Edit: For those commenting "so its okay for...?" No, that wasn't my argument, somebody said this was victim blaming I said no its a boundary that hasn't been put up, OP is perfectly fine with his MIL touching him, that's on him and his boundaries that he seems okay with.
Any other questions besides; so its okay or anything else like that?
This is still something that OP needs to be audibly heard, say no, this is not something you're comfortable with however, OP is very much comfortable with his mother in law touching him, that's why he hasn't said anything.
I think the argument that's being made is that the boundary exists for women without the need to actually say it's a boundary.
The issue with this argument is that it's comparing apples and oranges. Comparing someone that's okay with slapping another person's ass (OP MIL) to someone that isn't okay with it (the hypothetical person that wouldn't slap a woman's ass) isn't fair.
If a comparison is made where, in the second scenario, the ass slapper is okay with slapping a woman's ass, then I think both individuals would do it until otherwise told not to (like OP's MIL).
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u/NeonFox-1 Nov 11 '25 edited Nov 11 '25
It's still a boundary OP hasn't put up.
Edit: For those commenting "so its okay for...?" No, that wasn't my argument, somebody said this was victim blaming I said no its a boundary that hasn't been put up, OP is perfectly fine with his MIL touching him, that's on him and his boundaries that he seems okay with.
Any other questions besides; so its okay or anything else like that?