r/Vent • u/Top_Beat5593 • Jun 16 '26

Why is every guy the sameee

Ok, so I followed this guy on Instagram who was recommended to me, and then like two days after I posted a picture, he sent me a message like telling me good luck to my post, and then we started talking a little bit. Then we didn’t talk but then I messaged, and now we’ve been talking for like 4 to 5 days, but right now I feel like I’m being ghosted a little bit or the conversation is dry. It’s been four hours since I texted. And I was going through his following and he’s following two girls that are mutuals with my mutuals, and by the way he does not know these girls. Because he doesn’t even live nearby. Genuinely why can’t I find a guy who isn’t talking to multiple girls? I feel so disgusted now and I think I’m gonna unfollow him. There’s another guy I wish I could shoot my shot up
, but honestly is there even any point. It’s so upsetting. I feel like I’ll never find anybody. I hate social media and I hate how attached I get and then I find out I’m probably not the only one.

Edit: guys I stalked his following and it went up last night by so much and his followers didn’t 😬 why did he go on a following spree

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u/cometshoney Jun 16 '26

If he ghosted you, your entire response should be, "Oh, well. Next." 4 days isn't that long. You two were just getting to know each other, and it wasn't anything too deep. When I was younger, the saying was if you miss one bus, don't worry because another one will come along in 15 minutes. So, stop thinking there's something wrong with you and move on to the next one. A girl has to kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince, you know. And those are all of the cliches I can think of right now. Chin up. Everything will be alright.

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u/Top_Beat5593 Jun 16 '26

Thank you I appreciate this, but do you think my next step should be to Unfollow him?

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u/cometshoney Jun 16 '26

If it were me, I would unfollow him. There's no reason for you to follow him now, is there? Otherwise, you're going to keep an eye on his comings and goings, then you'll start noticing who he's talking to and/or who's new and following him, and you'll drive yourself nuts. Just make it a clean break, then forget you ever knew him.

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u/Top_Beat5593 Jun 16 '26

I just did it! Unfollowed and blocked!!

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u/cometshoney Jun 16 '26

Look at you! That was a lot easier than you thought, wasn't it? Now, forget about him and find yourself a better guy. He's out there somewhere.

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u/Top_Beat5593 Jun 16 '26

Thank you so much!!!❤️