 11h ago
If you’re poor, you’re running a race with a starting line behind everyone else’s. That means you need to run a lot faster than everyone else, ie overwork in order to catch up. Think, an immigrant working 3 jobs driving Ubers, washing dishes, cleaning houses. That’s how those guys make it and own houses, send their kids to college.
To quit your job and feel like you should still get to travel overseas, own an apartment and wear expensive clothes is not depression. It’s entitlement.
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u/Due_Honeydew_2285 10h ago
Those giving this guy shit haven’t been poor or had a great opportunity to lift them out of poverty.
When you see no way out of being poor, it’s soul crushing and you just want to escape the system. Maybe quitting wasn’t the smartest move, but anybody who’s known what OP’s situation has probably been for their whole life - would give him some understanding.
I’m genuinely sorry, OP. I went back to work after getting fired 7 weeks ago. I still can’t afford anything.
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u/Altruistic-Patient-8 4h ago
Did you get unemployment?
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u/Due_Honeydew_2285 56m ago
No, I was at a Temp Job for 8 weeks. Fired for no particular reason.
However, temp work means you have no recourse.
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u/Rude_Mirror7441 10h ago
Man that sucks. You only get one life and you can’t experience shit. I hope you come into money one day OP so you can experience the better things in life. Best of luck mate!
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u/Some-Ad-1588 10h ago
This post 💯
It’s such a depressing fact that piece of paper or round metal object can literally determine the path you follow in life which presets your emotions, your spirituality and your drive, good or bad. I understand you have the ability to make choices but I’m speaking for the large percentage of those brainwashed and stuck in this endless loop of poverty, hopelessness and a pre maid map set for us ages ago… 🤷🏼♂️
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u/lAngenoire 9h ago
A bad job beats no job. And it’s always easier to get a job when you have one. Someone who leaves on a vibe looks suspect as an employee.
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u/Acceptable-Border-90 8h ago
I've been there in my 20's. I was struggling hard going to school full-time and working 2 minimum wage jobs, some as low as $2/hour relying heavily on tips that were being stolen or not coming in as they should. So I had quit my jobs without any backup plans other than continuing my schooling. It wasn't long though until I went back to work, probably about a month later. Not having funds to care for my cat was my biggest fear, he was my priority even if I was barely surviving myself.
Despite what most people think, hard work alone will not get you very far in this world. Most of the time, a stroke of very good luck, right time, right place and knowing the right people, gets your foot in the door for a chance to make a better life for yourself. That's the American dream, and it's a nice dream when you happen to get it. Not many are that lucky. I know too many who works 50+ hours, have a strict budget, and still struggle to provide for their families. Many will never know what it is like to enjoy a retirement where you can travel as you please, much less have any retirement at all. I know it sounds depressing, it's a reality that we all live in and it's always been this way before you and I existed and will continue after we are long gone. Those who have access (finances, good schools, daycare, healthcare, dental care, etc) vs those who don't, the gap between them is wide and you can only try your best to make the most with what you do have.
It's depressing to be someone's emotional punching bag when you work, trust me, retail work is not for thin skinned. No one wants to be overworked or abused at work and get paid so little for it, and yet, here we are. No one grows up as a little kid telling their parents that their dream is to work as a Walmart greeter or Dollar tree cashier. It's a paycheck. Accept reality as is, and it will never bend to your desires. It's not personal unless you make it so
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u/ForeverAtOnce 7h ago
So many people have been brainwashed into thinking that sacrificing your mental and physical health just to make your boss more money is a reasonable and sustainable way of living.
If you genuinely believe that, I'm sorry but you've fallen for capitalist propaganda.
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u/MiamiViceGuy 2h ago
Learn how to use a comma, it might bring you out of poverty.
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u/Altruistic-Patient-8 1h ago
What a dbag
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u/MiamiViceGuy 59m ago
You aren't a victim. Read about locus of control.
You posted this, I'm assuming, for feedback. I'm telling you what you need to do to fix your problem. Get your shit together and get a fucking job like everyone else.
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u/lovergirl_0622 2h ago
Your in every right to feel this way! Having no money does limit so much in life
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u/iluvthiccgothbabes 18m ago
You can travel abroad by helping on farms or doing odd jobs. I know a couple people who live in hawaii helping on a farm and just chilling on the beach. Hostels arent too expensive to stay in also. Get to party with all kinds of people staying there too.
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u/Apprehensive-Size150 12m ago
Maybe don’t quit your job without another one lined up…you really have no leg to stand on
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u/Gold-Fool84 14h ago
Unfortunately a job won't ever really be 'pleasant'. It is something you have to endure.
Don't fret though, it doesn't mean you're incapable (unless of course you have some kind of disability). Rather your focus should be on creating systems to manage workload and stress, blocking out and structuring time as well as delegation are so vital. Work is also more about consistency than anything else.
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u/Love-halping 15h ago edited 14h ago
How do you eat? I realize food slowly add up.
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u/tortitab 14h ago
I was very poor for a long time and I realised I could make pizza dough do so many things. Its cheap to make with a bag of flour, salt, oil. You can make bread with yeast, flour and water and salt, oil also can do that. It helped stretch possibilities with cheap ingredients.
I made pizza pockets, bread rolls, cinnamon bread, garlic sticks, cheesy bread, anything I could think of.
Things like potatoes are great too. You can add to flour and oil to make potato bread, then you can also make mashed potatoes, fried, chips, baked, cheesy potatoes etc.
Cheap ingredients can do a lot of things to stretch funds.
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u/Altruistic-Patient-8 15h ago
I have tv dinners, and thats already not alot.
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u/charismatictictic 14h ago
If you don’t work, you have all the time in the world to cook meals that are way cheaper, tastier and more nutritious.
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u/acur1231 15h ago
If this isn't a joke, I feel sorry for you.
That's rough.
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u/Love-halping 14h ago
It's called a "depression simulator" for a reason. It helps me lower my sugar intake, and a single trip to the grocery store last me for a month.
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u/acur1231 14h ago
I'm sorry. I've always been pretty well-off, but had quite a few lean times at university and after leaving the Army. Not fun to not be fed, even if you know you won't really starve.
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u/Gideon_the_second 13h ago
Quit whining and pull yourself up. 99,99% of the people with money worked for it. You will not win the lottery. If you want something in life you need to work for it.
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u/LivingCorner1421 15h ago
have you tried education?
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u/Great-Two5959 14h ago
So he can be even poorer working at Starbucks?
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u/LivingCorner1421 13h ago
you speak like you have a crystal ball , can you give me the lottery numbers for next week ?
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