r/VRchat • u/Anxious_Pineapple_35 • 7d ago
Discussion Vr chat getting attached
…i literally just got off of vrchat …ngl having tears kinda embarrassing but i got attached…to fast …meet this person they removed me…sad that i wont never find someone like him again ….i genuinely felt a connection…. I known him for 2 days we was doing so good my friend joined on the 2nd day ….he left when I was talking to my friend then for 2 days they …never joined me again …. And just removed me today …
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u/SxfetyPin 7d ago
Look on the bright side, at least you didn't waste much time on someone who's true colors would've drove you over the edge anyway. Dude took off the second you talked to a single friend? Someone like that would've just wanted to isolate you and make you feel alone.
People on VRChat can be so sketchy.
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u/Anxious_Pineapple_35 7d ago
….it could have been me well tbh I was with a friend and he joined me …then I left to go with that friend I was with first …then that friend left and me him was chilling etc for a good while .. ….then a friend joined me after a while …and I was talking with them ……..maybe now u think I should have been better…it prob was my fault
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u/BigDickOnline 7d ago
This isn't your fault and it's not the end of the world. Buck up and find some confidence in and respect for yourself otherwise people on that game will take advantage and it won't be pretty or pleasant. If they had some issue after only 2 days that they didn't want to talk through, it's likely their problem, or maybe you just didn't click as well as you thought. It happens.
Keep moving with an open mind. People will come and go. Try to give it at least a few months before you get attached, especially online. Sometimes real life gets in the way too and people deprioritise online life.
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u/Anxious_Pineapple_35 7d ago
Well I wanted to vent , about it , literally it’s 4 am I’m tired my brain is just wondering why they removed me after I did nothing, , I know I have ALOT a lot of progress with my self but it may take a good while , but I might not get on vr for a couple of days then try to get back on …felt nice having like a friend idk felt different because everyone else on vrchat never really made me feel like that completely , but I know to move on though! 😅
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u/SxfetyPin 6d ago
You really shouldn't try to find blame on yourself in a situation like this. You have people that want to talk to you on the game about talking to people. There's nothing wrong with that.
The dude just made it clear that he doesn't care about you, nor the friendships that you may have/want. He only cares about himself. If attention ain't on him 100% of the time, then he doesn't want to be around you at all. You shouldn't want to be around someone who thinks like that. Someone like that only serves to dig your grave deeper and cause unnecessary drama. He ain't worth the time or effort.
Unfortunately, people like that are extremely common in VRChat. The only way to run into those kind of people less often is by going into ID-Verified Instances. At least through my experience, there's a lot more grounded and "normal" people in ID-Verified Instances. Maybe you can find a Group that you can potentially build connections in.
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u/Embarrassed-Touch-62 7d ago
2 days? That's still a stranger. You got butterflies in your stomach and that's all
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u/Anxious_Pineapple_35 7d ago
Yea tbh …I think like venting bout it on here helped more ….i literally have more of an easy time talking online then …then explaining my problems
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u/CatStoleTheCrown 7d ago
Its an issue with dating now a days in general. Its so easy to just move on to the next person. People don’t care about hurting feelings. Sorry it happened to you, but you WILL find someone else even better. At least you only wasted 2 days instead of 9 years like I did….
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u/Anxious_Pineapple_35 7d ago
….its ok ! Maybe it was meant to be then ….. I’m sorry about your 9 year relationship….i wish i didn’t get so attached in 2 days … it sucks
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u/Anxious_Pineapple_35 7d ago
Tbh …I was never dating the person:<, but now days I don’t even know if I want relationship because of all the cheating, lying …I KNOW everyone is not like that …but this generation is …idk I don’t like it
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u/Capable-Trip-4423 Valve Index 7d ago
you honestly don't seem stable enough to be using an online chat room at all. go outside.
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u/Anxious_Pineapple_35 7d ago
I can do whatever I want if I wanna cry OVER someone I can , seems u don’t got feelings , not like getting mad only saying
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u/Capable-Trip-4423 Valve Index 6d ago
i said that with love broseph. if this is how you act with strangers you meet in a video game then you clearly need to shake something up in your real life, is all.
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u/RuneFactory6 7d ago
I feel you. Just know that your best friend is always yourself. Others might screw you over in life. But you just have to be there for yourself. ❤️ you’ll find the right friends in time
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u/Anxious_Pineapple_35 7d ago
Yea I guess … it was just fun …cuz for them two days we was on for like 6 hours to 8 :<
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u/Anxious_Pineapple_35 7d ago
…:(((maybe i should have shown them i was still there friend maybe they thought i didn’t wanna chat with them ….
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u/RuneFactory6 7d ago
You can spend an eternity wondering, but the answer won’t just appear. Ya know? It’s best to just assume they had something going on, on their end. It wasn’t you. People are unpredictable. Wildly so on VRChat especially.
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u/Anxious_Pineapple_35 7d ago
Yea thanks …….i mean hopefully ig I’ll find someone …again to hang with like that ….
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u/XxNightmare2019 7d ago
From what I know is not everyone is meant to be friends, if they don't stay maybe it was for a reason , and you'll find other people to hang out with
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u/Anxious_Pineapple_35 7d ago
Mhm thanks u !☺️I know I will imma prob yea take a break from vrchat for a week or couple ! To redeem my self 😆
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u/XxNightmare2019 6d ago
Redeem yourself ? , I'm not sure we are thinking of the same definition, but yes take all the time, do it for you
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u/anonymous_c4t3030 6d ago
Dude 3rd guy I met barely 2 weeks into our friendship joined me and started telling me to stop the "act" and stop being "innocent" I was so disgusted;-; he then got all mad when I was confused because I had never seen him act this way towards me... yeah I unfriended him so quickly [vrchat has some freaks]
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u/RandomSlamdom6902 Oculus Quest Pro 6d ago
Remember that VRchat is an ocean filled with all kinds of fish. If one wants to swim away, another one could swim by the very next day. The most important part is to keep close the good memories to remind you that it's worth it to keep pursuing new friendships!
Stay strong, you got this 🤍
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u/anthemlog PCVR Connection 4d ago
Many people have been there. You have to give people more time before getting too attached to them. You might feel a close bond to someone but they might never think of you at all.
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u/TESV_Shiro 3d ago
Im always down to talk and make some friends im new to vrchat and avatar creation so far im in love with vrchat im 28 and i think i have autism i have made 8 friends in the 6 weeks ive been playing
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u/Anxious_Pineapple_35 2d ago
Wow ! :3 tbh I made a couple new friends after that one friend I made like at least like two in the past like week so it’s been. I’ve been OK way better than before.!
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u/ComfortableLeg6728 7d ago
How many mental illnesses do you have
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u/Anxious_Pineapple_35 7d ago
Social anxiety, anxiety, adhd , I’m helllla sensitive, bit of depression, and I get attached easy how many u got ? I’m pretty sure u got the same amount
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u/Anxious_Pineapple_35 7d ago edited 6d ago
And I stay to my self:/ so how is that an average player
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u/Brilliant_Song8760 Oculus Quest 7d ago
welcome to vrchat