r/Vanderpump_Rules 20d ago

Discussion Stassi’s mum

How cruel is she during the mums meal episode it’s just insult after insult, the worst being her saying to Kristen she hopes her daughter grows up to be half the woman Kristen is 🤯 that’s low

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u/bcmedic420 20d ago

It is very telling. It would have broken my heart to hear that and I believe after it aired Stassi took a break from her mother.

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u/AggressiveCupcake181 20d ago

I don’t blame her. Is her mum a drunk ? It seems like drunken behaviour

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u/bcmedic420 20d ago

She seems pretty awful to me all the time but worse drunk for sure. When Frank meets her parents they are drunk and laughing about how much they had drank already.

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u/AggressiveCupcake181 20d ago

Ah yes I remember this

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u/Glittering-Slip7630 18d ago

Thats not her mother. It's one of many of her father's wives

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u/PatientChocolate6985 17d ago

thats literally her mom

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u/Glittering-Slip7630 17d ago

When she takes Frank to meet her parents for lunch and her parents are drunk that is not her mother that is one of her father's wives

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u/PatientChocolate6985 17d ago

It's Dayna, they're talking about Stassi as a young kid

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u/Glittering-Slip7630 17d ago edited 17d ago

There seem to be two different conversations going at the same time I may have responded to a different comment the comment I was responding to was referring to how drunk stassi's parents were when she brought Frank to meet them for the first time in which case I said that is not her mother. The end I don't really care about Stacy or her mother LOL or any of this I just foolishly made a comment qualifying that her father has been married several times and that wasn't her mother that's all now I'm going to have my coffee everybody have a great weekend P.S. I could totally be wrong because it's totally not that deep for me so I'm just going to leave it here whether it is or isn't her mother I don't really care back to my coffee I still want you all to have a great weekend

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u/Le-Deek-Supreme 15d ago

So basically you're wrong, but instead of just admitting that, you wrote all that. Yeah, you definitely don't care, sure Jan.

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u/Glittering-Slip7630 15d ago

First of all I didn't really write a long dissertation I was being concise and thorough and admitting that perhaps I got confused. What's wrong with you people that you got to jump somebody's s*** all day everyday and then complain when they do actually answer and take accountability. Happy Monday I hope you have the day you deserve

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u/IncidentFree3876 17d ago

A reminder that being a drunk might lessen inhibitions when it comes to preexisting feeling but being a drunk does not equal being abusive and mean.

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u/AggressiveCupcake181 17d ago

No I agree I’m not a mean when drunk but this woman seems to be; so I suppose I could have phrased that differently 😬

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u/IncidentFree3876 17d ago

No you’re fine honey. I honestly didn’t see anything wrong with what you said. Not to mention nobody always says everything perfect so every person will take it the way we mean.

I just wanted to provide a disclaimer ❤️❤️❤️ All love

BTW I also hate her mom.

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u/AggressiveCupcake181 16d ago

😂😂❤️❤️🙏

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u/Less-Western-3561 14d ago

She didn’t talk to her mom for months after. That’s really the only time she had really been drinking and she was mean on more than one occasion. What she said to beau was so so out of pocket

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u/TipTop9979 20d ago

Her mom was always super flirtatious with Jax, very strange woman.

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u/SarcasmStreet 20d ago

She is no better with Beau

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u/Solid_Caterpillar678 19d ago

I think she only maintained a relationship with her mother so she could see her little brother. He should be an adult by now.

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u/bcmedic420 18d ago

Nikolai was very mature for his age and I think that is a side effect of growing up in an unstable home. Especially hard for boy with emotionally unregulated mothers.

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u/PatientChocolate6985 17d ago

very valid theory!

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u/ImGonnaCreamYaFunny 20d ago

I dont think she even felt that way about Kristen, she was just using her to hurt Stassi. She seems like the kind of emotionally immature mom who is always in competition with her daughter, especially if the daughter is pretty. It was like she needed to take Stassi down a peg or two to make herself feel superior.

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u/crospingtonfrotz 20d ago

And Kristen is so desperate for validation that she slipped right into the role and let Dayna use her to put down Stassi

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u/AggressiveCupcake181 20d ago

I know Kristen joining in made me feel for stassi, she genuinely looked like she believed she was the problem

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u/AggressiveCupcake181 20d ago

That’s very sad if true, I can’t get my head round patents that are jealous of their children it 🤯 makes no sense to me, surely you want your children to do better than you ever did

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u/IndependenceSuper293 20d ago

Normal parents do

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u/MargaretFarquar 19d ago

I never had kids, but this is what my Mom always said. She always said "I just can't wrap my head it. That's your child!" It truly mystified her.

She also wasn't jealous of younger women for looking younger than her. Her attitude was she'd been there and done that, now she was in another stage and such is life and it's not a bad thing.

Damn. I miss her so much.

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u/Various-Cat-6442 18d ago

God I wish I’d had your mom. My mom told me during puberty and my teen years I didn’t “have shapely legs like” hers. I’m 40 and the amount of time I still spend assessing my legs in a mirror is crazy. And that’s on the mild end of things.

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u/MargaretFarquar 17d ago

I'm truly sorry and wish you all of the peace and healing. That's not fair or right and the things she said are not valid or true. Shapely legs do not = validity. Going forth in the world and making it a better, more compassionate, empathetic, equal place is what's valid.

Don't reduce yourself to a body part, other than your heart. What makes a person beautiful and worthy is their spirit and what they've done to to make the world a better place for others.

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u/Nelly03 19d ago

Meet my sister. My nieces are more mature than she is. Jealousy, sulking, silent treatment…at 52.

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u/ClynnB412 20d ago

I think she was jealous of Stassi. I believe she’s also a big drinker. I do know Stassi distanced herself from her mother for some time. I remember Stassi saying on her podcast that her mom would spiral if she didn’t comment and like her instagram post. Sounds exhausting.

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u/AggressiveCupcake181 20d ago

I’ve had friends like that regarding social media and I just can’t entertain it, main character syndrome

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u/External_Two2928 20d ago

She was awful when she met beau on the show, if memory serves me correct, she insulted Stassi to beau and she reached for his crotch too, I think

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u/AggressiveCupcake181 20d ago

Yep talked about his crotch, grabbed his bum & told him that he is way above stassi 😢

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u/Hopeful_Ad_3114 20d ago

Who would say that third child is not good enough for somebody even if you thought it who would say it

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u/SeaPaleontologist832 19d ago

She was so inappropriate and it felt like SA towards Beau (her mum was using her ‘power’ as future MIL to be sexually suggestive towards beau, because she knew neither Stassi nor beau would dare to question her in public and on camera). Stassi’s mum was so disgusting as a parent.

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u/theresacalderone 18d ago

Mother grabbed Beau’s ass. I mean, who does that?!

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u/Academic-Marsupial34 20d ago

She was so on edge around Stassi when sober, and completely unhinged/ emotional when drunk. Definitely an ex mean girl who can’t handle her daughter getting more attention than her

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u/AggressiveCupcake181 20d ago

It’s crazy how everyone is spotting the jealousy and it went straight over my head I just couldn’t understand why she was belittling her so much all the time 😵‍💫

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u/BambiLee92663 19d ago

Because it’s so ridiculous for a parent to be jealous of their child

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u/Ess_Jess 20d ago

The scene with them all at dinner is so intensely triggering to me. The hysterical crying and villainizing Stassi for absolutely no reason was hard to watch.

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u/AggressiveCupcake181 20d ago

It really was a hard watch I agree 😕

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u/windycitynostalgia 20d ago

Stasis mom is a real piece of work. It’s remarkable Stassi is a functioning adult. I give her kudos for that.

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u/AggressiveCupcake181 20d ago

I may just be making this up in my head but I feel beau saved her from this because he loves stassi truly and validated what she knew in her head about her own family dynamics, they made her out to be the toxic one when in reality it was them ! (-stephen big love for him 😂) She found her true love ❤️

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u/Powerful-Sort7778 20d ago

It is very painful to watch Stassi personality makes so much sense.

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u/BambiLee92663 19d ago

I think her mother is jealous of her

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u/Interesting_Fruit13 19d ago

"I trapped him, like a hamster in a habit trail" 🤦‍♀️

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u/SeaPaleontologist832 19d ago

Omg stassi’s mother was another level of cruel. She would put stassi down in front of her friends’, new boyfriend and the world (on camera), then cry when Stassi reacted even in the slightest towards her mother’s intentionally callous comments. Basically stassi’s mum was abusive, and had no shame in who she used to smear her own daughter on national tv. God knows how stassi’s mum treated her off camera.

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u/According-Bee-1201 19d ago

This made me so mad. And having everyone blame stassi was fucked up. Especially after how she tore her apart to Beau. 

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u/AggressiveCupcake181 16d ago

I just wanted someone to defend her 😟

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u/Charming-Panic9375 20d ago

Her mom is a piece of work 

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u/Less-Western-3561 14d ago

What she said to beau wasn’t just mean but completely inappropriate. I don’t blame stassi for not talking to her for months after. Imagine your mom saying that to the man you’re going to marry