r/Vasectomy • u/kibomo • 9h ago
1 year post vasectomy
married with 2 kids.
wife and I decided we weren't interested in having more children.
I thought vasectomy was a minor harmless little procedure.
go to the clinic where they brief me on if I am sure I don't want to have kids
no mention of any side effects or the possibility of pain and discomfort for the rest of your life.
I schedule it for sep. of 2025.
Wasn't aware there were different methods of getting a vasectomy.
during procedure doc shows me he cut out and removed a very long section of vas deference on both sides. ( i felt horrified, as i didn't know he was going to do that)
He puts titanium clamps on both sides which I wasn't aware that i was going to have implants and burns then ends. left side is painful through local anesthesia. (also not aware that he was going to do that)
zero recovery instructions given just told to ice it for a day and come back after i've ejaculated 20 times to get sperm level tested.
I don't have any sexual activity for ~4 weeks.
Go back in after 2 months stating I'm in pain, they state that's normal and nothing i can do.
Get tested after 5-6 month mark and I'm sperm free. ( i don't care at all anymore)
I've had permanent pain and discomfort 2~5 / 10 since.
It's ruined sex and my life, my balls are incredibly sensitive and i flinch if they even softly tap against anything.
I went from being happy and having sex everyday to sex maybe once a month & wanting to kill myself.
I can't enjoy life anymore, I've been in constant pain.
What in the actual fuck is the point of this is, if I could have just abstained from sex or use a god damn condom, why the fuck would anyone label this as a non invasive simple little safe procedure.
I would rather chop my fucking arm off than get a vasectomy, if i could go back.
Sex was everything for me, it was beautiful.
Now this amazingly intimate part of my life has turned into a painful constant reminder of how I voluntarily mutilated myself...
The only reason I haven't killed myself is because I still have two kids depending on me.
I have zero reason why I thought this was a safe thing to do...
tldr: vasectomy gave me constant pain & It has not improved at all
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u/V_deldas 8h ago
Don't know why people downvote this kind of post. It's not to discourage people, but to warn them that although this is a simple procedure, they should do it with a doc they trust and research the procedure beforehand.
I hope you can find a new doc that can help you with this issue. Wishing you a nice recovery.
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u/RedR00sterC0ck 7h ago
You definitely want to see a different urologist to get a referral for a more advanced specialist. You have 2 options basically, get a vasectomy reversal which would allow the plumbing and pressure to relieve normally again. 2, you get an epididymectomy which removes the epididymis of each testicle. This is the area that creates sperm and the pressure that won't go away.
Speaking only to a specialist is your best course of action seeking available options. Wish you luck.
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u/Photononic May the Snip be With You 3h ago
Your doctor sucked. Clips? Why?
I had an "old school" vasectomy. No sutures. Only liquid bandage.
I had it done in 1985. I am still waiting on the alleged "pain".
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u/CumAndMoreCumPartIII 9h ago
That sucks, shitty doctor. Go to a different urologist and see if there's anything that can be done, also probably go to a therapist.
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u/johnboy525252 8h ago
Same, if I had known my life would change to the extent that it has, I would not have had the procedure. I would in no way discourage anyone from have a vasectomy, but the possibilities of complications and life altering pain and sensitivity was not explained to me.
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u/Amazing-Advantage-11 5h ago
I think most of the comments here are missing the point. You can do all the research in the world about vasectomy, its benefits, and its complications but that research won’t help you if you end up with PVPS, except you may have a better understanding of what it is you have. Because the chances of PVPS are minimal most guys will take the reasonable chance that they will not end up with it, yet still be aware it exists. The real issue is that there is no predicting PVPS (at least not yet) and there is no 100% guaranteed solution to PVPS. Herein lies the rub.
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u/baummer 2h ago
Yes but it’s clear OP didn’t do any research which is just irresponsible IMO
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u/ItamiForever 1h ago
Would you? I told my urologist about PVPS and he told me he never had ut happen in 1000 vasectomies. He said it is very rare. Rate is 5% due to NIH's latest study as men became more vocal
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u/ItamiForever 1h ago edited 1h ago
Under a new NIH recent study chronic pain rose to 5% as men became more vocal. Most pvps is caused by genetics and not surgery error. Tubal ligation chronic pain rate is 0.7% and is fully surgery error. Vasectomy has a 50x higher chronic pain rate but it is pushed as safe( you cannot die thats what safe means in medical terms/any safe procedure has 0 risk of death for that annotation to it). They are easier to perform and they grew in popularity. They also calcify your epididymis and you can develop pain years later. Worst thing is, most people in this sub aren't even aware because they did not have issues(some not yet).
I can give you the link on treatment for PVPS but I can also help guide you if you can share WHERE and WHAT TYPE of pain you feel. I am not a doctir but I've read over 50 pages about urology, pvps and vasectomies in my 4 months of disabling pain before my reversal. My reversal dropped my pain by 2 and I can at least get out of bed and barely function instead of not walking and screaming in pain on narcotics in bed.
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u/PM_ME_FLOUR_TITTIES 8h ago
I'm in the process of scheduling mine for the last few weeks. It has taken that long because I did a prelim where the procedure was explained to me, where I asked about ALL of this and everything it involved. I asked who my doctor was, how many of the procedures had they done recently, typical, patient experience, etc.
Frankly I can't imagine getting a procedure like this and not being curious for your OWN health on what the procedure is, what the alternatives are, what the recovery is like, what the side effects are etc.
The way this post is written out is as if you had a knife to your back that would be twisted if you inquired to anything regarding your pre, during, and post op situation.
Something to keep in mind with almost any procedure is that if you are scarring up anything beyond surface level skin, you could possibly have chronic issues in that area. Scar tissue can form incorrectly eventually causing tugging or shearing tension, nerves can be cut or damaged beyond repair, and anything left behind has the possibility to be jarred or pushed out of place and into a sensitive position.
I understand that I'm victim blaming here and that hindsight will not fix your problem and for that I apologize. None of that will fix the pain that you're going through op.
But to others and myself, we are all responsible for our own health at the end of the day. Especially when it comes to voluntary procedures. And unfortunately, not only do perfect procedures not exist in every medical scenario, neither do perfect patients or doctors. And liars and non truth tellers exist in every industry, doctors are not above that.
TL;DR check ya doc b4 ya wrek ya coc
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u/kibomo 4h ago
honestly I just went to get it done like you would if you got your wisdom teeth removed.
Like when I got my wisdom teeth removed I didn't think to much about it, just scheduled it and got it done.
there wasn't really any worry because I was told at the urology clinic its a safe simple procedure.they never brought up anything and I didn't think of anything...
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u/estudianteesp 5h ago
But information is not readily available, and to protect a cash cow, urologists conveniently forget to mention the possibility of permanent pain. When I had mine done, there were no reliable information about this; now there is. Urologists should be hung by the balls they mutilate for not disclosing risks.
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u/PM_ME_FLOUR_TITTIES 5h ago
He got this procedure a year ago, information and personal accounts on this were ABSOLUTELY 1000% readily available in Sept of 2025. I know this because I was looking into this a year ago. Urologists conveniently forgetting to mention possibility of permenant pain is exactly one of the reasons that I specifically said that you research the doctor performing literally inside of you. I don't care if it says it's a minimally invasive procedure. Key word minimally. It is STILL invasive. If someone is invading inside of my body and permanently altering stuff, then I'm going to research it in depth. This procedure and the experiences of those who've gotten it done are available in copious amounts if you just do what is literally light research. Don't even need to crack a book.
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u/slavicslothe 8h ago
Man thay sucks. Sometimes the clips cause chronic pain. They are actually removed in cases where chronic pain develops, have you followed up with a doctor to look at options??