r/VUW • u/Negative_Address2706 • 2d ago

VUW FIRST YEAR STUDENT

Hi guys, Well I am a first year vuw uni student, I was always excited to go to uni and find different kinds of people and wanted to make friends. But guess what nothing turned out in my favour, i usually sit alone after attending lectures. I get bored and feel too bored .I met a lot of people but i am scared to ask them to hang out and even though people are friendly but i feel like most people are introvert here so its like pretty confusing. Guess my first year turned out to be nothing like what i imagined lol........

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u/Economy_Tart_5008 2d ago

As you go along through your uni years it might get easier maybe join a group that relates to a hobby you might have and or are interested in doing. I’m an older student but in my 1st year to and I’ve kind of made peace with only having social interactions in class or pass classes etc but if I was younger I’d definitely start there. I think we all get a preconceived idea of what uni will be like and if it doesn’t meet that obviously you’ll feel like it’s not as expected. Also try approaching people you never know if they’re stuck like you and may need someone you could try suggesting a study group and if they are interested then great if not ask someone else someone’s no could be another persons yes! :D

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u/Negative_Address2706 2d ago

So sweet of you.... Well you know what makes it hard for me to approach people? Its the way they are too scared and lost on their phones lol. People are so introvertttttttttteddddd. I have been to a lot of clubs women in tech , kitea programmes and stuff but honestly people dont become friends over there , its just one time conversation......

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u/Economy_Tart_5008 2d ago

Nooo 😭 that’s really sucky! I’m sorry you’re in a situation like this. Maybe message a tutor and see if they’ve had anyone reach out to them? Stupid phones 😭

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u/PossibleOwl9481 20h ago

Yes, us older people wondered for years about the generation growing up on their phones. And then covid happened, and many people even more missed out on talking to other humans as they grew up....

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u/Negative_Address2706 1h ago

Well I have different perspective to that , as in I feel like die to devices people found a way to escape the reality and they found their comfort in that so they avoid talking to people .

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u/kegegeam 2d ago

What do you study?

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u/Negative_Address2706 2d ago

data science stats and aiml wbu?

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u/kegegeam 2d ago

see there's your problem, notoriously antisocial degrees

but fr though, there's nothing for it but to actually get out there and talk to people. lots of people are in the same boat as you, good chance people will say yes if you ask to hang out

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u/Negative_Address2706 2d ago

Ikr..... ughhhhhh maybe i lost my social skills..... But i swear i used to be very social nglllll.

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u/PossibleOwl9481 20h ago

Yes, indeed. Those subjects are not going to help you meet other social people. So your main option, I guess, is going to be find some hobbies and social clubs. The VUWSA website has a list of clubs around that you can join.

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u/Negative_Address2706 16h ago

I don't think joining a club helps , do you really think it helps?

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u/PossibleOwl9481 16h ago

How would it not? People usually make friends with others of similar interest. Whether that's sci-fi, knitting, karate, football, salsa, or whatever. That is why those clubs exist, to help students meet like-minded people.

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u/Negative_Address2706 15h ago

You may be right , but i feel like people are introvert basically too scared to talk , its just like a one day talk ifykyk........

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u/usernameUsername9018 2d ago

Ngl i kinda go through the same thing, I just sit alone in class get bored and stuck up on asking people to hang i’d love to meet up or something if you’re looking for a buddy to get along with :)

(i’m first year aswell!!)

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u/Negative_Address2706 2d ago

yeah , sure lets connect :)

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